The Everything Orgasm Book (26 page)

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are inserted into your anus and simply left there while you continue on with other forms of erotic stimulation. They come in different shapes and sizes, but all should have a flared base to prevent them from getting sucked inside of the rectum. They are typically very narrow just above the base so that the anal sphincter muscle can contract around it and hold it in place inside of you. They then thicken in the middle to ensure a sense of fullness, and narrow at the top to assist in insertion. There are many variations of butt plugs, including vibrating butt plugs, ridged butt plugs, and even inflating butt plugs.

Anal Beads

Anal beads are round, smooth beads strung together on nylon, silicone, or cotton cords. To use them, lubricate each bead and insert them into the anus prior to orgasm. Then pull them out at the time of orgasm. The contractions around each bead as the strand is pulled out can intensify the experience of orgasm. Nylon or silicone cords are best because you can clean them. The cotton cords are for one-time use only.

Anal Probes

An anal probe is a device that you use in the anus for a more active experience. They are generally slender, with some kind of ball shape on the insertion end. On the other end they have a handle, enabling you to maneuver the device easily. Move the probe in and out or in any pattern of movement that works for you. There are many variations of anal probes, including vibrating probes and beaded probes, which can function like an anal bead string, when you pull it out at the time of orgasm.

Some toys are made for men, although some of these may greatly benefit female partners as well. Some are designed to enhance a man's pleasure and some are designed to help men provide pleasure to their partners. Not every toy is going to sound or be appealing to every man. Don't get caught in the trap of thinking you need to try or have every device that's ever been made for sexual pleasure. If everything is working great as is, why bother with more stuff? Only choose items that sound appealing to you.

Cock Rings

Cock rings are devices — usually made of leather, metal, or rubber — placed around the base of the penis or around both testicles and the base of the penis, primarily to help maintain a firmer and longer lasting erection. They do this by restricting the blood flow out of the penis. Some men also like them for the unique sensations they help create during arousal and orgasm.

Because you put a cock ring on when you are still soft, there is a little danger that when you become hard, the pressure around the base of your penis will be too much, so it is important to know your girth and get the right size for you, especially if the cock ring you choose is not stretchy or adjustable.

Ball Spreaders

Ball spreaders are a variation of a cock ring that lifts and separates the testicles or stretches the scrotum, providing unique sensations by gently pulling, stretching, and teasing the testicles. These devices are primarily made of leather with metal fasteners. You can also find a version that includes weights to create a heavier pulling sensation on the testicles. Some men find this to be very pleasurable, intensifying their orgasms.

Vagina Simulators

Vagina simulators are devices, either homemade or store bought, which are made to feel like a vagina. They are intended to replicate the sensations of penetration better than just using your hand. There are an infinite number of ways to create your own at home. A plastic baggie filled with lubricant is a simple version of a homemade one. To get some ideas, simply do a web search. You can also purchase vagina simulators that are made of soft material, such as cyber skin. Although they are definitely not the real thing, they come closer than you might imagine. You can even purchase vagina simulators that are built into a life-like mold of a woman's behind.

Penis Pumps

Penis pumps are used to manually pump more blood into the erectile tissue of the penis, helping to create a larger, firmer erection. They work by suction, or siphoning out the air around the penis, and are only intended to help men get and maintain an erection temporarily. They do not have any lasting effects, although some companies like to claim they do. To help maintain your erection using a penis pump, you may also want to use a cock ring, which will keep the blood from flowing out. When choosing a penis pump, it is best to go with a higher end model.

Penis Extensions and Thickeners

You heard it right. Sometimes called penis sleeves, these devices are hollow and attach directly to your penis to either thicken or lengthen it, or assist with intercourse if you have difficulty with erection. They are made from a variety of materials, including cyber skin, latex, and silicone. Some even come with vibrators attached for added pleasure. If you have difficulty maintaining an erection, there are some that can be attached to a strap or a harness to help keep them in place.

In addition to dildos and vibrators, there are several other sex aids specifically for women. These include clitoral or vaginal pumps, Kegel exercisers, and ben-wa and duo-tone balls. Each of these is designed to help you with your enjoyment of arousal and orgasm.

Clitoral or Vaginal Pump

A clitoral or vaginal pump is a device used to manually pump more blood, through suction, into the labia and/or clitoris. It is the female version of the penis pump. It has the potential to increase the intensity of your orgasms. Some come with vibrators, although some women find the combination to be too intense. Be cautious when using these. Follow the directions that come with the product and don't overdo it.

Kegel Exercisers

Kegel exercisers are devices designed specifically to exercise your pelvic floor muscles. In general, you insert them into your vagina and lift, squeeze, and hold before releasing. They come in a variety of forms, made of a variety of materials, including stainless steel and plastic. Some have adjustable resistance, and you can even find some that include a biofeedback device, enabling you to see just how much pressure you are exerting. There are also small vaginal weights that you use to tone your vaginal muscles by gradually increasing the amount of weight you insert.