Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch (37 page)

Peace in Everyday Relationships

(Alson and Burnett), 82

peaking, 130–148; by changing the stroke, 142; and control, 142–143;

defined,
xi
; before ejaculation, 145–147; between peaks, 141–142; slowing down, 131–133; in a trained woman, 121, 124; train-

ing, 144–145; ways of, 139–141 penis, squeezing of, 97–99 performance anxiety, 12, 74, 76

pheromones, 17

Playboy
, 147

playfulness, 75, 83, 99

pleasure: giving and receiving, 59– 60; giving to a trained woman, 121–129; giving to an untrained woman, 111–120; importance of, 5–7; and slowness, 131–133

pleasure training, 49–66; asking for what you want, 64–65; giving and receiving pleasure, 59–60; inheriting information, 50–51;

mind/body connection, 65–66; talking while pleasuring a man, 63–64; training your partner to give you pleasure, 52–55; training your partner to receive pleasure, 55–59

point-and-feel orgasm, 73–74

pornography, 30

positions for manual stimulation, 113–115, 125–126

practice, importance of, 21 premature ejaculation, 10

pressure, applying, 92, 118–120

pubic hair, 116–117

pulling, 92

push outs, 88

Q

questions to ask about pleasure, 56– 58

R

receptivity, 25–26

reciprocity, 68–69

religious conditioning, and attitudes toward pleasure, 15

resistances, and pleasure, 68, 86–90; and control, 110–111; excessive ap- preciation, 87–88; fast breathing, 88; how to handle, 79–80; as psy- chological problem, 89; shaking, 88; too many requests for change, 87; too-sensitive clitoris, 88–89; in an untrained woman, 115–116

response, differences in men and women, 17–18

role playing, 158

S

scrotum, 98

self-assuredness, 77

self-image, 39–40

self-pleasure, 24–48; applying lubri- cant, 44–45; focusing attention, 26–27; and peaking, 147–148; re-

ceptivity, 25–26; single-stroke

masturbation, 45–47 sensation, awareness of, 25–26 shower, touching yourself in, 28 single-stroke masturbation, 45–47 slowing down pleasure, 131–133

Slowness
(Kundera), 131

space, arranging for pleasure, 39, 69

stretching, 92

stroking, 127–128; for ejaculation, 161–162; graduating to more strokes, 75–76; one at a time, 75; steady, 46–47; for a trained

woman, 124–125

surround stroke, 127–128

T

tactile inventory, 40–41

talking: and the importance of ac- knowledging pleasure, 50–51,

53–54; to extend peaks, 136–137; while pleasuring a man, 63–64

tensing up, and pleasure, 9–10 therapy, marital, 83

To Bed or Not to Bed
(Bodansky), 77,

116, 154–155, 163, 168

touches, pleasurable, 116–118; expos- ing the clitoris, 93–95; placement of the second hand, 107–108; pressure on the lower abdomen, 95; pressure on the vulva, 95–96; pulling, stretching, and applying pressure, 92; retracting the clito- ral hood, 104–107; squeezing the penis, 97–99; stroking the lower clitoris, 107

touching techniques, 78–79
. See also

touches, pleasurable

touching yourself, 27–41; in the bed- room, 30–31; for men, 31–32; setting up your space, 39; tac- tile inventory, 40–41; in the tub or shower, 28; using fantasy, 29; visual inventory, 39–40; with a

water hose, 28–29; for women, 32–36; with your hand, 30

tumescence,
xi,
109, 147, 160

turn-on: defined,
xi
; resistances to,

79–80, women as source of, 8, 17

V

vagina: and the G-spot, 169; insert- ing fingers into, 88, 108

vaginal orgasm, 19

Vaseline, 38

verbally acknowledging pleasure, importance of, 54, 69–71, 72

vibrator, 28, 111, 167

visual inventory of your body, 39–40 visualization, 29, 30, 163

vulva, pressure on, 95–97

W

water hose, touching yourself with, 28–29

women: and capacity for self-gen- erated pleasure, 17; in dominant role, 157–158; and the influence of erotic language, 22–23; and masturbation, 41–42; and poten- tial for instant orgasm, 9; as the source of turn-on, 8, 17

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