You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother (23 page)

Collarbone:
I just can’t feel comfortable with being wrong.

Underarm
: It just feels too intimidating to consider being wrong.

Thumb:
I have this tension in my body at the thought of being wrong.

Index Finger:
It’s not safe to be wrong.

Middle Finger
: It’s just not safe for me to be wrong.

Ring Finger:
I feel so ashamed at being wrong.

Little Finger:
It’s not safe for me to be wrong.

Karate Chop:
Even though it doesn’t feel safe to be wrong, I’d like to consider the possibility that it is safe.

Even though I’m scared to be wrong, maybe I could allow myself to be comfortable with it.

Even though it’s scary and threatening and intimidating to be wrong, maybe I could release and let go those feelings.

Even though it’s scary to be wrong, maybe I could choose to know it’s okay to be wrong, and being wrong is just about new

information … and that’s okay.

Inner Eye:
I’m telling my body now that it’s okay to be wrong.

Outer Eye:
Being wrong means nothing about me as a person.

Under Eye:
It just means I had wrong, or missing, information.

Nose:
Every time I find out I was wrong about something, it’s a cause for celebration.

Chin:
It means I get a more accurate picture of reality.

Collarbone:
It means I can grow and develop as a person.

Underarm:
It means I can correct errors.

Thumb:
I’d like to be really happy when I discover I’m wrong about something, and feel really comfortable with it.

Index Finger:
It is no reflection on me as a person. It just means I had wrong, or missing, information.

Middle Finger:
I choose to be totally comfortable with being wrong.

Ring Finger:
I choose to know it’s perfectly safe to be wrong.

Little Finger:
I choose to know being wrong just means I now have more, or better, information

Karate Chop:
I choose to know it’s completely safe for me to discover I am wrong.

I choose to know it’s completely safe for me to discover I am wrong.

I choose to know it’s completely safe for me to discover I am wrong.

I now choose to know, with complete certainty, that it’s safe for me to discover I was wrong about something.

Inner Eye:
It is no reflection on me as a person. It just means I have new or better information now.

Outer Eye:
It’s actually safer to discover I was wrong, because then I can correct the error.

Under Eye:
I choose to feel joy in being wrong, because each time I discover I’m wrong, is the opportunity for more clarity and a better life.

Nose:
Being wrong is simply correcting mistakes. There is nothing to be scared of at all.

Chin:
It’s like changing out of old dirty clothes into new clean ones.

The real me is the person wearing the clothes and is unchanged.

Collarbone:
I know my narcissistic mother taught me it wasn’t safe to be wrong – but that was wrong information and I know it now.

Underarm:
I was wrong about being wrong.

Thumb:
Being wrong about being wrong is the first thing I celebrate being wrong about!

Index Finger:
It’s totally safe to find out I was wrong about something.

Middle Finger:
I now choose to know, with complete certainty, that it’s safe for me to discover I was wrong about something.

Ring Finger:
It is no reflection on me as a person. It just means I have new or better information now.

Little Finger:
It’s actually safer to discover I was wrong, because then I can correct the error.

Karate Chop:
I choose to feel joy in being wrong, because each time I discover I’m wrong, is the opportunity for more clarity and a better life.

TAP AWAY THE BLOCKS TO HEALING

Karate Chop:
Even though I have some blocks to healing this issue I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have some blocks to healing this issue I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have some blocks to healing this issue I love and accept myself anyway.

Inner Eye:
I have some blocks to healing this issue.

Outer Eye:
Something is blocking me from healing.

Under Eye
: Some part of me feels it’s not right to heal.

Nose:
Some part of me doesn’t want to heal.

Chin:
I have blocks to healing this issue.

Collarbone:
It’s not safe to heal this issue.

Underarm:
Part of me believes it’s not safe to heal this issue.

Thumb:
I have blocks to healing this issue.

Index Finger:
Maybe it’s not safe to heal the issue.

Middle Finger:
Maybe I don’t deserve to heal this issue.

Ring Finger:
Whatever is going on for me it’s causing a block to healing this issue.

Little Finger
: I have blocks to healing this issue.

Karate Chop:
Even though part of me believes that it’s not right to heal this issue, or not safe to heal this issue, or I don’t deserve to heal this issue, or some other reason to hang onto this issue, I choose to reassure this part of me now.

Even though part of me believes that it’s not right to get over this issue, maybe it’s not safe to get over the issue, I won’t know who I’ll be without this issue, or I don’t deserve to get over the issue, or it’s not safe to get over the issue, or maybe some other block I can’t even think of, but I need to hang onto this issue, I choose to reassure this part now that it’s okay to let go of the issue. It is safe to release the issue. I do deserve to heal the issue. I’ll still be me once I’ve healed the issue. It’s okay to release the issue.

Inner Eye:
These blocks to releasing the issue.

Outer Eye:
It’s not safe to release the issue.

Under Eye:
I don’t deserve to heal from this issue.

Nose:
All these blocks to healing from this issue.

Chin:
Everything that’s stopping me from healing from this issue.

Collarbone:
All the blocks that are stopping me from healing.

Underarm:
Maybe I don’t feel I deserve to heal from this issue. Maybe it doesn’t feel safe to heal from this issue. Whatever is going on in my subconscious that stops me healing from this issue.

Thumb:
All these blocks to healing the issue.

Index Finger:
Part of me needs to hang onto this issue.

Middle Finger:
Part of me feels it’s not safe to let go of the issue.

Ring Finger:
It’s not safe to release this issue.

Little Finger:
It’s just not safe to let go of the issue.

Karate Chop:
But I choose to know that it is safe to heal the issue.

Inner Eye:
It is safe to heal this issue.

Outer Eye:
I choose to know that it is completely safe to heal this issue.

Under Eye:
I choose to reassure the part of me that it’s okay to start healing it now.

Nose:
I do deserve to heal from this issue.

Chin:
It’s okay to let this issue go.

Collarbone:
It’s safe to heal from this issue.

Underarm:
I choose to let it be okay to let this issue go now, and to heal from this issue.

Thumb:
It is safe to heal from the issue.

Index Finger:
But maybe it’s not.

Middle Finger:
I do deserve to heal from this issue.

Ring Finger: But
maybe I don’t.

Little Finger:
I want to heal from this issue.

Karate Chop:
But maybe I’m scared too.

Karate Chop:
Even though part of me is still hanging onto this issue, I choose to know it’s okay to let it go now.

Even though part of me is hanging onto this issue, and doesn’t want to heal it, I choose to reassure this part now that it’s okay to let it go.

Even though part of me is clinging to this issue, I choose to release it all now. I know I can’t imagine what it will be like without the issue, but that’s okay too. I am making the decision that it’s safe to heal it, and I will enjoy finding out what it’s like. I know I will be better off without this issue.

Inner Eye:
Choosing to know it’s safe to heal the issue.

Outer Eye:
Choosing to release all blocks that are getting in the way of healing the issue.

Under Eye:
Releasing all the blocks to healing now.

Nose:
Letting all those blocks go now.

Chin:
Choosing to know it’s safe to let go of the issue.

Collarbone:
Choosing to heal from the issue now.

Underarm:
Choosing to heal all blocks to healing now.

Thumb:
Releasing all those blocks to healing.

Index Finger:
I am now releasing all the blocks to healing.

Middle Finger:
Choosing to know, deep down, in the very core of me, that it’s okay to heal now.

Ring Finger:
Choosing to let the healing happen now.

Little Finger:
Choosing to let the healing happen now.

Karate Chop:
Choosing to have the courage to heal now.

So here we are at the end of this journey together. You can fly free now, free from the cage of her brainwashing and her lies. Think of a bird released from a cage. That’s you, that bird flying free.

I am more honoured than I can explain that you have allowed me to be your guide for this time that we have spent together. This stage of the journey might now be ending but you are now beginning another wonderful journey – to discovering your true self and to living the life that you deserve to live. You are free now. I send you my best wishes for the rest of your journey.

I do invite you to remember that you are not broken and in need of fixing, despite what she said. You are wounded and in need of healing, that is all. There is no shame in that.

And remember too that you are not crazy. Your perceptions are valid and true. Trust yourself. I know that’s a big step, and it’s a skill you need to learn, but it’s a very worthy goal.

Know too that you are stronger than you yet realise. Your mother tried to make you weak, but while she may have hidden your strength from you, she could not destroy it. Your strength remains to be discovered and used and celebrated.

Again, all the very best on your journey. Welcome to your future. (And to help you with that future, check out the resources on the next page.)