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If partners aren’t up for being on all fours, rear entry can be achieved in other ways. The bottom partner lies on their side, both knees bent in toward the chest, while the thruster positions themself behind the bot- tom partner, with one leg extended behind the bottom partner’s back and the other between the bottom partner’s legs. The bottom partner can also lie flat on their stomach, with the thruster kneeling between the bottom partner’s legs, holding the buttocks for deeper penetration. If a woman puts her legs together while lying flat on her stomach, she will experience more inner- and outer-lip stimulation during thrusting.

While traditional rear entry is known to provide deep G-spot stimu- lation, especially if the penis is curved, as well as cervical or prostate stimu- lation, yet another way to hit these targets is for the bottom partner’s legs to be bent and pulled up toward chest, with the top partner sitting on the penis and facing away. Keep in mind that the shallower thrusting in this position sometimes triggers a woman’s G-spot more than deep thrusting

does. Other versions of this position include having the bottom partner lean forward so that their head rests on one arm, propped up on a pillow (see Figure 14.12). This allows the bottom partner to reach around and play with their partner’s genitals. The bottom partner can circle the base of the penis with their index finger and thumb as the top partner thrusts, providing more friction and pleasure.

FIGURE 14.12: Rear-entry position

Sitting and Squatting Positions

In addition to slowing down thrusting movements, sitting positions can help lovers to feel closer, allow for more body contact, and help to slow down the sexual experience altogether. Acupressure points all over the body, like the neck, shoulders, and lower back, can easily be stimulated in variations of this position, taking sex to a completely different level.

When both partners sit and face the same way, the bottom partner can reach around and stimulate the top partner’s clitoris or penis, or the top partner can do this to themself. The Crooked Bone, Transverse Bone,

and St. 30 points (Figure 5.3 on page 80), which are located on the pelvis, can be pressed. An alternative to this position involves the receiver getting on all fours and crouching while the top partner thrusts from a position on their knees.

If the lovers face each other, the bottom partner can be on their knees, while the top partner supports their weight with their hands on the bot- tom partner’s shoulders or knees (see Figure 14.13). An alternative to this position involves the top partner raising their legs above the bottom part- ner’s shoulders.

FIGURE 14 .13: Sitting— variation #1

A woman’s P-spot (perineum) can be stretched while both partners are sitting upright with legs wrapped around each other. Keeping the pelvises close together, the woman should arch her back, supporting her weight with one hand behind her back (see Figure 14.14 on the next page). This allows the genitals to grind together as the perineum lengthens.

FIGURE 14 .14: Sitting— variation #2

Both partners can be in a “crab” position (i.e., leaning back with their weight on their hands and feet and their buttocks 8–12 inches in the air) during thrusting, or the bottom partner can be in the “crab” position while the top partner sits on their groin, facing away.

Yet another variation is for the thrusting partner to be lying on their back, resting heels on the top partner’s shoulder blades, as both partners face the same way. The top partner then controls the pace. The bottom partner can also wrap their legs around the top partner’s torso if they want a tighter fit.

Standing Positions

Although it’s not as leisurely as sex while sitting or lying down, on occa- sion, many lovers enjoy standing sex as a change of pace or because it’s the only position space will allow for! Standing and facing the same way al- lows for clitoral or penile stimulation. Facing each other allows partners to grab each other’s butts. Breasts can be stimulated in either variation.

One partner, typically the more powerful of the two, can hold the other during the standing position. This is made easier when the one being held wraps their legs around the standing lover’s waist (see Figure 14.15).

FIGURE 14 .15: Standing— variation #1

Alternative versions of the standing position include having both lovers kneel and face the same way (see Figure 14.16 on the next page), or face each other, with one leg of the receiving partner bent, with or without the thrusting partner’s bent leg underneath it (see Figure 14.17 on the next page).

FIGURE 14 .16: Kneeling— variation #1

FIGURE 14 .17: Kneeling— variation #2

Conclusion‌

M

y hope in writing this book has been to give people the tools they need to have more amazing sex with themselves and with their partners by utilizing some of the hottest spots on their bodies. People crave better sex and increased intimacy, and they will go to extremes to find it, often without realizing that some of the greatest sensations, feel- ings, and climactic peaks lie much closer to home. All they have to do is look within themselves and within their relationship and take a chance on

rethinking what it means to be intimate, erotic, and connected.

Having read this book, you’re well on your way to touching yourself and your lover in a more holistic, cosmically orgasmic way—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I hope that you will use what you’ve learned here to rediscover yourself and your sex life. I hope that you will use it to nurture the love, lust, and trust you have in yourself and your lover. I hope that you will use it to discover sexual intimacy, blissful abandonment, and worldly rapture as you’ve never known them before.

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Glossary‌

acupoints
—in traditional Chinese medicine, entry points on the body’s sur- face to the many meridians (pathways) traveling throughout the body
acupressure
—the application of pressure, typically with thumbs or fingertips,

to specific acupoints for therapeutic effects, e.g., relief of tension

anal fisting
—(a.k.a. “handballing”) a sexual activity involving gradual inser- tion of a partner’s entire hand into another’s anus

anal intercourse
—a sexual activity involving the penetration of a partner’s anus with a penis or dildo

analingus
—stimulation of a partner’s anus with one’s mouth

anterior fornix erogenous zone
—
see
A-spot

anus
—the rectal opening located between the buttocks

aphrodisiac
—a food, drink, drug, scent, or device that is believed to arouse or increase sexual desire, libido, or attraction

areola
—the circular area of darker skin that surrounds the nipple of the breast

artificial vagina
—
see
erection sleeve