Touch Me There (38 page)

The Wrists

The wrists deserve special attention because they house two important acupressure points. Holding the Spirit Gate point, located on the dip between the center of the wrist crease and wrist bone (see Figure 12.2),

balances the emotions, and stimulating a point in the center of the wrist crease increases spiritual intimacy. Either point can be held with your thumb or middle finger while grasping your partner’s wrist. Holding these points after climax can reestablish your emotional balance, helping the two of you bond in heart and mind. Holding the Inner Gates point, which lies three finger-widths from the wrist crease on the center of the inside of the forearm (see Figure 12.2), helps to soothe, nurture, and rejuvenate a sexual relationship. Press this point with your thumb, holding it for a cou- ple of minutes, as both of you breathe slowly and deeply.

FIGURE 12.2: The Spirit Gate and Inner Gates acupressure points

The Feet

Like the hands, the feet are full of pressure sensors that communicate with the brain, internal organs, and other body parts (see Figure 12.3 on the next page). As you look at the following diagrams, note the places on the foot that correspond with the groin and the chakras.

FIGURE 12.3: Reflexology map of the feet

Acupressure points also abound in the foot area. The Bigger Stream point lies between the Achilles tendon and the inner anklebone (see Fig- ure 12.4). The Bubbling Spring point lies in the center of the sole of the foot (see Figure 12.4). Using your thumbs to simultaneously press into both points on the same foot for a minute, as both of you breathe deeply, activates and stabilizes sexual energy.

FIGURE 12.4: The Bigger Stream, Bubbling Spring, and Grandparent-Grandchild acupressure points

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EXERCISE 12.4:
Foot Fetish

1. Massage each foot with a well-oiled hand for at least five minutes.
   
2. Put your index finger between your lover’s big toe and second toe. Turn your wrist side-to-side as you lift your finger. Repeat for each space between the toes.
   
3. Massage the ball of the foot for about thirty seconds. This corre- sponds to a point on the liver meridian, which encircles the external genitalia and runs up through the breasts. It’s also an important point for draining your lover’s tension.
   
4. As your partner becomes more relaxed, stretch the arch of the foot back by flexing the ankle, and lightly lick the valley between the
   

   second and third toes. This affects the middle of the sole, stimulat- ing the Bubbling Spring point (referred to in reflexology as Yung- Chuan; see Figure 12.4 on the previous page).
   

5. Performing the same action as above about an inch below the ball of the foot stimulates the Grandparent-Grandchild acupressure point (see Figure 12.4), cultivating a sense of security in your relationship.
   
6. End by sucking or nibbling on the big toe. This is said to release in- stant sexual energy because the liver meridian, which encircles the external genitalia, originates here.
   
7. Give ample attention to the acupressure points Hidden Clarity and Great Sincerity, which lie, respectively, at the outer and inner corners of the big toe at the base of the nail (see Figure 12.5). These points calm the spirit and clear the brain when touched, sucked, or kissed.
   
8. Repeat steps 1–7 on the other foot.
   

   FIGURE 12.5: The Hidden Clarity and Great Sincerity acupressure points
   

   

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   EXERCISE 12.5:
   Playing Ball
   

   1. Cup your lover’s heel in one hand, with your thumb resting on the outside of the ankle and your middle finger on the inside.
      
   2. Using your other hand, hold the ball of the foot as you turn the foot to its right as far as it will go, maintaining constant pressure.
      
   3. Do this a few times; then repeat the action going in the opposite di- rection.
      
   4. Cup a golf ball between the palm of your hand and your lover’s foot.
      
   5. Roll it over the area, pinpointing the parts that stimulate the chakras or sex organs (see Figure 12.3 on page 172).
      
   6. End the session by placing your thumbs at the solar-plexus reflex area of the foot, pressing lightly (see Figure 12.3). Along with your partner, take three simultaneous breaths.
      

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EXERCISE 12.6:
Stimulating the Chakras and Then Some

1. Rest your right thumb on the thyroid-gland and parathyroid-gland reflex areas (see Figure 12.3). At the same time, use your left hand to hold the big toe in place to stimulate the throat chakra (see Figure 12.3).
   
2. Using the thumb-walking technique, work your right thumb from right to left across the reflex area several times.
   
3. Change directions, this time with your right thumb holding the big toe backward as your left thumb walks across this area.
   
4. Repeat a few times.
   
5. Hold all the toes backward with your left hand.
   
6. Starting at the diaphragm reflex area (see Figure 12.3), walk your right thumb up through the heart and chest reflex areas (see Figure 12.3) several times to enliven the heart chakra.
   
7. Move your thumb to the solar-plexus reflex area (see Figure 12.3), walking over it several times in an upward motion to stimulate the corresponding chakra.
   
8. Put your right index finger on the inside of your lover’s left ankle- bone, and put the tip of your ring finger on the heel’s back corner. Pull your middle finger inward until it is in alignment with the other two fingers. This is the uterus/prostate reflex area.
   
9. Place your left middle finger on this point, cupping your partner’s heel in your hand.
   
10. Grasping the ball of the foot with your right hand, turn the foot clockwise several times, returning it to the neutral position between each turn.
    
11. Hold the foot with your left hand, placing your right hand on the breast reflex area (see Figure 12.3).
    
12. Spread the second and third toes apart, and walk your index finger down this area on the top part of the foot.
    
13. End the session by holding the foot with your right hand and walk- ing your left thumb across the groin reflex area (see Figure 12.3).
    
14. Repeat steps 1–13 on the other foot.
    

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Too Hot to Handle:

Sex Toys for Fun and Pleasure

W

hat you have read concerning the body’s hot spots would not be complete without a review of some of the many sex toys out there,

which are designed exclusively for your erogenous pleasuring. Before we round out the book with a discussion of all the positions that can enhance hot-spot action (see the next chapter), we need to put first things first. After all, you may find the following enhancement products useful in your boudoir pursuits.

Whether you surf a sex-toy website or walk into a shop, the experi- ence can make you feel like a kid in a candy store. What kind of sweet are you in the mood for? They all look so good—why can’t you just have a Pooh Bear smackerel of each?

Today, there are more sex toys on the market than ever, in all sorts of styles, shapes, colors, textures, and price ranges. The decision about which one, or ones, to purchase can be a heat-inducing sexual experience in and of itself, as you daydream about all the different ways a sexual enhance- ment can be used—and all the hot spots it can be used on.

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Although the sexual enhancements discussed in this chapter are mar- keted as “official” eroticizers, a
sex toy
can be anything used to enhance your sexual pleasure. The ones described here are among some of the most popular available. These can be used on many hot spots, so don’t be afraid to experiment. Just make sure you use them safely and properly to avoid hurting yourself or transmitting infection. See the Resources and Recom- mended Reading section, located at the back of the book, to find retail outlets for any of the products mentioned here.

Rules for Sex-Toy Play

• Do not exchange sex toys with another person unless the toys have first been properly cleaned. This helps to prevent the spread of sexu- ally transmitted infection(s).
  
• Whether by yourself or with a partner, never use a toy anally and then vaginally without first cleaning it properly. Doing so can intro- duce bacteria and viruses into the vagina, leading to infection.
  
• Stick with toys that have a wide, flared base or sturdy cord, espe- cially during anal play.
  
• Lube it up.
  
• Do not use silicone lube with a silicone sex toy. Over time, a silicone lube can cause the toy’s silicone to dissolve. Using a condom over the toy will solve this problem.
  
• Make sure to clean all toys thoroughly with warm water and mild an- tibacterial soap after using them. Allow them to completely dry be- fore storing them in a cool, dry, dust-free place. Proper care of your sex toys can help to prevent undesirable bacterial growth.
  
• If your sex toy is made of vinyl, covering it with a condom is highly recommended. Vinyl toys are porous, and using a condom is the only way they can be kept properly clean and remain bacteria-free. Silicone toys, plastic toys, and toys with cords (not electrical cords) can be boiled and cleaned with soap.
  
• Never substitute random objects for anal toys when engaging in anal play; some objects have been known to get stuck.
  
• When it comes to cock rings, don’t use substitutes like rubber bands, which can cause permanent damage. Stick with the real thing—it’s well worth the investment.