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A-spot
—the smooth area located on the anterior (front) wall of a woman’s vagina midway between the cervix and G-spot, which appears as a spongy, wrinkled, scrotal-like swelling and that is extremely sensitive to stimulating touch; a.k.a. “anterior fornix erogenous zone”

barrier method
—a contraceptive designed to block sperm from entering the

uterus, e.g., diaphragm, condom

birth control
—devices or techniques used to prevent the union of sperm and egg(s) in order to avoid pregnancy; a.k.a. “contraception”

blended orgasm
—in females, a climax due to simultaneous stimulation of the G-spot and clitoris; in males, a climax due to simultaneous stimulation of the prostate and penis

breasts
—for females, the secondary sex organs located on the chest, composed

of fatty and fibrous tissue and housing fifteen to twenty clusters of mam- mary glands; for males, another term for chest

butt plug
—a dildo specially designed for providing anal and rectal pleasure via

insertion into the anus

cervical orgasm
—a climax due to stimulation of the cervix

cervix
—the opening to the lower part of the uterus that protrudes into the vagina

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chakra
—
Sanskrit word meaning “wheel,” “disc,” or “hub”; used to describe the seven major and minor centers of psychic energy located throughout the body

chi
—(sometimes spelled “ki” or “qi”) life energy

chlamydia
—a bacterial sexually transmitted infection; symptoms include pain- ful urination and/or genital discharge

climax
— orgasm

clitoral hood
—a sheath of tissue that protects the clitoris and is an extension of the inner vaginal lips (labia minora), which run alongside the vaginal opening

clitoral orgasm
—a climax attained through stimulation of the clitoris

clitoris
— on the female, a highly sensitive sexual organ located in front of the vaginal entrance and urethra that is filled with a large number of nerve endings

cock ring
—a rubber, metal, or leather band worn around the base of the penis

or around the entire penis and scrotum for sex play

coitus
—insertion of the penis into the vagina; sexual intercourse

condom
—a disposable latex, polyurethane, or sheepskin sheath placed over an erect penis that acts as a barrier to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STIs and HIV

corona
—the raised ridge separating the glans (head) of the penis from the body

of the penis; for many, it is the most sexually excitable region of the penis

coronal ridge
—
see
corona

cunnilingus
—stimulation of the female genitals with the mouth

dental dam
—a latex or nonmicrowavable plastic-wrap barrier placed over the vagina or anus during sexual activity to prevent the spread of STIs

dildo
—a sex toy made of rubber, silicone, or latex that can be inserted into the vagina or anus

ejaculation
—the sudden, forceful discharge of semen out of the penis
erection
—an enlargement of the penis that occurs when blood flows to the area
erection sleeve
—a cylinder of soft rubber or plastic used to simulate the sensa-

tions of intercourse; often designed to resemble vaginal or oral lips

erogenous zone
—an area of the body that is particularly sensitive to sexual stimulation

extragenital orgasm
—
see
spontaneous orgasm

fellatio
—stimulation of a partner’s penis with one’s mouth; also used to de- scribe oral play with a dildo

female condom
—a disposable, polyurethane contraceptive tube with a plastic ring at each end that is inserted into the vagina to prevent pregnancy and the transmission of STIs and HIV

female ejaculation
—the phenomenon of prostatic-like fluid being expelled during G-spot stimulation and/or orgasm

fisting
—a sexual activity in which a partner gradually inserts their entire hand into another’s vagina

foreplay
—sexual stimulation that takes place before intercourse

foreskin
—in uncircumcised males, the layer of skin covering the glans (head of the penis) that retracts when the male is aroused and erect

frenulum
—the tiny band of skin near the indentation on the underside of penis where the glans meets the shaft

1. spot
   —
   see
   frenulum
   

   genital ring
   —
   see
   cock ring
   

   genital warts
   —
   see
   human papilloma virus
   

   genitals
   —the sexual or reproductive organs
   

   glans
   —in the male, the smooth, extremely sensitive tip (head) of the penis that contains numerous nerve endings; in the female, the extremely sensitive, visible, external tip of the clitoris that protrudes like a small lump
   

   gluteal sex
   —sexual activity involving one partner thrusting into the crease of
   

   their partner’s buttocks using a penis, a dildo, or their hand/fingers
   

   gonorrhea
   —a bacterial sexually transmitted infection with symptoms that in- clude vaginal discharge, burning urination, fever, and pelvic-area pain
   

   Gräfenberg spot
   —
   see
   G-spot
   

   groin
   —the area where the thigh joins the abdomen
   

2. spot
   —in females, a small mass of erectile nerve tissue, ducts, glands, and blood vessels located on the front wall of the vagina midway between the pubic bone and the cervix; responds to sexual stimulation
   

hepatitis
—a viral infection that can be sexually transmitted; involves inflam-

mation of the liver and sometimes permanent liver damage and has several different strains

herpes
—a viral sexually transmitted infection with two strains: herpes simplex

type-1 (oral herpes) and herpes simplex type-2 (genital herpes), both of which cause blisters or sores on the given area

HIV
—
see
human immunodeficiency virus

holistic practices
—health activities that address the whole person; that is, mind, body, and soul

human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)
—the retrovirus that causes AIDS

human papilloma virus (HPV)
—a viral sexually transmitted infection that can produce warts on the genitals; a.k.a. “genital warts”

inner lips
—
see
labia minora

intercourse
—
see
sexual intercourse

Kabazzah
—an Eastern sexual skill, often a part of Tantric practice, wherein a

woman mounts a man and then moves only her internal vaginal muscles to bring him to climax while he does nothing more than stay relaxed

Kegel exercises
— contractions performed to strengthen the PC muscles sur-

rounding the genitals

Kegelcisor
—a surgical-steel resistive device for practicing pelvic-floor exer- cises; a user builds muscle tone by inserting it into her vagina and squeezing her PC muscle around it; a.k.a. “vaginal barbell”

Kivin Method
—an oral sex move in which the female’s partner applies pressure

to her perineum during oral sex

labia majora
—the rounded pads of fatty and fibrous tissue, covered with pubic hair, that lie on either side of the vaginal entrance; the outer lips of the vulva
labia minora
—the thin folds of skin that lie on either side of the vaginal en- trance and extend forward to come together in front of the clitoris to form

the clitoral hood; the inner lips of the vulva

male G-spot
—the prostate

masturbation
—self-stimulation of the genitals with the hand or an object

meridians
—in traditional Chinese medicine, channels running through the body that keep the skin, muscles, organs, and psyche healthy and in bal- ance by transporting life energy or chi

mons pubis
—the fatty pad of tissue and skin lying over a woman’s pubic bone

that is thought to protect her pubic bone during vigorous sexual thrusting

mons veneris
—
see
mons pubis

M-spot
—an erogenous zone located in the vagina just below the mouth of the uterus; it can be felt when, after orgasm, the vagina lifts up, forming a “roof ” or “tent” of sorts

multiple orgasms
—a series of orgasmic responses that occur in succession

without the person’s arousal level dropping below the plateau phase

nadis
—invisible channels that connect the chakras

nipple
—the pigmented tip of the breast; contains erectile tissue that may pro- vide sexual pleasure when stimulated

nipple-induced orgasm
—a climax due to stimulation of one’s nipple(s)

nocturnal orgasm
—an involuntary orgasm that occurs during sleep; in males, most often accompanied by emission (wet dream)

oral sex
—a sexual activity involving stimulation of the genitals by a partner’s mouth

orgasm
—a series of involuntary muscular contractions that typically peak dur- ing the third and shortest phase of the sexual response cycle and are accom- panied by feelings of intense pleasure; though focused in the genitals, the contractions and sensations may spread throughout the body

outer lips
—
see
labia majora

PC muscle
—
see
pubococcygeus muscle

penis
—the male reproductive and sex organ that passes sperm into the vagina and urine out of the body

penis-induced orgasm
—a climax attained through stimulation of the penis

perineum
—the soft, hairless tissue located between the genitals and anus in both sexes; a.k.a. “P-spot”

polyurethane condom
—a plastic barrier worn over an erect penis that pre- vents pregnancy and the spread of STDs

posterior fornix zone
—the erogenous area located opposite the AFE zone, on the back wall of the vaginal canal

Posterior Summit
—an acupressure point located on the scalp

prana
—life force; breath

pre-ejaculatory fluid
—a clear, alkaline fluid, secreted by the Cowper’s glands, that appears at the tip of the penis before a man ejaculates; a.k.a. “pre-cum”

prepuce
—
see
foreskin

prostate
—in the male, a gland located under the bladder and behind the pubic bone, just above the perineum, that secretes some of the milky, alkaline fluid contained in semen

prostate-triggered orgasm
—a climax attained through stimulation of the

prostate

P-spot
—
see
perineum

pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle)
—a collective term for the group of pel- vic-floor muscles that extend from the pubic bone around both sides of the sex organs and back to the tailbone

pudendum
—another term for “vulva”

raphe
—the blood-vessel-like seam on the underside of the penis

rectum
—the lower part of the large intestine

reflexology
—a practice based on the premise that all of the body’s organs have reflex points located on other body parts such as the hands and feet; stimu- lation of the reflex points benefits the corresponding organs

rimming
—
see
analingus

root
—the part of the penis that attaches to the body