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R-spot
—
see
raphe

sacrum
—the large, triangular bone at the base of the spine

safer sex
—vaginal, anal, or oral sex involving practices that reduce the risk of pregnancy, HIV, and STDs

scrotum
—the pouch of skin containing numerous sebaceous glands and cov- ered in hair that houses the testicles

semen
—the sperm-containing fluid that is ejaculated from the penis

sex toy
—an object used to enhance sexual activity

sexual intercourse
—sexual activity in which the penis is inserted into the va- gina; for some, it is defined as a sexual activity in which the penis is inserted into the anus or in which fingers or a sex toy are inserted into the vagina or anus

sexually transmitted disease (STD)
—any disease that can be transmitted via

sexual contact

sexually transmitted infection (STI)
—
see
sexually transmitted disease

shaft
—in the male, the part of the penis that runs between the glans and root; in the female, the part of the clitoris that disappears into the body beneath the clitoral hood

sixty-nine
—a sexual position that allows for partners to orally stimulate each

other’s genitals at the same time

soixante-neuf
—
French for “sixty-nine”;
see
sixty-nine

sperm
—the mature male reproductive cell, which is capable of fertilizing an egg

spontaneous orgasm
—an orgasm without any genital contact; a.k.a. “extra- genital orgasm”

sushumna
—the fiery central energy meridian, or pathway, that runs up and down the spine

tantra
—rituals and practices that were outlined in Hindu and Buddhist scrip- tures, many of which have been recommended for better sex and relation- ships, e.g., meditation

testes
—the male gonads; a pair of oval-shaped glands housed in the scrotum

that manufacture sperm and sex hormones, primarily testosterone; a.k.a. “testicles”

testicle
—a testis

Transverse Bones
—two acupoints located on the upper border of the pubic bone, each half a finger-width from the midline on either side

urethral opening
—the opening through which urine exits the body (and semen in the male); in the female, it is a small, acorn-shaped protrusion lo- cated between the clitoris and vaginal opening; in the male, it is a tiny open- ing located at the tip of the penis

urethral sponge
—in the female, spongy erectile tissue that contains the para-

urethral glands and ducts; a.k.a. “G-spot”

1. spot
   —
   see
   urethral opening
   

   uterine orgasm
   —
   see
   vaginal orgasm
   

   uterus
   —(a.k.a. “womb”) a hollow, muscular organ located in the woman’s ab- domen that houses a fetus during pregnancy
   

   vagina
   —in the female, a highly muscular, three- to four-inch-long, tube-shaped organ that is penetrated during sexual intercourse and through which a baby passes during birth
   

   vaginal opening
   —the entrance leading from the outside into the female’s vagina, through which a baby passes during birth and through which men- strual blood passes during a woman’s period
   

   vaginal orgasm
   — climax emanating from anywhere in the vaginal canal, often
   

   the G-spot
   

   vibrator
   —a battery-operated or plug-in electrical device that vibrates to stimu- late body parts, particularly the genitals
   

   vulva
   —a collective term for the female external genitals, including the mons pubis, clitoris, labia minora, labia majora, urethral opening, and vaginal opening
   

   vulval/vulvic orgasm
   —a climax attained from the stimulation of a woman’s
   

   genitals
   

2. zone
   —the erogenous area on the lower abdomen stretching from each hip- bone to the groin
   

wet dream
—
see
nocturnal orgasm

X-spot
—
see
cervix

yoga
—a Hindu theistic philosophy and system of exercises teaching the sup- pression and/or control of all bodily or mental activity for liberation and improved well-being

Resources and Recommended Reading‌

Acupressure

Acupressure for Lovers,
by Dr. Michael Reed Gach (New York: Bantam Books, 1997).

The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Acupuncture and Acupressure,
by David W. Sollars (New York: Penguin Books, 2000).

Anal Sex

Anal Sex for Couples: A Guaranteed Guide for Painless Pleasure,
by Bill Strong and Lori E. Gammon (Zion, IL: Triad Press, Inc., 2006).

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men,
by Bill Brent (San Francisco, CA: Cleis Press, 2002).

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women,
2nd ed., by Tristan Taormino (San Francisco, CA: Cleis Press, 2006).

Female Ejaculation

The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution,
by Elisabeth A. Lloyd (Harvard University Press, 2005).

Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot,
by Deborah Sundahl (Alameda, CA: Hunter House, 2003).

G-Spot

The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot,
by Cathy Winks (San Francisco, CA: Down There Press, 1998).

The G-Spot and Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality,
by Beverly Whipple, John D. Perry, and Alice Khan Ladas (New York: Owl Books, 2004).

Operation G-spot,
by Jodi Lynn Copeland (New York: Aphrodisia, 2006).

Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming,
2nd ed., by Lou Paget (New York: Broadway, 2004).

Unleashing Her G-spot Orgasm: A Step-by-Step Guide to Giving a Woman Ultimate Sexual Ecstasy,
by Donald L. Hicks (Berkeley, CA: Amorata Press, 2006).

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Masturbation

Masturbation as a Means of Achieving Sexual Health,
by Walter O. Bockting and Eli Coleman (Binghamton, NY: Haworth Press, 2003).

Sex for One,
by Betty Dodson (New York: Harmony Books, 1996).

Jackin World website, www
.jackinworld.com (focuses on male masturbation)

Viva La Vulva: Women’s Sex Organs Revealed,
by Betty Dodson (video of group seminar teaching women to reclaim their bodies and pleasure themselves; available through www
.bettydodson.com, or call 866-877-9676).

Reflexology

Reflexology: Health at Your Fingertips,
by Barbara and Kevin Kunz (New York: DK Publishing, 2003).

Sexual Reflexology,
by Mantak Chia and William U. Wei (Rochester, VT: Destiny Books, 2003).

Sex Education and Information

The Naked Truth about Sex: A Guide to Intelligent Sexual Choices for Teenagers & Twen- tysomethings,
by Roger W. Libby (Topanga, CA: Freedom Press, 2006).

Go Ask Alice!, www
.goaskalice.columbia.edu (Columbia University’s Health Education Program; Q&A site)

San Francisco Sex Information,
www.sfsi.org, or call (415) 989-7374 or (877) 472-SFSI (7374). Answers frequently asked questions, posts a weekly col- umn, and provides referrals.

Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, www.siecus

.org, (212) 819-0109. Nonprofit organization providing sex education pro- grams and materials.

Sexuality Source, Inc., www
.sexualitysource.com (or www.yvonnekfulbright

.com). Offers sex education and consulting services, including a free news- letter. Is affiliated with www.sensualfusion.com.

Society for Human Sexuality, www.sexuality.or
g. Features information and arti- cles on a variety of sex topics, as well as book, video, and product reviews.

Spanish-language sexuality website, www.gentejoven.org.mx.

Sex Toys/Sexual Enhancements

Em & Lo’s Sex Toys: An A-Z Guide to Bedside Accessories,
by Em & Lo & Arthur Mount (San Francisco, CA: Chronicle Books, 2006).

The Many Joys of Sex Toys: The Ultimate How to Handbook for Couples and Singles
by Anne Semans (New York: Broadway, 2004).

(Internet sources for sexual enhancers, books, videos, and safer sex supplies.) Sexuality Source Enhancements Store, www.sexualitysource.com

Resources and Recommended Reading
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Adam and Eve, www
.adameve.com Condomania, www
.condomania.com Eve’s Garden, www.evesgarden.com

Good Vibrations (catalogs), www
.goodvibes.com Toys in Babeland, www.babeland.com

Sexual Health

The Hot Guide to Safer Sex,
by Yvonne K. Fulbright (Alameda, CA: Hunter House, 2003).

The Lesbian Health Book: Caring for Ourselves,
by Jocelyn White and Marissa C. Martinez (Emeryville, CA: Seal Press, 1997).

Love in the Time of HIV: The Gay Man’s Guide to Sex, Dating & Relationships,
by Michael Mancilla and Lisa Troshinsky (New York: The Guilford Press, 2003).

Safe Sex 101: An Overview for Teens,
by Margaret O. Hyde and Elizabeth H. Forsyth (Breckenridge, CO: Twenty-First Century Books, 2006).

Sexual Health for Men,
by Richard F. Spark (Jackson, TN: Perseus Books, 2000).

A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Health,
by Mary Jane Minkin & Carol V. Wright (Yale Univ. Press, 2004).

Sexual Health Network, www
.sexualhealth.com (provides sexuality informa- tion, education, and other resources)

The Women’s Sexual Health Foundation, www.twshf.or
g World Association for Sexual Health, www.worldsexology.org

Sexual Pleasuring

The Big O,
2nd ed., by Lou Paget (London: Piatkus Books, 2002).

The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips,
by Rebecca Chalker (New York: Seven Stories Press, 2000).

The Complete Manual of Sexual Positions,
by Jessica Stewart (Chatsworth, CA: Sex- ual Enrichment Series, 1983).

The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage,
by Patti Britton (Royersford, PA: Alpha, 2003).

Fearless Sex,
by Joy Davidson (Gloucester, MA: Fair Winds Press, 2004).

The Great Lover Playbook: 365 Sexual Tips & Techniques to Keep the Fires Burning All Year Long,
by Lou Paget (New York: Gotham, 2005).

How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques that Will Blow His Mind,
by Lou Paget (New York: Broadway, 1999).

How to Be a Great Lover,
by Lou Paget (London: Piatkus Books, 2000).

How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure,
by Lou Paget (London: Piatkus Books, 2002).

Sexual Pleasure,
2nd ed., by Barbara Keesling (Alameda, CA: Hunter House, 2005).

Taboo: Forbidden Fantasies for Couples,
by Violet Blue (San Francisco, CA: Cleis Press, 2004).

365 Days of Sensational Sex,
by Lou Paget (London: Hodder Mobius, 2004). Human Sexuality, Inc., www.howtohavegoodsex.com

Tantric Sex

The Art of Sexual Ecstasy,
by Margo Anand (New York: Putnam Books, 1989).

The Art of Tantric Sex,
by Nitya Lacroix (New York: DK Publishing, 1997).

The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex,
2nd ed., by Judy Kuriansky (New York: Alpha Books, 2004).