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EXERCISE 5.7:
Rockin’ His World

Activating his Sea of Intimacy acupressure points is one more option (see Figure 5.3). Located two, three, four, five, and six finger-widths below the navel, his Sea of Intimacy points can be stimulated by placing the heels of both hands over his pubic bone and gradually putting some of your weight onto his lower abdominal area while pressing into these points. This will heighten his sexual pleasure, unlock tension that can block sexual energy from flowing into his genitals during lovemaking, and strengthen his reproductive system. Try to breathe deeply together as you’re doing this.

Yoga Poses for Penile Stimulation

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POSE 5.1:
Penile Stimulation and Heart Opener

His position:
Get into Camel Pose (Ustrasana) by getting onto your knees, which are spaced six to eight inches apart. Inhale and lift your torso as you lean back. Allow your head to drop as your hips press forward, slowly placing your right hand on your right heel and your left hand on your left heel. Press your hips into your partner’s lower back and buttocks.
His partner’s position:
Get into Plow Pose (Halasana) by lying on your back, arms relaxed at your sides, legs straight. As you exhale, use your ab- dominals to bring your legs up and over your head, toes possibly touching the floor.

Hold for up to one minute.

YOGA POSE 5.1: Penile stimulation and heart opener

Results:
This position will boost his sex drive, open his heart chakra, and allow him to channel energy into his partner’s root chakra. It also pro- vides penile stimulation.

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POSE 5.2:
Pelvic Stimulation

Both partners’ positions:
Stand and face each other, bodies pressed against one another. Holding each other by clasping your hands around

your partner’s lower back, arch your upper bodies backward, keeping your feet well grounded to the floor.

Hold for up to two minutes.

YOGA POSE 5.2: Pelvic stimulation

Results:
This opens the heart and sacral chakras, improves circulation in the sexual organs of female partners, increases emotional well-being, and

provides stimulation against bot
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h partner’s pelvises, especially his penis.

Whether you’re the giver or receiver, stimulating the penis is among the most gratifying experiences two lovers can share. To avoid getting into a

monotonous routine, try trimming his pubic hair for different sensations, orally stimulating his penis through his boxers or G-string, making his penis more edible by adding whipped cream and chocolate sauce, or rub- bing his penis with silk scarves. His penis will undoubtedly rise to the oc- casion. Also, check out the sex toys in Chapter 13 and consider how any of them may be able to provide his hot spots the ultimate in pleasure.

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His Geyser-Producing G-Spot

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hen a man is sexually aroused, his
prostate
begins to swell with fluid, sending increasingly pleasurable sensations throughout his

groin as he approaches climax. About the size of a chestnut, this little wonder surrounds the urethra, lying just under the bladder and behind the pubic bone directly above the perineum (see Figure 6.1). Also known as the
male G-spot,
the prostate is a firm gland composed of tiny blood vessels, plus muscle, glandular, and connective tissues that forcefully se- crete some of the milky fluid that makes up semen. This fluid protects sperm by increasing the pH of their environment (making the vagina friendlier for fertilization), and it facilitates their movement after ejacula- tion. The prostate’s nerve plexus is seen as contributing to a male’s sexual emotional center in tantric practice.

Why Is the Prostate

One of the Hottest Spots?

The prostate is worthy of this label for a couple of reasons. Referred to in tantra as the Sacred Gate, when stimulated, this hot spot is a major moan zone, producing enhanced genital sensations and an intense, power- ful, throbbing orgasm—or orgasms. Such unusual, amazingly pleasurable

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FIGURE 6.1: The internal male genitalia

sensations can occur with or without an erection, with or without other stimulation, and with or without ejaculation, making the prostate’s gifts even more jaw dropping, especially when compared to a merely penis- focused understanding of male sexual response. The prostate is also cred- ited with helping men to maintain erection when stimulated, thereby ex- tending lovemaking.

Second, the prostate is most effectively stimulated through the rec- tum, and anything involving anal play is usually regarded by society as taboo, if not downright wrong, and thus ultimately racier and more in- triguing. Some people get a high from doing something many others frown upon. Half the thrill is actually doing what others consider deviant (despite the fact that many people engage in all sorts of anal play). Plus, because so many people have issues with anal stimulation, successfully

unearthing this buried treasure can make you feel like a sexual millionaire. You’ve reached a status many will never know, joining a members-only sex club of sorts where only the daring and adventurous share its secrets and rewards.

Prostate Myths and Misconceptions

Myth: Men are not blessed with the same hot spots women are, such as the clitoris and G-spot.

Your response to prostate stimulation depends on your particular physiol- ogy—you may enjoy your prostate as immensely as a woman does her clit or G-spot. Some men experience massive orgasm(s) when their prostate is stimulated, while others simply enjoy a great deal of pleasure. Some men don’t enjoy prostate stimulation at all, others could take it or leave it, and still others thinks it’s to die for. Given its often-rave reviews, it’s certainly worth experimenting with,
non?

Myth: Prostate stimulation is a pleasure only reserved for gay males.

Men of all sexual orientations enjoy prostate pleasure, but homophobia often fosters ideas indicating otherwise. It’s a shame that some men get hung up on worries that they’ll “turn” gay or bisexual if they engage in any sort of prostate or anal play. Engaging in a particular sex act does not nec- essarily mean that a person is of a certain sexual orientation. Every man has a G-spot and every man has the potential to enjoy it, regardless of whom or what turns him on.

Prostate-Triggered Orgasm

A man’s orgasm always begins at his prostate, moving into the penis and testicles, possibly becoming a total-body experience. Most effectively in- duced by stimulating the prostate via the rectum, a
prostate-triggered orgasm
is a deeper, implosive, more full-bodied, longer-lasting orgasm, with ejaculation coming in spurts instead of in a steady stream. Many men claim that it is the best orgasm of their lives, having never experi- enced anything like it before.

A headline-worthy claim of prostate-stimulation feats is that this hot spot is one of the most effective ways for a man to experience multiple or- gasms, including “dry” (without ejaculation) orgasms. Like women who experience a blended orgasm from simultaneous G-spot and clitoral stimu- lation, men can experience their own “
blended” orgasm
if their pros- tate and penis are stimulated at the same time, further increasing their chances of having multiple Os.

Rules for Prostate Play

• Make sure he’s becoming aroused or is fully aroused before stimulat- ing the prostate. If this isn’t the case, prostate play can be painful and uncomfortable.
  
• Confirm that there’s mutual interest and consent. Both partners need to be willing to explore and must feel comfortable and relaxed.
  
• Be open-minded. Let go of expectations. You need to trust each other, and the receiver needs to feel comfortable with not being in control, a position many men aren’t used to during sex.
  
• Empty your bladder beforehand; this will help you avoid thinking you need to pee, a feeling you’re likely to have when your prostate is first stimulated.
  
• Make sure that your nails are trimmed, especially if you’re not using gloves.
  
• Use lots of lube. The brands Probe, Anal Eze, or Wet are often used for anal sex play.
  
• Communicate. You need to find out what does and doesn’t feel good. You need to express how you’re feeling and what you need more or less of.
  
• Take your time stimulating his G-spot. Also, be prepared to do so on multiple occasions if this is an activity you really want to incorporate into your sex life. This type of sexual stimulation takes time and practice. You’ll see more and better results with practice. Plus, with experience, you’ll become more at ease, making the whole process sexier and simply exquisite.
  
• Explore on your own. By self-pleasuring, you can become more com- fortable with your anal area and more used to having it stimulated, which will help immensely when you’re with a partner.