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The heart chakras open, allowing for more emotion, affection, and love. The hips stimulate the first partner’s buttocks.

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The Melting Spots

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n a basic level, having your hands and (especially) your feet mas- saged and kneaded feels absolutely divine. On a grander scale, the practice of applying pressure to specific points on the hands and feet, typi- cally known as reflexology, is believed to influence the health of the corre- sponding body parts. Reflexology holds that pressure sensors located on the hands and feet are connected with other parts of the body, and that stimulating these sensors sends waves of relaxation throughout the body. A series of pressure techniques can be used to stimulate specific areas with the intent of invoking a beneficial response in the corresponding body

part(s)—a reflexive reaction that passes throughout the nervous system.

The Hands

We put your hands to work a lot in this book, and it’s no wonder that they are so heavily involved in sex play. The hands, with each palm containing forty thousand nerve endings, give and receive. Understandably, with so much power residing in the hands, massaging them can relax the entire body; furthermore, the stimulation of specific points in the hands acti- vates and balances sexual energy, as illustrated in the following diagrams (see Figure 12.1). Note the places that correspond with the body’s chak-

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ras, like the solar plexus (diaphragm) and throat (thyroid/parathyroid glands). These are places to target if your aim is to get your lover’s energy flowing, to activate your own energy, or to stimulate areas of the reproduc- tive system.

FIGURE 12.1: Reflexology map of the hand

So the next time you’re toying with your honey’s hand, don’t over- look the erogenous effects of teasing and tickling the palm, or lightly scratching progressively bigger circles into it or tracing its lines or licking, sucking, and kissing certain areas. Be sure to massage the fingers, paying special attention to the padded area between the bottom two knuckles of each finger. Massaging the muscle between the thumb and first finger can have a stress-relieving effect. If you’re holding a female’s hand, dote on her pinkie finger, an area that Chinese sexology associates with the heart meridian in the belief that it houses a strong energetic connection with the emotions and sexual center. If you’re playing with a man’s hand, pam- per his middle finger, which is associated with the circulation sex merid- ian, a.k.a. the heart. In either gender, the heart can be stimulated by

paying particular attention to the area located below the joint where the thumb meets the rest of the hand (see Figure 12.1 on previous page).

Oral action on the fingers provides yet a different kind of sensual stimu- lation. Flicking your tongue against the palm’s center or sucking on out- stretched fingers always plants ideas about other ways your oral talents can be put to use. Licking foods like peanut butter or frosting from your own or your lover’s fingers is always a scrumptious invitation to sex play.

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EXERCISE 12.1:
The Hand Job Reinvented

1. Decide who is to be the giver and who is to be the receiver.
   
2. Close your eyes and take your partner’s left hand. Encourage your lover to close their eyes in order to better concentrate on the energy and sensations being cultivated in the hand.
   
3. Feel the hand’s energy as you hold it, noting your own energy, too.
   
4. Breathe deeply, sending energy through your hand.
   
5. Explore your partner’s hand—its bones, its nails, and the lines of its palm.
   
6. Lovingly massage it, experimenting with different pressures and strokes.
   
7. Check in with your partner about what feels good.
   
8. With your partner’s palm facing downward, work your way down to the joint where the thumb meets the base of the hand. The area that runs from this point across the back of the hand to where the hand and wrist meet is a reflexology zone that stimulates the groin (see Figure 12.1). (Throughout the exercise, have your partner visualize the body part that is being stimulated.)
   
9. Slowly walk your thumb across this zone several times, using the thumb-walking technique described in Chapter 1 (under “Reflexol- ogy”). You can also use what is known in reflexology as the “hook- and-back-up” method, which is ideal for working a specific point.
   

   Rest your active thumb against the area you want to massage. Bend your thumb at the first joint (the one closer to the tip). Press against the skin with the edge of your thumb and pull back with it. Pressing your four fingers into the palm adds leverage, allowing you to hook with the thumb and to pull back. Take care to avoid digging your fin- gernails into your lover’s flesh.
   

10. Using your fingertip, press the area on the inner wrist (palm side) that lies about an inch inward from the base of the thumb; this will stimulate your partner’s prostate or uterus.
    
11. Move across the wrist, using a massaging motion, until you reach a point about half an inch from the outer (pinky side) edge of the wrist. Apply the hook-and-back-up movement to this point to stimulate your partner’s left ovary or testicle.
    
12. Repeat the process on your partner’s right hand to stimulate the right side of your partner’s body.
    

During any kind of sex play, especially as thrusting begins during inter- course, touch each other’s fingertips. Activation of this supersensitive area is sure to have a dreamy effect.

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EXERCISE 12.2:
Palm Power

1. Sit with your legs crossed, facing each other.
   
2. One partner puts their hands on their own knees, palms up.
   
3. The other partner places their palms face down on top of the other’s hands, so that the centers of the palms touch.
   
4. Breathing in unison, take long, slow, deep breaths, feeling the energy that’s moving between the two of you. Sense the energy moving throughout your entire body, through all of the chakras, meridians, and acupressure points.
   
5. Feel your and your partner’s sexual energy synchronize as you inhale and exhale.
   

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EXERCISE 12.3:
Stimulating the Chakras

1. Hold your partner’s right thumb with your left hand.
   
2. Starting at the base of the thumb, slowly walk your thumb over the thyroid/parathyroid gland area several times (see Figure 12.1 on page 167), which will help to stimulate the throat chakra.
   
3. Move upward along your partner’s thumb, making a series of walks with your own thumb to stimulate the head and brain reflex areas (the third-eye and crown chakras; see Figure 12.1).
   
4. Holding your partner’s right hand with your left, use your right thumb to walk across the heart reflex area at the base of the thumb (see Figure 12.1), activating the heart chakra.
   
5. Dig your thumb into the web between your partner’s thumb and index finger, and massage this area to work the chest and breast.
   
6. Hold your partner’s fingers with your right hand, and walk your left thumb across the area on the back of the hand where the hand and wrist meet to stimulate the groin (and fallopian tube) reflex areas (see Figure 12.1), activating the sacral chakra.
   
7. Place your left index finger on the ovary/testicle reflex area (see Fig- ure 12.1), and rotate your lover’s hand in a clockwise motion several times.
   
8. Repeat the same action, only this time using a counterclockwise motion.
   
9. Repeat the rotating motions of steps 7 and 8 several times.
   
10. Use the same rotating motion, only this time place your right index finger on the uterus/prostate reflex area (see Figure 12.1) and turn your lover’s hand with your left hand.
    
11. Repeat steps 1–10 using the other hand.