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FIGURE 10.5: Seven reflexology love points

Before undressing your partner, slip your fingers along the edge of their boxers, undies, or panties. Sliding your fingers outward, touch the light hollow just before you reach the hipbone, in order to potentially cause a reaction.

Traveling slightly downward and outward, you will find two acupres- sure points located along the crease where the leg and trunk of the body join: Rushing Door and Mansion Cottage. Rushing Door is located in the middle of this crease; Mansion Cottage lies about an inch above and out- ward from Rushing Door (see Figure 5.2 on page 73). Stimulating these points, which act as major gates for energy flow into the genitals and throughout the reproductive system, can send a sexually arousing rush of circulation to the genitals and legs, resulting in enhanced sexual pleasure.

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EXERCISE 10.3:
Just the Trick

Place the heels of your hands on the creases where your partner’s thighs join the trunk. Resting your fingertips lightly on the belly, slowly lean your weight into the Rushing Door points; hold this position for a minute or two, gradually increasing the pressure. Ask your partner to breathe into your hands. With practice, you can do this during oral sex or while kissing and stimulating other erogenous zones.

The Thighs

The thighs are a hotbed of hot spots, especially because the upper thighs are so close to the genitals. Stimulating the inner thighs and the back of the upper thighs can build scintillating sexual tension. Experimenting with different caresses will not only act as a tease but will also send your lover into a sexual frenzy. Try long massages up the thigh that end with your fingertips grazing the genitals, feathery-light touches that send shiv- ers up your partner’s body, or licking the nerve-packed area where back of the thigh meets the buttocks.

Pay particular attention to the acupressure and reflexology points that lie midway between the kneecap and groin (see Figure 10.6). The

first, the Sea of Blood, is located two inches above each knee, where the muscles go slightly inward (see Figure 10.6). Press this point firmly with your thumb. The Inner Thigh acupressure points are located on the inside of the upper thigh, close to the crease that joins the thigh and trunk of the body (see Figure 10.6). Lightly touching, stroking, kissing, or licking these points can help to arouse your partner, especially if he’s male. These points can also be easily stimulated during oral sex, whether you’re be- tween your lover’s legs or lying on top of them.

FIGURE 10.6: The acupressure and reflexology points on the legs

There are twenty-one acupoints between the axillary fossa of the rib cage and femur of the thigh, and nineteen between the greater trochanter of the femur and the middle of the poplitoal crease. Becoming familiar with acupressure points and their specific health benefits can enable you to help your lover feel good in all sorts of ways.
The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Acupuncture and Acupressure
is a great resource for beginners (see Resources and Recommended Reading).

The Knees

This area of the body, especially the back of the knee, is another one that is full of nerve endings, and tickling or licking it can turn your lover into putty in your hands. It’s a perfect naughty spot for getting each other turned on in public. When you have a more private moment, try licking this hot spot and then blowing on it to create a warm-cold sensation.

The Shins and Calves

Your lower leg is a major hot spot because, according to sexual reflexology, it contains the most significant love point, San-Yin-Chiao, where the three yin (female sexual energy) channels intersect (see Figure 10.6). (Everyone has both yin and yang energies, so this love point exists in both women and men.) Once you find the spot, which is located on the inside of the shin, approximately three inches above the anklebone and alongside the shinbone, press this area to stimulate it. Running your fingertips over the lower leg’s often-attractive shape and playing with the Achilles tendon area will woo your lover in no time.

Bodywork

Although all of the parts we have covered in this chapter can be given in- dividual attention, sometimes we don’t want to dote on just one. It’s like being forced to pick a single dessert when offered a trayful—you want all of them at once! Naturally, there are times when we want to give total- body loving, focusing on all of these areas in a manner that is often more sensual than sexual.

Engaging in bodywork with your partner is one way to hit many spots without expending a great deal of effort. The yoga exercises offered throughout this book provide multispot stimulation. Many other tech- niques also exist that make both partners feel good. In the technique of watsu water shiatsu, for example, one partner is cradled, stretched, and slowly moved while partially submerged in water. The other partner leans the receiver’s straight (but not stiff) body backward in the water. The re- sult: Your lover can bask in the stillness of the warm water, submerged in

feelings of being loved. To make this experience even more peaceful for your partner, try holding their hips or rib cage and gently swaying their body from side to side. Being careful to avoid filling your lover’s nose full of water (a water pillow may help to address this concern), press the geni- tals or stomach. Then switch roles so you can have a turn. Many people who engage in this sort of water therapy with their lover say that it evokes a powerful emotional release, increasing trust and relaxation.