Touch Me There (26 page)

Wind Mansion will open all spiritual senses and will also benefit the eyes, ears, nose, and throat.

The next exercise is one more way to both relax and stimulate your lover, and it takes less time than the preceding two exercises. Still, avoid rushing through it.

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EXERCISE 9.3:
The Third-Eye Chakra Press

1. Gently press on the center of your lover’s forehead, about an inch below the hairline, using the middle bone of your middle finger. Maintain the pressure on this point for one minute.
   
2. Rotate your fingers onto your partner’s temples; hold this position for thirty seconds.
   
3. Tell your lover to concentrate on the growing sensation in their groin. As you focus your partner’s attention, they will be better able to relish any feel-good sensations.
   
4. End this exercise with a pressed, lingering kiss on the area of the Third Eye (directly between the eyebrows; see Figure 9.2 on the next page).
   

The result: This move will allow for the release of tension and will in- crease the flow of sexual excitement.

Any time your partner’s head can be reached during sex play, try stimu- lating the four acupressure points on the scalp—the Posterior Summit, One Hundred Meeting, Anterior Summit, and Penetrating Heaven—to open intuition and body wisdom and to connect with the universal flow. To find these points, start with those along the midline of the skull. Feel for the hollow area that is located toward the back of the center of the top of the head. This is the One Hundred Meeting point. The Posterior Summit is one thumb-width behind this point, and the Anterior Summit is one thumb-width in front of it. The Penetrating Heaven point is one thumb-width outward from the center of the top of the head, directly up- ward from the back of the ears. Working this part of the scalp also works the crown chakra.

FIGURE 9.2: Head, scalp, neck, and face acupoints

The Neck

Sensual neck play symbolizes two people’s relationship as lovers. The neck is a very personal, erotic part of the body because it is so sensitive, is very responsive to different temperatures and sensations, and can be tick- lish. Not surprisingly, the neck contains meridians connected directly to the sacrum and pelvis, two points for sexual awakening. Furthermore, whether or not they’re aware of it, people are quite protective of their necks. Despite the visibility and accessibility of the neck, most people allow very few others to touch this most intimate part of their bodies, which is yet another reason why it becomes such a hot spot when touched. A gesture as simple as kissing your beloved on the neck before parting for a few hours can reinforce your bond and indicate there’s more intimacy to come later.

While basically any kissing, licking, nibbling, squeezing, and sucking of the neck area can feel good, having a stimulation game plan never hurts. (Note: Since men have thicker skin, a firmer touch is often needed to pro- vide adequate stimulation.) Pulling up on any cluster of hair, travel down the nape of the neck, gently caressing and kissing it. Exhale purposefully while planting wet kisses, especially along the hairline. Blowing on this area will cause your lover’s nerves to stand on end—if they aren’t already! As things become more heated, use your whole mouth and suck (it’s up

to the both of you if you want to leave a mark). Stop every now and then and suck an area with your mouth before exhaling warm air from your lungs. This will relax any neck tension and will literally help to heat things up, with your lover’s body becoming warmer. With your tongue, make swirling motions, gently massaging the area. On occasion, lovingly bite the neck.

A neck and shoulder massage, using your hands or a vibrating device, is always a welcome way to seduce your lover. If you’re in the bathtub, use a washcloth or sponge to provide extra friction as you massage (this is es- pecially pleasant because people usually have trouble accessing hard-to- reach spots by themselves). As you work your hands around the neck and shoulders, be aware that the thyroid glands, located on both sides of the throat a couple of inches below the earlobes and just behind the jawbone, hold sexual energy. Chinese medicine teaches that stimulating the thyroid gland—which also, by the way, houses the throat chakra—stimulates the sexual organs, and vice versa. Speaking the truth prevents the compromis- ing of this energy center. Sexual reflexology says that gently massaging or kissing this part of the throat energy center (Hsuan Chi) with your finger- tips frees up libidinal energy and increases sexual response. For women in particular, such stimulation increases sex drive and breast size. Further- more, the Human Welcome and Water Rushing points are located on the sides of the throat toward the front, about one finger width apart, along major arteries (see Figure 9.2). Being careful not to press them simultane- ously or too firmly, kiss or suck on them to heighten your lover’s erotic ex- perience and to enhance your harmony with the cosmos’s natural forces.

The Ears

A person’s ears can be
really
sensitive to touch. This is because there are a number of nerve endings in and around the ears. So as you stroke, kiss, nibble, lick, and pull at your partner’s ears, be sure to use care. Lightly lick your lover’s earlobes, tracing them with the wet tip of your tongue. Take them into your mouth and press them between your lips, massaging them lightly. Take the lobe between your teeth for light biting, or graze your teeth against the skin. Work your way into the ear, massaging the outer part with your lips before tracing the inside edges with your tongue. If

your lover likes it, you can explore the inner part of the ear canal with lit- tle tongue-flicking motions. You can also softly blow on the area. Pay at- tention to your lover’s responses; not everybody is crazy about these ac- tivities.

Every now and then, catch your breath, breathing hot air onto your lover’s ear, especially the back of it. With your tongue, trace tiny circles around the dip behind the ear. If your tongue and mouth tire, put your thumbs to work, pressing them into the opening of your partner’s ears. Massage the ear’s inner skin. Gently pull and tug at the earlobes and outer ear, always keeping in mind that the ears hold some of the acupressure love points. Traditional Chinese medicine maintains that the ear is packed with over 120 acupressure points that, when touched, send sexual energy throughout the body, including into the genital region.

As you’re performing these ear-pleasing actions (and since it so often goes without saying), don’t forget the role of sound in eroticizing love- making. Many kinds of music, rhythmic sounds (like drumbeats), whis- pering, chimes, bells, chanting, murmured endearments, or dirty talk can make things steamier. A lover’s singing, humming, exhaling, and paying compliments—even making satisfied noises like “Grrr”—can reinforce attraction and adoration. Likewise, an occasional silence that allows for sexy sounds such as rubbing skin, the crinkling of sheets, and a lover’s breathing and sighing is way hot.

The following exercise helps you to connect with your lover, allowing both of you to listen to each other’s sounds. Take your time as you move through each of the steps, soaking up the experience of merging.

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EXERCISE 9.4:
Merging Sound

1. Have one partner lie on their back, knees bent.
   
2. The other partner should lie on their back on top of the bottom part- ner, both facing upward.
   
3. The top partner’s head falls back over the bottom partner’s left shoulder so that the top partner’s right ear and the bottom partner’s left ear are in alignment. (Or reverse things so that the top partner’s left ear and the bottom partner’s right ear are aligned.)
   
4. Each partner uses one hand to cover their outer ear.
   
5. Close your eyes and listen to your breaths.
   
6. Make sounds, feeling them resonate within each other.
   
7. Bottom partner: Use your free hand to stimulate the top partner’s breasts, belly button, or genitals, paying particular attention to any acupressure points you have access to.
   

Result: This exercise helps lovers to stay connected through experi- encing their sound sense as one.

The Eyelids

Eyelids are easily one of the most underrated, ignored areas of the body in terms of their capacity to provide sensual stimulation. This is understand- able since people are often afraid of poking somebody in the eye or other- wise inflicting discomfort on this delicate area. But sensory exploration of the eyelid can be done without causing harm.

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EXERCISE 9.5:
Eyelid Erotica

You can provide the eyelid with unusual sensations by touching the tip of your nose to it. As you pull away, brush the eyelashes with your nose tip, carefully and slowly breathing air out through your nose for a tickling ef- fect. Next, kiss the eyebrows, massaging them with your lips. As you move your way downward across your lover’s closed eye, brush the eyelid with the warm, wet inside of your lower lip, softly soothing the lid’s delicate skin. Replace your lips with a warm finger or thumb, which will make the feelings of sensuality and closeness linger. A partner’s trust in your ability to handle this area so lovingly is endearing. Gently explore the eye sockets and lids. Run your thumbs softly over the eyeballs and over the corner crease. Make light massaging circles at the corners, moving out toward the temples. Use this opportunity to really look at your lover’s face, taking in everything you adore about it.