The No Cry Discipline Solution (65 page)

Parental training,
133–35

83, 192, 212, 228, 238, 251,

Parenting books,
17–23, 28–29

256, 259, 260, 263, 269

Parenting myths,
7–16

Myths, parenting,
7–16

explained,
8–14

explained,
8–14

qui
z, 7–8

qui
z, 7–8

Parenting skill
s, 4–5, 185.
See also

Discipline

Name calling,
274–76

building a foundation
, 24–37,

Naps
, 218.
See also
Tiredness

103–5

Neatness,
20

choice
s, 71–72

Neediness,
111

consistency,
70–71

No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle

cooperation game
s, 72–74

Ways to Help Your Baby

daily routine
s, 49–52

Sleep Through the Night,

distraction,
85–87

The
, 267

eye-to-eye discussions,
82–83

Index

291

learning tools,
13–16

Make It Talk
, 74–77

learning vs. instinctive
, 10

optional entertainmen
t, 253

Make It Talk
, 74–77

sharing,
255

myths about,
7–16

wild,
252–53

now/later technique,
84–85

wrestling,
229

patience
, 10–11

Play dates,
213

preparation,
17–23, 36

Play groups,
246–48

redirection,
85–87

Playtime behavior,
246–48

sharing knowledge
, 245

Potty humor.
See
Bathroom

taking advice
, 29–30

jokes

techniques and option
s, 69–70

Powerlessness,
64–66

theories and,
7

Praise,
122, 233, 238, 248, 263

time-out
, 96–99

sharing,
256

trial and error
, 5–6

Preventive approach,
117

when/then techni
que, 84–85

“Problem is” exercis
e, 179

you may/after you technique,

Problem-solving behavior

84–85

problems
, 53–68, 247

Parenting spectrum,
17

sibling fi ghting,
262–63

Parents as a couple
, 11–12

Professional help
, 225

exhaustion
, 145–46

Property care
, 22

pain,
145–46

Public correction
, 213

quotes from
, 93

self-neglect,
145–46

Quiet bunny,
114–15

Patience,
10–11, 39

Perfectionism,
25, 28–29

Redirection,
85–87

Pert, Candace B.
, 8

Reinforcing patterns
, 219

Physical games,
229

Relaxation
, 26, 36, 114–15, 176,

Physical touch,
229

266–67

Play,
27–28, 37

Reminder pages,
106, 125, 188

being silly,
80–81

Resistance to change,
110

biting
, 206

Responsibility,
213, 235

5-3-1 Go!,
81–82

Restaurant behavior,
249–51

happy face card
s, 94–96

Rogers, Fred
, 103

hitting,
229

Roughhousing,
252–53

292

Index

Rules,
185

Social skills
, 23

bathtub,
199

Socrates
, 4

breaking
, 30–31

“Squeeze, the,
” 232

car,
215–16

Storytelling
, 79–80

family
, 87–89

Stress
, 26, 101

group,
214

Stubbornness,
39

restaurant behavior
, 250

Swearing
, 271–73

rule-testing behavior,
156–58

sharing,
257

Talking back
, 20

Rushing,
219, 258–59

Tantrums
, 39, 42, 107–25

car problems
, 216–17

Scheduling
, 123–24, 185, 218

causes and solutions,

naps
, 270

108–11

Screaming.
See
Yelling

publi
c, 120–22

Self-discipline
, 4

tips for handling
, 112–25

Self-esteem,
31

Teaching,
119–20

Separation anxiety,
39

Teamwork
, 212

Sharing,
39, 254–57

Teasing,
39, 274–76

exemptions,
257

Teenagers,
17–23

toys
, 43

Television watching
, 22, 197, 230,

Shopping misbehavior,
258–61

266

Shouting.
See
Yelling

Thir
st, 108

Sibling fi ghting
, 21, 39, 262–64

Time-ou
t, 96–99, 229

Sickness,
111

Timers
, 203, 223

Silliness,
80–81

Timing
, 84–85

Singing,
77–78, 216

Tiredness,
53–55, 228, 246–47

Sleep issues.
See also
Tiredness

naps
, 269

bedtime,
265–67

shopping and,
261

biological clock,
266

Toothbrushing,
277–79

environmen
t, 266

Toys

exercis
e, 266

putting away
, 152–53

naps,
266, 268–70

sharing,
43, 247, 255

nutrition,
266

Traditions,
15

sleep schedule
s, 218

Traveling,
280–82

Index

293

Unhappiness,
109

Whining,
39, 71, 107–25

adul
t, 120

Validation of feelings,

car problems
, 216

112–13

causes and solutions,
108–11

Verbalization,
115

tips for handling
, 112–25

Warnings
, 222–23

Yelling,
10–11, 39, 210, 229–30,

Watching
, 248

253, 283–85

When/then technique,

You may/after you technique,

84–85, 204

84–85

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About the Author

Parenting educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better

Beginnings, Inc., a family resource and education company.

Elizabeth frequently speaks to parents at schools, hospitals, and

parent groups around the world. Her presentations are received

with enthusiasm and are praised as realistic, warm, and helpful.

She is a regular radio show guest and frequently quoted as a

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websites. She publishes a newsletter,
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Elizabeth is the author of these popular parenting books, avail-

able in eighteen languages:

• The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby

Sleep Through the Night

• The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers:

Gentle Ways to Stop Bedtime Battles and Improve Your Child’s

Sleep

• The No-Cry Potty Training Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your

Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers

• Gentle Baby Care: No-Cry, No-Fuss, No-Worry—Essential

Tips for Raising Your Baby

• Hidden Messages: What Our Words and Actions Are Really

Telling Our Children

• Perfect Parenting: The Dictionary of 1,000 Parenting Tips

• Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging and Pleading &

Get Kids to Cooperate

Elizabeth was also a contributing author to
The Successful Child

with Dr. William and Martha Sears.

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Elizabeth and her husband, Robert, live in the state of Wash-

ington, along with their four children, Angela, Vanessa, David,

and Coleton, and Grama (Elizabeth’s mother). Elizabeth is an

involved participant in her children’s school and sports activities

and has served in positions as varied as softball coach and school

PTA president.

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