Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation (21 page)

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

The Rewards of Being Present

My wife and I attended your “Making Love” course this year and completely changed our style of sex. We decided that sex has to have high priority in our lives. We make three or four appointments for making love on weekends, and two or three during the week. And in the morning we often do exercises; I like to stretch my body and get a feeling of my perinium and pelvic floor area. It is beautiful to be connected to my wife and closer through making love. We have less stress and tension around sex since we began practicing cool sex. And we laugh more while making love, for example when we change position. For me it is good that my wife always feels my penis. There is only one condition: To be present. I think my challenge is to be present and to learn to talk about my feelings.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

Postmenopause Miracle

Since we’d been working on ourselves for more than twenty-five years and giving mental training seminars for three years, we had the feeling we knew at least the tip of the iceberg, yet you taught us much, much more.

For the past ten years, since the changes due to menopause, we had given up sexuality, but we are now living what we both call a “wonder” or a “miracle.” All the doctors and the few trainer/teachers we had approached confirmed that in nature, “Women are, in fact, old models,” and that we would have to live with this situation. I adjusted, but fortunately, my wife did not give up. She had the feeling that despite not being fond of sex, something was missing in our marital partnership.

Since we met you on the first night of the “Making Love” seminar, and after our very difficult and depressing experience on the following afternoon, we began making love two to three times a day with utmost pleasure and love. Although all the doctors (including a gynecologist) told us that the dry, closed, and painful vagina could only be reactivated with the help of regular hormone therapy, which my wife did not want at all, things have actually worked out to be as they were in our very young days. She is smooth and lubricated, and with love and pleasure as never before, not even at age twenty-five. For us this is a wonder. And with this completion of the circle, the love, tenderness, pleasure, care, ease, and happiness that has entered our partnership is at its very best. Nobody knows how happy we are, except us, of course.

With the easy way things are going now, we both believe your words—that this world can live in peace and happiness. We are spreading the word and hope that eventually it will reach all humans, and that all those who can see and feel the truth will live a new life with joy.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

Making Appointments for Lovemaking

First, thank you once again for the beautiful week. It was a milestone in my personal journey toward myself. Now, after a week of practicing what we learned from you during the retreat, I notice that I feel completely different—calm, present, happy, and content—and many tensions have disappeared. Although my everyday life continues to have many obligations, I am going through it more serenely and without hurry.

The fact that I have dropped the very idea of goals in lovemaking gives me a totally different feeling in my body, mind, and emotions. Now I know that I don’t need to go anywhere or do anything, but just feel and rest in the present moment. This gives me enormous trust in myself and in life, because now I know that I don’t need to create anything and that I just have to wait for things to happen on their own. Also, the fact that my wife and I make appointments to make love is a totally different approach in our relationship, because knowing that we both are willing to go forward in lovemaking makes me satisfied and without anxiety. I don’t need to wonder whether she wants to be with me or not; I know she wants! And this is such a relaxing feeling.

All of your “Love Keys” are so important: eye contact, slow penetration, breathing, heart opening, and so on. But one of the most important things is that lovemaking becomes like a continuous exploration, because so many things are coming to the surface. Sometimes we don’t know what is going on—misunderstandings also arise—but at the end the sky becomes clear and serene and we have new insights. In any case we feel closer to each other and more loving. Of course we have just opened this door a little, and we know that we have just a little experience of what we have learned from you, but it seems like a new page in our lives.

LETTER SHARING (WIFE OF THE ABOVE MAN)

Healing Hatred toward Men

I would like to add a few things important to me. In our lovemaking many of my old fears, distrust, and anger toward men came out. It was sometimes very difficult for me to accept all my old hatred toward men, but I managed it, seeing that my husband is not that kind of man at this moment. He is full of love and compassion, and that helps me a lot. But also after those difficult moments, today we had some wonderful experiences. Feeling his penis inside, doing nothing, was such a tremendous joy, I felt that now life is beautiful, and it just goes on and on. It is some kind of miracle for me, and I thank you for that.

For me it’s sometimes difficult to look at all the things that are coming up, to accept that lovemaking is like meditation, and to just watch what is coming up and not do something about it. But I like this process very much and see that I can become more aware through it, so it feels right for me.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

Our Lovemaking Is Helping to Heal the Earth

Our lives have changed a lot in the past seven years, since we have changed a lot. We still pursue the same professions, own the same house, and so on, but within us something has changed considerably. We feel, sense, and see more, and most of all, we have learned to feel, sense, and see inside. In our daily encounters we reach physical, mental, and spiritual depths that we never considered possible.

Our love journeys have diversified. They lead us deep into our bodies, to Mother Earth, through space, to the sun, through the chakras and their colors, to temples, angels, and through previous lives. On physical, mental, and spiritual levels we are creating healing connections for our own healing and for the healing of others. We are sending healing energies to the earth, to war zones and disaster areas. We are breaking patterns from our past and from past lives.

We do all this in a deep loving connection, feeling the golden ring that streams from the penis to the breasts through the vagina, the garden of love, the kundalini line, and the organs. This golden ring stays with us throughout our everyday life. It also streams when we are not actually physically connected. It streams across continents, and we can sense our love connection physically when we are apart.

This ring, which we forged in our first tantra course, gets stronger and stronger, and we realize that the people around us can feel it, even if they know nothing about our tantric connection. We relate differently to life; we’re more awake, more conscious.

Due to our healing connection we can participate in world affairs on a spiritual level, and we sense that it makes a difference. Our tantric connections are evolving. We feel this again and again with great pleasure.

LETTER SHARING (MAN)

Gratefully Relieved of a Job

I am writing to express gratitude for the beautiful and profound retreat that my woman and I attended in December 2008. For forty years I have been searching, researching, and experimenting, knowing deep down that lovemaking holds the key to the expression of love between a man and a woman. This search led me to tantra fifteen years ago, and with each workshop since, with some of the best teachers in the Western world, I ended up with just another set of techniques that focused on achieving various phenomena. Little did I realize that each of these was distracting me from what I wanted most, namely, to connect in love with my lover. What I learned in the “Making Love” retreat is that this is totally available for me in stillness in lovemaking. When my mind and body are still my heart opens and my penis becomes a vehicle of loving, healing male energy.