Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

Dedicated to Mother Earth

Tantric Inspiration

Even after a lifetime of sexual experience we never reach anywhere near that supreme stage, near that divinity. Why? A man reaches a ripe old age, comes to the end of his life, but he is never free from his lust for sex, from his passion for intercourse. Why? It is because he has never understood nor been told about the art of sex, about the science of sex. He has never considered it; he has never discussed it with the enlightened ones.

OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
FROM SEX TO SUPERCONSCIOUSNESS

CONTENTS

Cover Image

Title Page

Dedication

Preface by Michael Richardson

Introduction

 
1
 
Male Burden of Performance

RELAXING INSTEAD OF PERFORMING

HUMANS NEED MORE SEX

EXPLORATION AND VULNERABILITY

SEXUAL CONDITIONING AND HOW IT SHAPES US

 
2
 
Involuntary Ejaculation and Desensitization

EXCITEMENT CAUSES PREMATURE EJACULATION

SENSATION REDUCES SENSITIVITY

WOMEN’S SEXUAL RELUCTANCE

 
3
 
Ejaculation Is Not Male Orgasm

LOSS OF ENERGY AFTER EJACULATION

CONTAINING THE LIFE FORCE

BENEFITS OF COOLING DOWN

 
4
 
The Equal and Opposite Force of the Female Environment

MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME

SHIFT FROM SENSATION TO SENSITIVITY

 
5
 
The Penis—A Potent Electromagnetic Instrument

SEXUAL CONDITIONING INFLUENCES SEXUAL BEHAVIOR

DEVELOPING SENSITIVITY THROUGH BEING CONSCIOUS

A HIGHLY SENSITIVE MAGNET

 
6
 
Awareness, Movement, Penetration, and Erection

AWARENESS

MOVEMENT

THE ART OF CONSCIOUS PENETRATION

SPONTANEOUS ERECTION AND IMPOTENCE

 
7
 
Dates, Foreplay, Kissing, and Positions

MAKE LOVE DATES

FOREPLAY

TANTRIC KISSING

POSITIONS DURING SEX

 
8
 
Sexual Healing and Male Authority

VAGINA, NOT CLITORIS

THE PENIS AS HEALING CATALYST

STAYING PRESENT

DEEP, SUSTAINED PENETRATION

ALLOW OLD FEELINGS TO SURFACE

POSITIONS SUITABLE FOR DEEP, SUSTAINED PENETRATION

PARTNERING WITH WOMEN

 
9
 
Mastering Love and Overcoming Emotions

DISTINGUISHING BETWEEN EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS

OVERCOMING FEARS CREATED BY LACK OF LOVE

GOLDEN RULES FOR GETTING RID OF EMOTION

THE ROLE OF EMOTIONS IN SEX

EXPRESSING FEELINGS IN THE PRESENT

HUMANS NEED LOVEMAKING FOR CONTINUED WELL-BEING

MALE AUTHORITY THROUGH TAKING RESPONSIBLE ACTION

10
Personal Experiences

APPENDIX
Exercises for Improving Your Awareness and Sensitivity

Recommended Books and Resources

About the Authors

About Inner Traditions • Bear & Company

Copyright & Permissions

Tantric Inspiration

When sex is just an unconscious, mechanical urge in you, it is wrong. Remember, sex is not wrong: just the mechanicalness of it is wrong. If you can bring some light of intelligence into your sexuality, that light will transform it. It will not be sexuality anymore—it will be something totally different, so different that you do not have a word for it.

In the East we have a word for it—Tantra. In the West you don’t have a word for it. When sex becomes joined together, is yoked with intelligence, a totally new energy is created—that energy is called Tantra.

OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
PHILOSOPHIA PERENNIS

PREFACE

By Michael Richardson

Sex is not what it seems to be. We all have inherited preconceptions and ideas about sex, which are mostly false and form a screen, or barrier, that separates us from the real power of sex. When we look beyond the inherited screen of misunderstanding we discover that sex is completely different from what we generally think it is. Through sexual exploration I personally have discovered the true function of sex, which is to bring more love into the world. Each and every person can be a messenger of love by creating more love and contributing it to the world.

The screen of conditioning—our past experiences and ideas—limits our human sexual expression. After all, what does a man want when he makes love to a woman? What is the ultimate reason for making love? It is not to achieve ejaculation; it is to be loved by the woman.

Woman is the source of love, the mother of love, and I, as a man, am able to tap into that love. For me, love is what it is all about. Being in the here and now, I’ve discovered that in stillness, including inner stillness during movement, I can tap into or connect with the “garden of love” in woman. And there is nothing more satisfying and touching than seeing a woman radiating, blossoming in love.

I do have hope for humanity. The only hope is for man to find a way through his screen of conditioned sexuality, so that he may come to rest within his male authority. So that he can make peace with woman and make love to her body, heart, and soul.

INTRODUCTION

There are a great many books about sex offering a range of techniques best described as the “effort” or “doing” approach. Little is mentioned about the “relaxed” or “non-doing” approach in sex, which is why we decided to write a book from the man’s perspective. The non-doing approach is not a technique, but the opportunity to change yourself through changing the ways you express yourself sexually. The orientation is one of sexual union as a meditation in which the intelligence is handed back to the genitals.

Tantric Sex for Men
also complements the previously published
Tantric Orgasm for Women,
which many men say is actually a book for men. Nonetheless, to explore sex specifically from the male perspective is of immense value. Readers are also referred to
The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment,
which offers the “Love Keys” and many specific details about lovemaking that do not necessarily appear in this book. Here our intention is to offer a completely new picture of sex, one that brings about a revolutionary and evolutionary shift in the way we
think
about sex, and therefore express ourselves in sex. Through a change of mindset we can intentionally allow the body to relax into its inner wisdom and express itself as nature intended.