How to Be a Great Lover (10 page)

1. • HAND CROSS
     

     (requires a semierect to fully erect penis)
     

     On first glance there may seem to be a lot of steps in The Hand Cross but believe me, once learned, it's like riding a bicycle. This is another favorite; as one husband of a seminar attendee reported, 'When she starts those short up-and-down moves in one place, my eyes roll back into my head."
     

     Step 1
     . Apply lubricant generously to both hands.
     

     Step 2
     . Place one hand (your dominant hand) vertically in front of you, fingers up, palm facing away.
     

     Step 3
     . Place your free hand horizontally in front
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     of the palm of the other at a ninety-degree angle. The palm of your free hand should face you.
     

     Step 4
     . Lock the thumb of your horizontal hand unto the thumb "V" ()I the vertical hand to stabilize your hands, creating a cross with your hands.
     

     Step 5
     . Curl the fingers of your
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     horizontal hand around and place the fingertips on the side of the vertical hand, making a tube.
     

     Step 6
     . It is essential that the fingers of your vertical hand be kept flexed and erect at all times. Thu important stroking area in this technique is the upper palm, just below your
     vertical hand's fingers. To give 8
     

     yourself a better idea of how this works, with your vertical fingers flexed back use your other hand to feel the ridge at the base of your fingers across the width of your hand. Now drop your vertical fingers forward at a ninety-degree angle to your palm. Do you see how that nice firm ridge has disappeared? That is why it is so important in this technique to keep your fingers flexed back.
     

     Step 7
     . With your hands in the cross position described in step 5, gently lower this "tube" over his penis, establishing a snug "impostor vagina" fit with your horizontal hand. This is the hand that establishes the pressure fit in this stroke. Go slowly. Your goal here is to mimic the sensation of when the head, typically the widest part of his penis, is first entering you.
     

     Step 8
     . This is in two parts:
     

   • Start with short, slow, up-and-down strokes, making sure the ridge of the vertical hand moves on and over the frenulum of his penis (the little V-notch on the underside of the shaft, just below the head—this is typically the most sensitive area of the penis).
     
   • Be sure the web of skin between the thumb and index finger of your horizontal hand is gently "catching" the edge of the glans (the head of his penis) as your hands stroke up and over the head.
     

Step 9
. Adjust the length of your stroke by imagining you are on top of him and just allowing the tip of the head of his penis to enter your body Then vary the speed, pressure, and length of the stroke, mimicking vaginal thrusts. But keep in mind that too much of the same motion at the beginning can cause numbing. Try to vary the speed and pressure of your hands.

Step 10
. Every once in a while, let your hands move all the way down to the base of his penis. As you go down the shaft, split the index and middle finger of your vertical hand into a

"V," allowing the penis to go between them. Be sure to
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maintain the gentle pressure

with your horizontal hand on the back of the shaft from the tip of the head down to the base. If you have smaller hands, splitting your fingers can be uncomfortable. Don't worry: I know many small-handed ladies who have found they can drop their vertical
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hand to the horizontal position for a full downward stroke and resume the vertical position once back at the top.

Step 11
. Once at the base, reverse the downward stroke by dropping the "V" of your vertical hand so the index and second fingers, which are on either side of his shaft, are now
pointing down toward his tummy. Then slide your hands back up to the head of his penis and continue again with steps 2-8.

SCULPTRESS

(ideal for soft, semierect, or fully erect penis)

Imagine yourself as Demi Moore in the movie Ghost: you're at a potter's wheel and his whole body is yours to sculpt. Your actual position could be beside, on top, or behind him; anywhere that gives you access to his body Men often become preoccupied with their designated "sexual" parts, overlooking the other parts crucial to their sexual excitement—specifically their arms, legs, and torso. Now, with most of your body pressing against his back (remember, our skin is our largest sexual organ), stroke him, while doing The Swirl (page 50).

COIFFEUSE

(ideal for soft, semierect, or fully erect penis)

This technique was discovered quite by accident by a woman with long hair. It got caught on her husband's penis as she

was changing positions. Much to her surprise, he loved it and

1. the rest is history. You can use
   

   your own long hair, buy a wig, or use a velvety or silky scarf. DO NOT use lubricant for this one, unless you wish to end up with helmet head hair or a gooped up scarf.
   

   Step 1
   . Position your partner
   

2. so he can watch what you are doing. The best position is to
   

   sit up, facing each other. If you're in bed, place pillows behind him to prop him up. Standing up usually doesn't allow him to be relaxed enough to concentrate on the sensations. He's too busy trying to stand or hang on.
   

   Step 2
   . Wrap or twirl a large chunk of your hair or a scarf around his shaft. If his penis is not erect at this point, chances are it wifl be soon.
   

   Step 3
   . Use a gentle up-and-down twisting motion. Imagine using one hand from Basket Weaving, with your hair underneath creating a new movable texture. To see how this would feel on him, try the texture sensation on yourself. Wrap a chunk of your hair around two or three of your fingers, pretending they are his penis. See the difference? You can also use your hair or a scarf like His Pearl Necklace (page 205). Pull or stroke under the testicles, lifting gently.
   

   FYI: Be careful about knotting silk scarves as often the knots become so tight you can't undo them and you'll ruin the scarf.
   

   TOGETHERNESS
   

   (ideal for soft, semierect, or fully erect penis)
   

   This technique accentuates your awareness of the degree of pressure and the style of stroking your partner prefers. The best position for him is sitting up so he can reach your hands more easily.
   

   Step 1
   . Apply lubricant generously to both your and your lover's hands.
   

   Step 2
   . Position your hands one on either side of the shaft of his penis. Have the little finger side of your hands on his tummy, palms facing one another, penis held in between. If he is erect, position him in an upright stance; if he's not yet
   

   erect, scoop his penis gently up into what will be his
   

   1. upright position.
      

      Step 3
      . Ask him to place his hands on the outside of yours and guide the motion of your hands. Up and down, twisting, one hand, two? Notice how he moves your hands.
      

      Step 4
      . Take turns creating
      

   2. different motions and ask