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Stimulation of the backside’s Womb and Vitals acupressure points (see Figure 2.1) benefits a woman’s reproductive system, increasing circula- tion and sexual pleasure throughout her pelvis, and it also nurtures her womb and other reproductive organs. These two points are located one to two finger-widths midway between the top of the buttocks and the top of the hip bone, level with the top of the sacrum.

One of the best ways to stimulate these points while focusing on the clitoris is to have her lie on top of you, facing your feet, as you orally stimu- late her. You can also scoop your hands under her buttocks to activate these points if she prefers to be on her back during cunnilingus. In what- ever position is most comfortable for the both of you, try holding these points as you slowly make large and small circles with your tongue around her clitoris. As she reaches climax, gently suck on her clit and apply slightly more pressure to these points.

FIGURE 2.1: The locations of the Womb and Vitals, Crooked Bone, and Transverse Bone acupressure points

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EXERCISE 2.6:
Touch Her Here

There are three other acupressure points on her abdominal side that you can stimulate while performing oral sex (note: these are
not
to be stimu- lated during pregnancy): the Crooked Bone point, in the center of the top edge of the pubic bone, and the two Transverse Bone points, each half a finger-width from the midline on either side, on the upper border of the pubic bone (see Figure 2.1 on the previous page). Place your fingers on these points as you kneel between your lover’s knees. Using your fingers to draw skin away from the pubic bone toward the navel better exposes the clitoris as you begin oral stimulation, kissing, licking, or sucking on the clitoris. Such moves will increase sexual energy and awareness and regulate her reproductive system.

Yoga Poses for Clitoral Stimulation

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POSE 2.1:
Clitoral Stimulation and Vaginal Relaxation

Her position:
She is in the Goddess Pose (Supta Baddha Konasana), lying on her back with the soles of her feet together, knees falling out to the sides. She can rest her hands on her belly or on her partner’s buttocks.

YOGA POSE 2.1: Clitoral stimulation and vaginal relaxation

Her partner’s position:
Facing the same direction as the bottom part- ner’s feet, her partner is above her in Upward Dog (Urdhva Muhka Svana- sana), legs spread along her sides. To get into this position, place your hands by the bottom partner’s feet and lift your upper body so that your belly or pelvis grazes the area between her legs as you slowly lower your hips to the ground. Upward Dog involves having your weight distributed on your lower legs, knees, and hands, with your arms straight and your back curving upward. Both lovers should breathe deeply, attempting to synchronize the breath as each inhale and exhale becomes longer, deeper, and slower. Hold this pose for up to five minutes.

Results:
Her vaginal-wall muscles become relaxed and her sexual pleasure is enhanced, especially as her clitoris is grazed by her lover’s lower torso. Resting her hands on her lower belly will help her to focus her attention on the sacral chakra, opening and stimulating it, especially as she chan- nels her breath.

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POSE 2.2:
Clitoral Stimulation and Heart Connection

Her partner’s position:
The lover is in Fish Pose (Matsyasana). Lie on your back, with your legs straight, toes pointed upward. Lift your pelvis off the floor enough to slide your hands, palms down, under your but- tocks. Tucking your forearms and elbows close to the sides of your torso, press them against the floor. As you inhale, lift your upper torso and head away from the floor. Gently place your head back onto the floor so that the crown rests against it; your back, including the neck, is arched.

YOGA POSE 2.2: Clitoral stimulation and heart connection

Her position:
She straddles her partner’s hips, with her heels against her partner’s upper thighs in a supported Hero’s Pose (Virasana). Inhale and extend your upper body forward over your partner’s heart, and lie down on your lover. Your hands are at your sides.

Hold for one to five minutes, breathing together deeply.

Results:
Lying on top of her partner provides pressure against her clitoris. The partner in the Fish Pose becomes sexually invigorated from the po- sition, with their heart chakra opening. Both partners feel connected through the heart, transferring energy and upper-body warmth.

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POSE 2.3:
Clitoral Stimulation and Genital Pressure

Her position:
She is in Bridge Pose (Setu Bandha), lying on her back with her arms at her sides, knees bent and feet placed flat on the floor or bed, hip-width apart. With your chin about a fist’s distance from your chest, lift your lower back, interlacing your fingers together underneath it.

YOGA POSE 2.3: Clitoral stimulation and genital pressure

Her partner’s position:
Her partner is kneeling between her legs, facing her. With your hips pressed against hers, pull her pelvis upward, support- ing her upper buttocks with your hands as she leans back.

Hold for up to two minutes, breathing deeply.

Results:
This position opens her heart center, releasing bottled-up emo- tions and unwanted stress, as well as providing pressure against her cli-

toris and buttocks.
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For those who love the clit, stimulating it never becomes old. To shake things up a bit, try shaving her pubic hair for more direct stimulation; tying bows in her pubes to give the area a new look; wearing a garter belt, thigh-highs, and crotchless panties; using edible underwear; or ducking under her long skirt, taking her G-string off with your teeth, and shaking your hair against her vulva as things get really hot down there! The more ways you learn to stimulate the clitoris, the better. Make a mental note of all of the things we covered in this chapter since they’re going to come in extra handy in Chapter 14, when you learn how to help her cum in several different positions.

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Her Vaginal Hot Spots for Orgasmic Eruption

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uring sexual arousal, a woman’s vaginal walls fill with blood, causing the outer third of her vagina to swell and throb with desire. Like-

wise, the urethral sponge, a cluster of erectile tissue surrounding the ure- thra, becomes engorged with blood and swells during sexual excitement. As the urethral sponge bulges, becoming firmer, the much sought-after “Holy Grail” of hot spots—the
Gräfenberg spot,
or
G-spot,
named after its original researcher, Dr. Ernest Gräfenberg—comes to life (see Figure 3.1). This priceless pleasure trove consists of a small mass of spongy erec- tile nerve tissue, paraurethral ducts and glands, and blood vessels, all lo- cated between the pubic bone and the front of the cervix—about two inches in from the vaginal opening on the front (stomach) side of the va- gina. The size of the tissue and the paraurethral glands it contains vary from woman to woman, but in its unaroused state it is typically the size of a pea. When stimulated effectively, it becomes prominent, enlarging to about the size of a half dollar. The sensitive G-spot does not lie directly on the vaginal wall but can be felt
through
it, in the center or slightly to the left or right of the center.

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FIGURE 3.1: The internal female genitalia

Why Is the G-Spot One of the Hottest of the Hot Spots?

The G-spot’s appeal is twofold. First, as a woman goes through the sexual- response cycle, this erogenous area becomes charged by one of the most powerful nerves in the body, the pelvic nerve, which is connected to the bladder, uterus, urethra, female prostate (another name for the G-spot), PC muscle, and uterine muscles. Compared to the clitoris, its pleasure re- lease is not nearly as concentrated or as quick to peak. This spot’s erotic sensations simmer for some time when stimulated during sex play, lei- surely reaching a boiling point before suddenly “rocking” a woman’s en- tire reproductive system with muscle spasms that penetrate her core being, leading to an explosive orgasmic eruption.