The Marriage Book (84 page)

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Kwei-Li. Letter to her husband, circa 1886. In Elizabeth Cooper,
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Laclos, Choderlos de.
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Lattimore, Richmond. “Anniversary.”
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Lavner, Justin A., Benjamin R. Karney, and Thomas N. Bradbury. “Do Cold Feet Warn of Trouble Ahead? Premarital Uncertainty and Four-Year Marital Outcomes.”
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Lawrence, D. H.
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Lederer, Charles, Ben Hecht, and Charles MacArthur.
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“A Letter of Advice, From a Father to His Only Daughter, Immediately after Her Marriage.”
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Levine, Philip. “For Fran,” 1961.
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Levinson, Barry.
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Levy, David M.
Maternal Overprotection
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Levy, John, and Ruth Munroe.
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Lewis, C. S.
The Pilgrim’s Regress: An Allegorical Apology for Christianity, Reason and Romanticism
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Lilley, Stephen. “How to Propose on the Yankee Stadium Big Screen,” 2011. Online at
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Lindbergh, Anne Morrow.
Gift From the Sea
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Loesser, Frank. “Marry the Man Today,” 1949. From
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Lonergan, Kenneth, Peter Tolan, and Harold Ramis.
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Long, H. W.
Sane Sex Life and Sane Sex Living: Some Things That All Sane People Ought to Know About Sex Nature and Sex Functioning; Its Place in the Economy of Life, Its Proper Training and Righteous Exercise
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Mackenzie, Sir George.
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Mahler, Gustav. Letter to Alma Mahler, September 5, 1910. In Henry-Louis De La Grange,
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Mainardi, Pat. “The Politics of Housework,”
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Dear Sisters: Dispatches from the Women’s Liberation Movement
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Manchester, William.
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New York: Harper & Row, 1967, pp. 293–94. Copyright © 1967 and renewed © 1995 by William Manchester. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers and Don Congdon Associates, Inc.
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Mankiewicz, Joseph L.
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Manu.
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Maria Theresa. Letter to Marie Antoinette, June 2, 1775. In Margaret Anne Macleod, ed.,
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Márquez, Gabriel García.
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“Marriage and Cookery.”
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“Marriage and Health.”
The Milwaukee Sentinel
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“The Marriage Colors,” circa 1933. In “Voices from the Dust Bowl: The Charles L. Todd and Robert Sonkin Migrant Worker Collection, 1940–1942.” Online at American Memory Project.
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A Married Man. “The Marriage Injunction to Obey,” letter to the editor.
St. Louis Globe-Democrat
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Marshall, Margaret. Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court decision, 2003.
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Martin, Martin.
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Marx, Groucho.
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Marx, Marvin and Walter Stone. “A Woman’s Work is Never Done.”
The Honeymooners
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Maupin, Armistead.
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Mazursky, Paul.
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McDonald, Sharon. “What Mother Never Told Me.” In
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McEwan, Ian.
On Chesil Beach
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McGinley, Phyllis. “The 5:32.”
The New Yorker
, October 25, 1941, p. 19. Reprinted in
Times Three: Selected Verse From Three Decades
. Copyright © 1960 by Phyllis McGinley. Used by permission of Viking Penguin, a division of Penguin Books (USA) Inc. and Random House (UK) Ltd.
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McGraw, Phil. “Marriage Meltdown.”
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“Men, Women and Affairs.”
Springfield Sunday Republican
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Mencken, H. L.
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Mencken, H. L., and George Jean Nathan.
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New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1920, p. 131.
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Menninger, Karl. Letter to a
Ladies’ Home Journal
reader, “Mrs. P.,” 1930. In Howard J. Faulkner and Virginia D. Pruitt, eds.,
Dear Dr. Menninger: Women’s Voices from the Thirties
. Columbia, MO: University of Missouri Press, 1997, pp. 135–36. Copyright © 1930. Reprinted by permission.
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Merwin, W. S. “Anniversary on the Island.” In
Poems by W. S. Merwin
. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1988, p. 34. Copyright © 1988 by W. S. Merwin. Used by permission of the Wylie Agency, LLC; and Alfred A. Knopf, an imprint of the Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group, a division of Random House, LLC. All rights reserved.
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