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Harrison, Olivia. Interviewed in
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Hawthorne, Nathaniel. Note to Sophia Hawthorne, 1843. In Philip McFarland,
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Hayes, John Michael.
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Haywood, Eliza. Book X, 1745. In Patricia Meyer Spacks, ed.,
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Héloïse. Letter to Abelard, 12th century. In
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Herrick, Robert. “To the Virgins, to Make Much of Time,” 1648. In Herbert P. Horne, ed.,
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Heywood, John. Proverbs, 1546. In Julian Sharman, ed.,
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Hill, Thomas E.
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Homer.
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Honorius of Autun. Sermon, 12th century. Quoted in Michael Sheehan, “
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“The Householder of Paris.”
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“How To Avoid a Bad Husband.”
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Howe, Julia Ward. Letter to Ann Eliza Ward, 1846. In Laura E. Richards, Maud Howe Elliott, and Florence Howe Hall, eds.,
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Hubbard, Elbert.
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Hudson, Virginia Cary.
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Hugo, Victor. Letter to Adèle Foucher, October 20, 1821. In Elizabeth W. Latimer, trans.,
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Hutton, Isabel Emslie.
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Ibsen, Henrik.
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Iovine, Vicki. “Seven Habits of Really Happy Wives.”
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Islamic Shari’ah Council. Muslim marriage contract, 2008. Online at
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Italian mother. Advice to her daughter, circa 1300. In Diane Bornstein,
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James, Henry.
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Jefferis, B. G., and J. L. Nichols.
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A Jeweler. “Men’s Marriage Rings,” editorial reprinting
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Johnson, Lady Bird. Letter to Lyndon Johnson, August 25, 1964. In
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Johnson, Nunnally.
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Johnson, Samuel. Letter to Thomas Lawrence, 1780. In Myrtle Reed,
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———, 1768 and circa 1770. Quoted in James Boswell,
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Jong, Erica.
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Just, Ward. “Honor, Power, Riches, Fame, and the Love of Women” (novella), 1973. In
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Juvenal. “The Ways of Women,” 1st–2nd century. In Mary R. Lefkowitz and Maureen B. Fant, eds.,
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Kafka, Franz. Diary, 1913. In Max Brod, ed., and Joseph Kresh, trans.,
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Kaufman, George S., Morrie Ryskind, Bert Kalmar, and Harry Ruby.
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Keillor, Garrison. “How to Improve Your Marriage in Just One Day.” The Old Scout,
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King, Stephen. “Proust Questionnaire.”
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Klaus, Marley. “25 Years.”
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