The Anal Sex Position Guide (19 page)

Since then, we play a little game, but one where we both come out winners. If my team wins on the court, I get to get fucked. If I lose, she does. See? It’s win-win. But we also try to up the stakes. We
recently scored a powerful victory, and what I saw in my mind’s eye wasn’t the other team trudging off the court or the cute cheerleaders calling my name, but my wife’s ass, raised high in the air, waiting for me. I snuck off to a sex toy store and bought a butt plug. “All the better to fuck you with, my dear,” I said to her when her eyes bulged when I gave it to her.

Maybe I should’ve started with one of the “beginner” models but my wife is such a slut for anal sex that I have a feeling she was never truly a beginner. She’s told me she’s fantasized about it since she first learned to finger herself, and always considered her ass to be an erogenous zone. Lucky her. Some of us are late bloomers.

I couldn’t help but wonder what the curved, cone-shaped silicone toy would feel like up my ass, so I’d gotten one for me, too. I hadn’t told her that yet, but had worked it inside me with the aid of some lube earlier. If you’ve never tried it, let me tell you, wearing a butt plug is enough to keep a man hard all day. I almost had to take it out, lest my secret be revealed, but I also liked running errands with this toy inside me. I have to be so macho on the court, an alpha male, and most of my teammates would sooner die than admit they let their wife do them in the ass.

But not me. I don’t go around bragging, but if anyone asks, I tell them the truth. And the truth was that I was about to give my wife the greatest orgasm of her life! I started by kissing her deeply, devouring her mouth with my tongue while gently playing with her pussy. Soon she was moaning and twisting and clearly angling for me to get to her backdoor. I made sure to lick her there until her hole gleamed with my saliva.

Then I took the lube and poured some directly into her hole. She whimpered, turning back to look at me like I held the key to her prayers. Then I gave her the toy to suck on, her pretty lips wrapping around it the same way she does to my cock. If there’s anything Katya likes almost as much as getting fucked in the ass, it’s giving blowjobs, and this really set her off. A few sucks and I pulled it out, leaned my hand against her upper back, and started easing the plug into her. “You can do it,” I told her, as my own plug seemed to plunge deeper into my crack, as if it knew what was going on. “Open for me, just like that,” I said soothingly, and that’s just what Katya did.

She took deep, rhythmic breaths through her nose as I guided the toy home. Then it was time to show her her other surprise. I still had my boxers on, and I instructed her to reach behind her and play with the plug. Then I took off all my clothes and squatted before her. “I have one too—we match,” I said, laughing as she stared at the red plug nestled between my butt cheeks. “Do you want to touch it?”

Suddenly I wasn’t sure if I’d gone too far. But Katya was more than game, and she managed to work her plug and my own at the same time. Having her touch me so intimately (and yes, it was still intimate even with a sex toy) while getting herself off meant having the best of both worlds, like sixty-nine for ass-fucking. I didn’t last long, and soon I came powerfully, ejecting the plug into her palm.

I massaged her pussy while she gave me a show as she manipulated her plug, and I felt firsthand just what effect the toy was having on her. So you see, my motto (at least, my private one) is, it’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you fuck afterward that counts. With Katya and our shared fondness for backdoor loving, the outcome is always a happy one.

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Rachel Kramer Bussel (
rachelkramerbussel.com
) has edited over 20 books of erotica, including
Spanked, Rubber Sex, Dirty Girls, Yes, Sir, Yes, Ma’am, He’s on Top, She’s on Top,
and
Best Sex Writing 2008.
She hosts In The Flesh Erotic Reading Series, is Senior Editor at
Penthouse Variations,
and wrote the Lusty Lady column for
The Village Voice.

FOR SOME PEOPLE
, exploring anal sex moves them outside their comfortable erotic routine. Well, trying a new position can do the very same thing. Experimenting with different sex positions doesn’t just put your body in a different place, it can put your mind somewhere new as well. Think about what a new position can potentially bring you and your partner. You can see yourself and each other from a new angle. You can move your bodies in different ways and experience unique sensations. You can observe from an unexpected vantage point and explore new territory. Don’t think of positions as simply the ways bodies can fit together. Think of them as lenses for seeing each other in a new light. Think of them as paths to places you haven’t yet been. Think of them as tools for opening up your mind, sparking electricity, and inspiring fantasies.

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Consensual Spanking
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The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
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A selection of sex-positive retail and online stores with sex toys, books, videos, and safer sex supplies. Many of them are women-owned and run, and all are women and couples-friendly.

Aphrodite’s Toy Box
aphroditestoybox.com
3040 N. Decatur Road
Scottdale, GA 30079
404.292.9700

Art of Loving
artofloving.ca
1819 West Fifth Ave.
Vancouver, British Columbia
Canada V6J 1P5
604.742.9988

Aslan Leather
aslanleather.com
877.467.1526

A Woman’s Touch
a-womans-touch.com
888-621-8880
600 Williamson St.
Madison, WI 53703
608.250.1928

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200 N. Jefferson St.
Milwaukee, WI 53202
414.221.0400

Babeland
babeland.com
800.658.9119

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707 East Pike St.
Seattle, WA 98122
206.328.2914

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94 Rivington St.
New York, NY 10002
212.375.1701

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43 Mercer St.
New York, NY 10013
212.966.2120

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462 Bergen St.
Brooklyn, NY 11217
718.638.3820

Blowfish
blowfish.com
800.325.2569

Come As You Are
comeasyouare.com
701 Queen St. West
Toronto, Ontario
Canada M6J 1E6
877.858.3160

Early to Bed
early2bed.com
5232 N. Sheridan
Chicago, IL 60640
773.271.1219

Eros Boutique
erosboutique.com
581A Tremont St.
Boston MA 02118
866.425.0345

Forbidden Fruit
forbiddenfruit.com
512 Neches
Austin, TX 78701
800.315.2029

Good for Her
goodforher.com
175 Harbord St.
Toronto, Ontario
Canada M5S 1H3
416.588.0900

Good Vibrations
goodvibes.com
800.289.8423

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603 Valencia St.
San Francisco, CA 94110
415.522.5460

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1620 Polk St.
San Francisco, CA 94109
415.345.0400

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2504 San Pablo Ave.
Berkeley, CA 94702
510.841.8987

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308-A Harvard St.
Brookline, MA 02446
617.264.4400

Hysteria
hysteriashop.com
114 S. Broadway
Denver, CO 80209
303.733.3373

It’s My Pleasure
4258 SE Hawthorne Blvd.
Portland, OR 97215
503.236.0505

JT’s Stockroom
stockroom.com
2809½ W. Sunset Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90026
800.755.8697

Liberator Shapes
liberatorshapes.com
866.542.7283

Miko
mikoexoticwear.com
268 Wickenden St.
Providence, RI 02903
401.421.9787

My Pleasure
mypleasure.com
866.697.5327

Nomia Boutique
nomiaboutique.com
24 Exchange St., Suite 215
Portland, ME 04101
207.773.4774

Oh My: A Sensuality Shop
ohmysensuality.com
2c Conz St.
Northampton, MA 01060
413.584.9669

Passional Toys
passional.net
620 S. 5th St.
Philadelphia, PA 19147
215.829.4986

Self Serve Toys
selfservetoys.com
3904B Central Ave. SE
Albuquerque, NM 87108
505.265.5815

Smitten Kitten
smittenkittenonline.com
3010 Lyndale Ave. South
Minneapolis, MN 55408
888.751.0523

Spartacus
spartacusstore.com
300 SW 12th Ave
Portland, OR 97205
503.224.2604

Stormy Leather
stormyleather.com
1158 Howard St.
San Francisco, CA 94103
800.486.9650

The Tool Shed
toolshedtoys.com
804 E. Center St.
Milwaukee, WI 53212
414.562.9338

Tulip Toy Gallery
mytulip.com
1480 W. Berwyn Ave.
Chicago, IL 60640
877.70.TULIP

Venus Envy
venusenvy.ca
1598 Barrington St.
Halifax, Nova Scotia
Canada B3J 1Z6
902-422-0004

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320 Lisgar St.
Ottawa, Ontario
Canada K2P 0E2
613-789-4646

Womyns’ Ware
womynsware.com
896 Commercial Dr.
Vancouver, British Columbia
Canada V5L 3Y5
604-254-2543

Anal Massage for Lovers
directed and produced by Joseph Kramer and EROSpirit Institute, 2005, 130 minutes.

Anal Massage for Relaxation and Pleasure
directed and produced by Joseph Kramer and EROSpirit Institute, 2004, 160 minutes.

Basic In-Home Colon Cleansing: An Illustrated Guide
(CD-ROM) by Edith Webber (Health Management Research Institute, 2003).

Bend Over Boyfriend
directed by Shar Rednour, produced by Fatale Video, 1998, 60 minutes.

Bend Over Boyfriend 2: More Rockin’, Less Talkin’
directed by Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano, produced by S.I.R. Video/Fatale Media, 1999, 70 minutes.

The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure
directed and produced by Sinclair Intimacy Institute, 2003, 60 minutes.

College Guide to Anal Sex
produced by Shane’s World Productions, 2004.

Devinn Lane’s Guide to Strap-On Sex
directed by Devinn Lane, produced by Shane’s World, 2006, 135 minutes.

The Expert Guide to Anal Sex
directed by Tristan Taormino, produced by Vivid-Ed, 2007, 90 minutes.

The Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men
directed by Tristan Taormino, produced by Vivid-Ed, 2009, 90 minutes.

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Advanced Anal Sex for Men and Women
directed by Ernest Greene, produced by Adam & Eve, 2008, 70 minutes.

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Anal Sex
directed by Nina Hartley, produced by Adam & Eve, 1996, 70 minutes.

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Spanking
directed by Ernest Greene, produced by Adam & Eve, 2004, 70 minutes.

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Strap-on Sex
directed by Ernest Greene, produced by Adam & Eve, 2006, 70 minutes.

Red Hot Touch: Exquisite Anal Massage
directed by Lawrence Lanoff, produced by New World Sex Education, 2008, 40 minutes.