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human values and,
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,
319
,
321
,
359

vulnerabilities and,
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,
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,
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,
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,
126
,
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,
135
,
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,
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,
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,
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,
361

telecommuting,
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,
270

teleconferences,
268

telephone calls,
see
phone calls and conversations

television,
111
–12,
115

terrorism,
300
,
311

September 11 attacks,
299
,
300

see also
catastrophe culture

texting and messaging,
4
,
11
-13,
19
–20,
21
-24 ,
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,
139
,
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,
141
,
144
–46,
152

apologies and,
32
–33

breakups and,
25
,
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–97

in classrooms,
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–65,
212
–14,
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,
243

collaboration on,
189

as commitment,
160

consolation and,
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,
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,
172

documentation and, burden or advantage,
167
–68

editing and,
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,
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,
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35
,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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200
–201

emoticons and emojis in,
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,
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,
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,
189
–90

family disagreements and,
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,
127
–31,
169

preference for, over conversation,
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,
26
–27

punctuation in,
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–34,
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,
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,
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,
200

responding to,
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,
164
–65,
188
–89,
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,
320

responding to phone calls with,
142
–43

romance and,
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–79,
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,
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–94,
196
–202,
205

WhatsApp and,
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–36,
37
,
191
–92

see also
phones

therapy,
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,
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,
131

cognitive behavioral,
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,
95

crowdsourced,
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–48,
351

psychoanalytic and psychodynamic,
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–80,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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–99,
348

thinking,
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,
76
,
77
–78,
see
self-reflection

and time alone at work,
287
–88

daydreaming,
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,
77
,
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,
322
–23

mind wandering,
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,
76
–77,
79
,
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about past,
75

with Google Glass,
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-170

privacy and,
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,
85
–6,
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,
301
–2,
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–10

Thomas, Clarence,
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Thoreau, Henry David,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
338

three chairs of, see chairs

at Walden Pond,
9
–10,
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,
317

three chairs,
see
chairs

Tillich, Paul,
65

time off, predictable (POT),
287

Tinder (app),
38
,
179
–80,
181
–82,
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,
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,
185

TOR,
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,
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toys:

dolls, traditional
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–44

pets, virtual
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,
356

smart, our vulnerability to,
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–52

tracking and feedback devices,
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,
90
–91,
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–97,
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,
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,
see also
algorithmic (or quantified) self.

transactional language and exchanges,
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,
248
,
319

transference, in the therapeutic context,
96

transgender adolescents,
112

transparency (as a property of programs),
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,
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,
330

trust,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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Turing, Alan,
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,
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Tversky, Amos,
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Twitter,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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357

as classroom tool,
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–43

as instrument of political change,
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,
297

Udacity,
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,
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Uncle Tungsten
(Oliver Sacks),
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unitasking,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
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,
321

University of California at Santa Cruz,
232

University of Southern California,
218

university students,
see
college students

UpToDate (app),
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validation,
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,
174
,
288

Verghese, Abraham,
282

videos, educational (online),
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–21

Vimeo (video hosting site),
294

Vine (app),
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,
152

virtuous circles,
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,
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,
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,
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,
317

Von Kleist, Heinrich,
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,
39

voter turnout, social media and,
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vulnerability,
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,
25
,
27
,
44
,
109
,
124
,
171

to artificial intelligence,
341
–45,
348
-49,
358
-360

to distractions on devices, examples of,
216
–17,
260
–261

to feeling alone,
152
–53

self-reflection, as a cause of,
85

to technology,
216
,
261
,
361

Waber, Ben,
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–53,
271
,
274
,
275

Walden Pond,
9
–10,
309

Watson, Sara,
308

weak and strong ties,
297
-98

web,
see
Internet

Weizenbaum, Joseph,
341

WhatsApp (app),
35
–36,
37
,
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–92,
256

white space (free time),
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Wilde, Oscar,
298

Williams, Rowan,
172

Williams College,
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Winnicott, Donald W.,
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Wired,
349

Wolf, Maryanne,
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,
221

Woolworth's lunch counter sit-in,
298

work, workplace,
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–29,
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–49,
249
–89,
321

apologies, importance of,
15
,
32
–34,
267

best practices and,
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,
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, –76,
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–80,
284
-88

bringing people “home to work,”
270
–72

cafeterias (and kitchens) at,
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,
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,
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,
279

case studies of workplaces (pseudonyms),

Alan Johnson Miller and Associates (law firm),
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–52,
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,
261
,
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,
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Borning Associates (security firm),
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Castell Advisors (venture capital firm),
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–76,
285

HeartTech (software company),
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–56,
276
–81,
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,
323
–24

Radnor Partners (consulting company),
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–272,
276

ReadyLearn (consulting company),
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–55,
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–61,
267
–68,
288

Seahorse Theater Company,
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–58,

Stan Hammond Consultants (financial services),
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–67,
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,
276

Stoddard (design firm),
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–74,
276
,
283

mentoring for conversation, example, at,
259
-260

designing for conversation, impact of culture on,
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–81,
283
–88

developing leadership culture (for conversation) and,
271
–72

dispersal of workforce, impact on conversations at,
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,
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-62,
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–69,
270

email at,
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,
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,
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,
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–62,
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–67,
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,
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,
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,
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-20

entertaining clients and,
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–52

face-to-face conversations (deliberate) at,
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,
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-55,
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–53,
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–276,
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-89

“hiding” at,
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hiring for conversational ability and,
46

at hospitals,
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–83

hoteling and,
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,
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multitasking (example of perils) and,
260
-61

physical proximity, importance of, and,
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-64,
271
,
273
–274,
274
–276

pilot in cockpit analogy (for associates in law firm),
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–29,
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,
266
,
287

predictable time off (PTO) and,
287

productivity,
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–51,
252
–53,
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,
261
,
264
,
271
,
276

sociability and productivity link at,
250
–51

solitude (through disconnection), importance of, and,
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-88

stress, example leading to connection not conversation,
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–65

unitasking at,
258
,
261
,
321

timing emails in the,
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,
280

working from home,
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,
253
–54,
269
,
271

work meetings,
15
,
54
–55,
240
,
249
–64,
275

appellate court justices and,
263
–64

breakfast as a path to presence,
272
–74,
283

Dropbox, effect of in one organization,
258

email miscommunications and,
266
,
267

inattention and multitasking at,
251
,
254
–55,
257
–58,
259
,
262

Hansel and Gretel experience and,
253
–57

meme tracks and,
255
–57

device free,
259
–60,
275
,
283
,
285

stand-up,
275

technology-based,
253
–54,
267
–69

and value of presence,
263
–64

Yahoo,
269

YouTube,
150
,
294

Zittrain, Jonathan,
314

Zuckerberg, Mark,
301
,
309

*
Holbrooke is a fictitious name. In this book I disguise the identities of all individuals I cite and of all institutions I visited–schools, universities, businesses. I use real names when I draw from the public record or cite words delivered in a public forum. For more on my method, see note
here
.

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