Read Reclaiming Conversation Online
Authors: Sherry Turkle
conversation(s):
in classrooms,
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creating environments that support,
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designing for, in work culture,
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difficult,
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face-to-face, see face-to-face conversation
in family,
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family
flight from,
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forgetting how to have (and voyages of forgetting),
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keeping it light (in presence of phones),
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listening during,
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lulls in,
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machines and, see machines
in medicine,
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moving to mere connection from,
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phone, see phone calls and conversations
physical proximity and,
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putting people “on pause” in,
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real-time aspect of,
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“rule of three” and,
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sacred spaces for,
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“seven-minute rule” and,
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social scientists and,
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in therapy,
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work of,
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“Cover the Night,”
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creativity and innovation,
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“lightbulb moments” and,
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privacy and,
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crises,
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catastrophe culture; emergencies and crises
cruelty, permission we give ourselves online for,
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bullying
Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly,
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data,
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information and data
advice on (from machines),
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maximizing strategies and,
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Tinder and,
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romance
daydreaming,
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mindwandering
death:
mourning after,
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news of,
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750 Words and thoughts of,
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De Botton, Alain,
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Deresiewicz, William,
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Deschanel, Zooey,
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designing for vulnerability (and for conversation),
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device-free times and places,
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no-phones policies,
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summer camps,
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diary,
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journaling
Jobs, Steve, attitudes about devices during,
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phones at, see mealtimes, phones at
disagreements (arguments):
chat and texting (online) as a place for,
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email and,
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in family life,
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in romantic relationships,
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in workplace,
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disconnection, anxiety about,
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“Disconnect to Connect,”
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documentation, as a life aesthetic,
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Google Glass and,
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dolls, psychological differences from sociable robots,
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daydreaming
Dropbox,
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earphones, as way of signaling desire for solitude,
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Edelman, Lee,
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editing messages,
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education,
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attentional pluralism and,
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collaboration and,
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databases (E-Memory), impact on,
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grazing and,
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hyper attention and,
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lectures in,
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MOOCs and, see MOOCs
narrative and,
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online,
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MOOCs
Project Athena (MIT),
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technology and,
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classrooms; college students; schools, schoolchildren
educational (online),
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edX,
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elderly, robot companions and the,
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Electronic Freedom Foundation,
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Eliot, George,
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ELIZA (computer program),
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answering,
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appellate court justices and,
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contrast with face-to-face meetings,
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conversations avoided via,
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misunderstandings and (in the workplace),
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privacy and,
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sending in bursts (in the workplace),
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sending late at night (in the workplace) ,
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in student-faculty communications,
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work-related,
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E-memory,
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emergencies and crises,
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catastrophe culture and,
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and responding to messages,
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emojis,
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emotional exposure, fear of,
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emotional intelligence,
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collective,
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emotions:
children's learning about,
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communication methods and,
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control of,
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and hurting others' feelings,
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multitasking and,
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negative and positive,
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and punctuation in messages,
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social media and,
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technology and,
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empathy,
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as accompaniment and commitment,
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apologies and,
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in college students,
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device-free summer camp and,
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equanimity and listening in,
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eye contact and,
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face-to-face conversation and,
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family conversations and,
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and hurting others' feelings,
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learning,
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literary fiction and,
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in middle school children,
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modeling of,
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in romantic relationship,
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technology and,
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workplace and,
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empathy machines, idea of,
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employees:
hiring, using conversation as a criterion,
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work, workplace
engineers, and “difficult conversations,”
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“Ethics, Biotechnology, and the Future of Human Nature” (Harvard Course),
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evocative objects,
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eye contact,
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Facebook,
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cruelty on,
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highlights collage of,
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mood experiment by,
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