Reclaiming Conversation (58 page)

programmers,
67
,
277
–78

Project Athena (MIT),
234
–36

projection,
80
,
96
–97,
343
–44

psychoanalytic culture,
79
,
80
,
89
,
96
–99

psychotherapy,
79
.
80
,
89
,
91
,
96
–99,
347
–48

crowdsourced,
347
–48,
351

public square,
15
,
293
–316,
332
–33

catastrophe culture and,
299
–301

and friendship model for politics,
296
–98

privacy and see privacy

suveillance and self-surveillance,
304
–309

punctuation, and meaning in online exchanges,
132
–34,
181
,
189
–190,
200

“Quantified Breakup, The,”
92

quantified (algorithmic) self,
81
,
89
-96,
99
,
317

quiet moments, silence,
23
,
26
,
38
,
75
,
153
,
218
,
323

lulls in conversation,
23
,
26
,
39
,
150
,
151
,
153
,
322

Radesky, Jenny,
107
–8

reading,
110
–11,
219
,
221

deep,
69
,
111
,
221

privacy and,
302
,
303
,
304

real time, versus the delays of the edited life,
22
,
35
,
129
,
143
,
148
,
149
,
198
,
199
,
201
,
206
,
207
,
240
–41

Republic
(Plato),
220

Richards, Neil,
309

Riesman, David,
8
,
145
–46

Rilke, Rainer Maria,
66

risk,
7
,
27
,
36
–37,
128
,
140
,187,
194
,
240
,
297
–-98,
310
,
347
,
350
,
351
,
352
,
362

“risky talk,”
37

robots,
337
–62

elderly and,
349
-350,
358
–60

faces and voices for,
341
–342

jobs, formerly human, and,
349
–50,
351
,
356
,
359
–60

Kismet,
341
,
342
–44

My Real Baby,
349

Nurturance as a “killer app,”
352

pets,
352
,
356
–57

sociable,
51
–52,
337
,
338
–44,
346
–47,
348
,
349
–52,
356
,
357
–360

see also
artificial intelligence; machines

Rock, Chris,
198

romance,
177
–207

archive of,
198
,
199
–200,
205
–207

arguing online in,
194
–96

arguments about competing with phones in,
194
–96

projecting nonchalance,
188
–89

breakups and,
25
,
196
–97

choice and,
182
,
183
–86

and friends' collaboration on texts,
189

“editing” the self for,
199
–200,
201
–-202

Facebook and,
186
–87,
141
–142

flirtation in,
178
,
179
,
182
,
186
-189,
190

“friction-free” social engagement through apps
179
–81

Gchat and,
193
,
195
,
202
,
203
–5

information and,
192
,
193
,
203

Goldilocks fallacy and,
202

maximizing and,
182
,183

NOTHING gambit in,
177
–79

phones and messages,
188
-89,
192
–92

rejection in,
178
,
179
–80,
187
-88,
196
-198,
205
–07

texting and,
177
–79,186–94,
196
–198,
198
–207

text punctuation, importance of,
189
,
190
,
200

Tinder and,
38
,
179
–80,
181
–82,
183
,
184
,
185

WhatsApp and,
191
–92

Sacks, Oliver,
211

Sandel, Michael,
241
–43

San Jose State University,
234

satisficers,
182
–83

Sawhill, John,
317

Schmidt, Eric,
19
,
74
,
219
,
221
,
316

Schooler, Jonathan,
76
–77

schools, schoolchildren,
211
–48,
321

downtime and,
70
–71,
164

empathy and,
5
–6,
7
,
68
–69

Holbrooke (pseudonym),
3
,
5
–6,
7
,
68
–70,
71
–72,
161
–65,
323

Radway (pseudonym),
165
–66

see also
classrooms; college students

Schüll, Natasha Dow,
72
–73,
74
,
92
–93

Schwartz, Barry,
182

Science,
246

seeking drive,
43

self,
24
–25,
46
–47,
62
,
77

algorithmic (quantified),
81
,
87
,
88
–96,
99
,
315
–316

“edited self,”
198
–99,
201
–202

online representations of,
131
,
201
-202,
294

performances of,
24
–25,
62
,
82
–85

of surveillance culture,
305
-310

solitude and,
10
,
47
,
59
–78

SelfControl (app),
215

self-reflection,
3
,
10
,
11
,
24
,
41
,
75
,
78
,
79
–99,
317

Facebook's aspirational self and,
83
–85

history of personal web use as,
85
–86

psychoanalytic culture, talk therapy, and,
79
–80,
81
,
89
,
90
,
96
–99

vulnerability and,
85

self-tracking,
89
–96,
99
,
306

Senju, Atsushi,
170

September 11 attacks,
299
,
300

serendipity, intellectual, as goal of collaboration,
245

750 Words (app),
90
–91,
93
,
94
–95

seven-minute rule,
153
–54,
155
,
322
–23

sharing, culture of,
61
–62,
83
,
106
,
138
,
142
,
143
,
150
–152,
164
–165,
309
,
310

Shiva, conversation and technology during,
135
–36

Siegel, Daniel,
170

Silent Spring
(Rachel Carson),
4

silent treatment,
179

NOTHING gambit,
177
–79

Simon, Herbert A.,
182

Siri,
51
,
337
,
339
–40,
346
–47,
348
,
357

Skype,
105
,
112
,
262

meetings by,
253
–54,
267

sleeping with phones,
42
,
66
,116,
121
–22,158,
159
,
300

slowing down,
69
,
70
-71,
76
-77,
220
,
223
,
319
–20

small talk,
193
,
234
,
357

smartphones,
see
phones

Smith, Zadie,
215

Snapchat,
103
,138,
139
,
139
,
152

Snowden, Edward,
305
,
315
–16

social change,
49
–50,
294
-298.
300
-301

social media,
47
-48,
61
–62,
73
,
81
-84,
109
,
138
,

bullying on,
166

emotions and,
25
,
40
–42,
314

families' use of,
106
–107,
112

and fear of missing out,
83
,
145
,
146
–47

other-directedness and,
145
–46

politics and,
294
–98,
314
;
see also
politics, social change

profiles on,
137
–38,
139

romantic rejection and,
178
,
179
,
180

and sense of self as performance,
24
–25,
83
–-84

and social anxiety,
25
,
42
,
138
,
141
–42

voter turnout and,
314

social world, as third chair,
10
–11,
14
,
16
,
47
–48,
235
–36

sociometric badge,
252

Socrates,
171

software programmers,
67
,
277
–78

solitude,
10
,
56
,
59
–78,
163
,
171
,
317
,
330

“alone with,”
65
,
325
–26

being alone,
26
,
46
,
65
,
71
,
286
–88

brain and,
61
,
62

capacity for,
321

creativity and,
62
,
67

as crowd management,
75
,
86

cultivating capacity for,
65
,
66
–67,
77
,
81

first chair and,
10
–11,
16
,
46
–47

Internet surfing as,
61
,
74
–75

loneliness and,
23
,
65
–66,
265
,
286
–87,
346

playing alone, and,
65
,
71

self and,
61

virtues of,
60
–62,
79

vulnerability to feeling alone,
152
–53

work and,
287

Sontag, Susan,
151

Spectator,
333

spontaneity,
4
,
22
,
53
,143

Stanford University,
40
,
138
,
230
,
231

Starbucks,
285

strangers, conversations with, phone as “security blanket,”
152
–53

stress,

emotional exposure as, example,
264
–66

of family life,
117
–18

work and,
250
,
253
,
277
-278,
280

of being “always-on,”
278
–79

see also
anxiety

strong and weak ties,
297

students,
see
college students; schools, schoolchildren

summer camps, device-free,
11
,
26
,
104
,
114
–16,
175
–76,
317
–18

Summers, Lawrence,
230

suveillance,
50
,
86
,
304
,
305
,
312
–13,
315

self-,
304
–6

see also
privacy

Syria, senate hearings on,
39

Tabless Thursday,
261

Taipei
(Tao Lin),
194
–95

talk therapy (psychodynamic),
96
–99

teachers,
5
-6,
231
–32,
241
-244

actors as (for online courses),
211
,
238

see also
Holbrooke School, Radway School,

technological affordances,
43
–44,
111
,
126
,
261

technology,

addiction to,
126
,
215
–16

and choosing right tool for the job,
324
–25

conflicts about role of, learning from
325

“coping,” a metaphor with problems,
171

and forgetting what we know about life,
13
,
23
,
232
,
325
–26