Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch (12 page)

Continue touching both areas a number of times, and then touch only your penis. Notice whether you feel anything at all in your secondary area, even if it is only some heat or a slight sensation. Then once again touch the two areas at the same time for a few strokes, stopping after each stroke. Next, touch only your secondary area, and see if you can feel any sensation in your penis. Don’t feel bad if you feel nothing or only a little bit; it takes practice to build a good connection. Now try some single strokes on both areas at the same time and see if this increases the sensation. Then, using one stroke at a time, stroke only your penis, then both places, and then only your secondary area. Use the strokes that you found most pleasurable when you did the single-stroke mas- turbation exercise. Anticipate the strokes by focusing your attention on where you will be touching and stroking.

steady stroking

Now it is time for some steady stroking. We want you to get to a higher level of intensity so that you can possibly make a better connection. You are fully lu- bricated, but you can always add some more if you feel at all dry.

Use your favorite strokes. We recommend repeating reliable strokes of the same type to take you higher. We also think that using a stroke that provides a great deal of contact between hand and penis will stimulate the most nerves. That being said, you will want to experiment and check out many different

kinds of strokes—from short ones to long ones, from full hand to fingertip. As long as you repeat the same stroke a number of times, you will allow your- self to go higher; as soon as you change the stroke, you will probably go down (peak) for a short time until you’ve repeated that stroke a number of times, too. (Peaking is one of the most important concepts in creating an EMO and is fully discussed in Chapter 7.)

steady-stroke Connections

We are still interested in creating connections between your penis and the rest of your body. Take a little lubricant in your free hand and select a second- ary area. Repeat the same steady stroke on both areas. Do this for a while, and then remove your hand or finger from the secondary area. Keep it just above the skin while still moving your hand as if you were stroking yourself. Notice any sensation in the secondary area, and continue as long as the sensation there continues. When the sensation ends, put your hand back on the second- ary area and rub the two areas in tandem again. After stroking them simulta- neously for a while, take your hand off your penis and, in the air just above the penis, continue with your stroking motion. Notice if you have any sensation in your penis. As before, continue this motion until all sensation ends, and then put your hand back on your penis and stroke both areas simultaneously again. When you change the stroke on your penis, change the stroke on your secondary area. The more often you practice this exercise, the more of a con- nection you will build.

These activities are for your enjoyment and education. You can continue with the connections exercise, or you can do it for a while and then go back to masturbating. You can peak yourself as many times as you like, getting close to ejaculation but not going over. Experiment and have fun.

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Once you build a connection, you can play with your connected areas at times when touching your genitals may be inappropriate. You can touch yourself anywhere and feel more pleasure than you used to. Just think how much fun kissing can become when your lips are supersensitive. Don’t worry about

becoming so sensitive that you will feel too much pleasure at inappropriate times. You can always put a damper on those nerve endings by deciding when and where it’s okay to feel pleasure.

If you practice these exercises regularly, when you have a sensual expe- rience you will be amazed at how much increased sensation you feel every- where on your body, including your genitals. A real EMO is a whole-body orgasm. If you connect up your whole body, you may experience instant plea- sure at the moment when someone first touches you, no matter where they touch you. You will have better orgasms that begin right away and last longer.

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The next chapter investigates how to communicate with your partner about sensual matters and how to train him or her to be the best lover possible.

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Pleasure training

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he ability to use language has put human be- ings at the top of the food chain. It has enabled us to be better hunters and planners, and to teach

and question our fellow humans. We have learned many things from our ancestors, including both good and bad ideas—“good” and “bad” being concepts that actually depend on one’s point of view. Nothing is inherently good or bad on its own; whether we label it so depends on our goals in relation to the event or action. Rain in itself is neither good nor bad; the farmer who needs rain to grow crops will consider it good, and the baseball fan who wants to go to the game will view it as bad.

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The passing on of information about how to do anything is language depen- dent, including making war (good or bad?), collecting taxes (good or bad?), and increasing crop yield (good or bad?). Language affects every aspect of our lives. We obviously have some basic instincts, such as those for eating and procreating. Eating may be instinctual, but creating a gourmet meal is not, and the information about how to do so can only be passed on using some kind of language skills. Knowledge about procreation has been passed on without much use of language. It is obvious that human beings are good at procreating. What is less obvious is that procreation and creating pleasure are usually two different functions, and we have virtually ignored the possibilities inherent in the latter, despite our advanced language skills. The analogy be- tween eating to survive and preparing gourmet meals applies here and high- lights this difference. It may not even be that the ability to create pleasure has been ignored so much as it hasn’t been fully studied. For whatever set of rea- sons, most of the information about sex that has been passed down is either negative or misleading. (Some may disagree with this assessment, of course, depending on their goals, but our goal is to create more pleasure.)

It does seem unusual that there is so much negativity about sex in our soci- ety. We have been conditioned to regard as evil and sinful something as basic and enjoyable as pleasuring the human body. For most of our history we have been kept in the dark about how to produce great tactile and sensual plea- sures. Most of us have been made to believe that we are not supposed to talk while having sex. Almost all, if not all, the people we know, including our stu- dents, complain about having difficulty talking when experiencing or produc- ing pleasure. Here we are, the animal with the greatest ability to communicate, and we are largely unable to express ourselves while experiencing the highest level of pleasure that is available to us.

Perhaps the biggest misfortune arising from this state of affairs is the in- ability to acknowledge the wonder and delight of a sensual experience. This lack of appreciation, this deficiency of approval of how good you feel, is a fast way to ruin the experience. It’s a good way to put the kibosh on what could be a fantastic time. So while we are supposedly trying to pleasure our partners, we seldom feel comfortable acknowledge the fun we are having, and the usual

human doubt creeps in. Besides taking our attention off the pleasure prize, this doubt often turns into some form of anger, reducing the level of intimacy that could have been built. It may be true that some people moan and groan and grunt to express their pleasure, which is fine. However, being that we have such wonderful language abilities, there can be a whole lot more communica- tion within the sexual relationship—which could lead to further intimacy, a better understanding of how to pleasure your partner, and just more love for one another.

Communication about sensual matters is also lacking culturally. Until re- cently in our Western civilization such information was not transmitted via any method—not through the spoken or written word, and not through vi- sual or aural means. Some ancient societies, such as the Indians, who wrote

the
Kama Sutra
, passed on their sensual knowledge, but modern Eastern civ-

ilizations are puritanical in their views about sex. Some Pacific Island com- munities may have escaped this negative cultural conditioning, but they have not produced any great body of work that one can refer to in order to learn about pleasure. Obviously, some modern societies are more open, sexually speaking, than others, yet all are lagging behind what is possible. However, this has begun to change thanks to some trailblazers in America, such as Dr. Vic Baranco.

In our earlier books we included sections about communicating in bed. This simple idea is so vital to a great sex life that we have included it again in this book, with, of course, some new and additional information, specifically on the possibility of having instant orgasms. Note that we divide communi- cation into two categories: training your partner to give you pleasure (that is, training from the position of pleasure recipient), and training your partner to receive pleasure (training from the position of pleasure giver).

Some people may find the word “training” offensive. They can use other words, such as teaching, coaching, instructing, or whatever they like. The re- sult will be the same: a partner who is well versed in how to give and receive extreme pleasure. The best way to train someone is to include lots of positive acknowledgment and words of encouragement. The more appreciation you show, the more willing your partner will be to create pleasure with you, and the more confident you will both be as lovers.

Y Training Your Partner to Z