How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (15 page)
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Authors: Stan Findus
I get so hot as I think of how nice it is to know that I can still please him. He encourages me to keep going, he tells me to suck it deeper. I try to go as deep as possible and he tells me: “That’s so nice princess, you’re making daddy so happy now,” and then proceeds with: “Lick my balls.” I do what he wants, and again he starts to moan. He’s still not touching me and I crave for him to start caressing me, I almost want to beg for it! I'm growing more and more aroused from sucking his dick and the torment is feeling almost painful because his hands are not anywhere on my body yet.
Finally he puts his fingers under my chin and tells me how good I did. I feel his hand stroking through my hair, then slide down my spine to cup my ass. He positions me on his lap, starts kissing me, a kiss has never felt so good. We start to really devour each other and I'm grinding on his lap, letting him know I want it so bad.
I almost cry out when he lays my back on the floor, opens my legs and guides his dick deep inside. This moment feels so blissful because I have finally won him over.
What Happened?
He did not show sexual interest in his girl for a couple of days, which made her tension rise. So when he responded in an aloof way, she took charge and the tension increased further.
Of course, he got more aroused too and finally allowed himself to shift his attention toward her. This was the first reward he gave her. She felt a little closer to the emotional connection she craved and this encouraged her to continue. Never wait too long to give her your attention, otherwise sooner or later she will give up. This will make her feel very neglected and unattractive.
Afterwards she started to please him by playing with his dick, in which he showed her his approval by complimented her on the job. It made her feel like she was indeed pleasing him, which is crucial as it makes things feel more rewarding for her. However, at the same time his body language was still detached. He did not touch her and instead gave her another challenge.
As such, the combination of challenges and rewards made her tension rise rapidly. Finally, he gave her the feeling that
she
won
him
over. That’s when he takes control by placing her on the floor and putting his dick inside of her.
Step 3
Conclusion
Finally getting to enjoy that sexual experience with her is an unforgettable moment, whether in a new or an established interaction. It all started from that first kiss; getting to start on the right foot and winning that emotional connection.
The best thing to remember is never be the kind of man she can read like a book. Don't ever be predictable. A woman likes a bit of mystery in her man, so soon she'll be anticipating that physical intimacy as you've given the impression that it's not all that important, even as you show her that you find her desirable. There's always a balance and once you strike it, you can proceed onto escalating things to become physical.
Knowing the general spots of feminine weakness on a woman's body helps in promoting the right physical intimacy. Once the timing, pressure and sensation are right, she will open up like a flower. Now it will be up to you to take the hard and fast, slow and soft or the lazy man’s approach.
Just remember, it's OK to be rough and ready. She doesn’t want the flowery approach all of the time. Women desire a man that's not afraid to take what he wants, to shove her face down on the bed, pull her hair and make her do things she doesn’t want to do; well, at least she
acts
like she doesn’t want to do them. But deep down, you both know exactly what she wants.
That of course, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t respect her boundaries. If she doesn’t like to be bitten or shoved around, you can still bring your dominance to the bedroom in other ways. Once emotions of trust have been built, she knows that you'll put her best interests first and not only think about getting yourself.
To conclude, the moment you make her want it as bad as you, there will be a smooth sailing ahead.
STEP 4
SEX
This step should be the highlight of your experience and hers. If you have done well in the previous steps, she will now have entered a pure emotional state. Without her logical mind to interfere, she can now give in totally to her primal desires, so there is no holding back. As such, this is where the masks fall off and the real fun can begin.
This step is divided into three parts. The first two will go hand in hand; one will trigger her emotions in profound ways, while the other is aimed at her physical side. The third part covers multiple orgasms. This involves bringing her into an orgasmic state that can last for minutes, instead of seconds. But before attempting to bring her to this stage, I recommend that you first master the first two parts.
STEP 4.1
EMOTIONAL SEX
Aim
To
create
a profound and deep emotional connection that will make her surrender and enjoy her primal desires, which will in turn lead to orgasms.
How
1. The Importance of Intercourse
Intercourse and orgasm through intercourse, must be the highlight of her experience. Without the feeling of your dick inside she will not feel fully satisfied. She may get satisfaction to some extent, but a part of her will remain frustrated.
When she is in a liberated state, your words will go straight to her emotions. Therefore the use of dirty talk and sweet talk will trigger her primal desires intensely.
Learn how to close the gap between your fantasies and hers, to recreate them in real life. For this, you need to have a certain mentality and knowledge about her fantasies in general.
We will also discuss a way of communicating in which you can introduce fantasies that she can act out during the experience. This will plant a seed to turn these fantasies into a reality.
This principle is aimed at giving her roller coaster steep dips and surges. When you stop stimulating her in a constant rhythm, she will crave for your dick even more. As a result, the moments when you
do
thrust with full force will be more exciting.
4.1.1
The Importance of Intercourse
During the preceding phase, her body reacted to her levels of arousal by producing vaginal lubrication. The
only
reason she does this, is to grant easy access for your cock.
She needs to feel your dick inside to become emotionally satisfied. The moment you enter her, she feels a sense of becoming one with her best lover. This is the moment in which she enters a lustful state of mind and only listens to her emotions.
If
you played your cards right in the previous steps she will no longer have the same amount of insecurities, fears or moral objections. This is the state of mind that she needs in order to fully indulge in her primal desires. In this moment, you set her free and shoot her on her way to a mind blowing orgasm.
The Need for Your Sperm
Her climax is a reaction in which her brain gets overstimulated both physically and emotionally, and results in uncontrollable contractions in her body and vagina. These vaginal contractions have the purpose of transporting your sperm in the most effective way, which means her body reacts in a way that gives her a higher reproductive success rate.
Of course, making her cum without having your seed inside of her will still give her great pleasure, but sooner or later, she really needs your sperm. When she doesn’t get it, her experience will not be that great and she will feel frustrated.
This biological reaction which makes her vagina contract, is triggered by an emotional need. This is the need of getting pregnant by her best lover. While this might not seem like the thing she has on her mind at the time, it is a purely biological reaction based upon her primal needs. This need controls her mind in an unconscious manner and does not have anything to do with reality.
Of course, though, her rational mind tells her that she won’t get pregnant. Remember that birth control is only a very recent invention and that the mind of a woman is subconsciously still in its primitive state. This means that her emotional mind still believes that when you come inside of her there is still a high chance of becoming pregnant.
So in the heat of the moment, when she does not listen to anything logical, her mind tells her she needs her perfect lover to thrust inside her and hopes he will reach an orgasmic state in which he ejaculates his sperm deep inside.
Do not consider this as being far-fetched or improbable. It’s about looking beneath the surface of what's conventional or what you think you know about the female mind. The fact that you are pounding away in that tight pussy and later ejaculate, gives her that needed feeling that you truly desire her. This belief gives her the trust that you at least crave for her physically. When you combine this physical desire with an emotional desire, she gains everything she wants.
This feeling she gets from your desires is all her brain yearns for. It gives her the trust that you will stick around, even when she gets pregnant.
Even if you are just having sex for a casual motive, this part of her primal mind will still pop up. The only variation of this may be that she does not look for emotional desire from your side. In this case she only wants your sperm and instead takes some other guy to raise that child.
So make her cum all you want, but finish it all off with a massive ejaculation inside of her pussy. For her, this is even more important than her getting an orgasm herself, as this is the moment she feels that all of your desires come together in one massive cum shot. This makes her truly sense a deeper emotional oneness.
4.1.2
Verbal Stimulation
Verbal stimulation is very important while having intercourse, as now that she's in a highly emotional state, your words will reach her primal emotions without any rational filter, which changes everything. It gives you the freedom to express your desires very clearly, and is a huge difference when compared to flirting. You can now leave all ambiguity behind and let the masks fall.
Of course, during the previous step, involving emotional and physical escalation, you already saw some examples of dirty and sweet talk. However, during this period of escalation, a part of her still thinks with a rational mind-set. This means you have to be careful when using verbal stimulation while merely escalating things physically; she might not like what you say, which again lowers her sexual tension.
Therefore, an important factor when using dirty or sweet talk is timing. The same word can have a different meaning according to the setting. So telling her what a slut she is,
is
OK during sex, but is definitely
not
OK in regular life. This means that you need to find out when her sexual tension is high enough to use stronger verbal stimulation. In some situations you can start during the process of escalation, where as in other situations you can only use it during sex.
If the timing is right and when taking the next info in to account, she will not object to profound dirty talk and won’t think your sweet words are corny. On the contrary, she will love everything her lover says because she is experiencing an emotional oneness with you. Your words will also make her experience this connection even stronger.
Overview
This is used to enhance her level of arousal once she is already giving in to her lustful desires. It can only be used once she is no longer thinking with a rational mind. Only then will it enhance her level of arousal. All of the rules you’ve learned about respecting her and treating her like a princess do not apply any more. It’s called dirty talk for a reason.
Sweet talking has the purpose of showing her your loving commitment. Your sweet and tender words will make her very horny, if she has the right motive on her mind. Is she looking for some casual sex or for something more serious?
3. Combining Dirty and Sweet Talk
Combining both is not always necessary. Depending on your and her mood and motive, you can use one or the other. When combining them together, you will lead her to a wonderful sexual experience, as if holding a mirror in front of her desires. Your dominant dirty talk will satisfy her desires of dominance and your sweet talk will satisfy her need for commitment.
