How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (13 page)

I know he’s going to kiss me.

He slowly moves in for a kiss, so I follow his lead, waiting for the moment of impact. The moment our lips brush each other, he pulls back very slowly. I open my eyes and he says: “Ooh baby, I’m not that easy,” with a little smile on his face.

I feel the tension rising, I want him to kiss me. My breasts feel sensitive and tight beneath the layers of my clothes, he continues in massaging my ear and neck and then finally, he slowly goes in again. When our lips meet, I eagerly slip my tongue inside because I feel I really need it.

We kiss passionately and slowly for a while and then he pulls out again. He tells me: “Ooh baby your kisses taste so sweet." These words have a strange effect on me; making me melt just from the silken heat in his voice. I realize I want more, so much more.

He leans in again for a kiss and eagerly I return the ardent pressure of his lips…

What Happened?

As you can see from our model, the moment before the kiss made her tension rise. During the kiss, her tension slowly lowered again.

Tension goes up

Her tension went up because she craved an emotional connection and because he led her through the experience.

When not giving her the connection immediately, the tension peaked very high for a brief amount of time. This means that shortly afterwards, you need to give her what she wants, and kiss her so that she can feel the emotional attachment she’s looking for. If you wait too long, her tension will diminish as she doesn't get rewarded and therefore she'll feel less positive. This could make her enter into a rational state of mind again.

The sexual tension also rises because it was you who’s taking the lead in giving her the experience. You were the one who chose when to escalate and when to stop. So for her, choosing this way to escalate feels very refreshing and comfortable. She doesn’t have the feeling of being rushed into something and it's also not up to her to take the initiative by escalating things herself. This means she doesn’t have to focus on what will happen next.

All she has to do is relax and give in into her desires. If you played your cards well, she will readily follow you wherever you want to go. She does this because she has the trust that you can handle her and will give her a wonderful experience.

The tension goes down

The tension went down slowly because she got the reward she wanted, which is the crucial point in the interaction. But if you would keep giving her what she wants continuously, the tension will only drop further. This means you should not always kiss her without stopping. On the contrary, you must retreat once again as this will create the new spike you are looking for.

So when using the back and forth approach, it is a must to take a step back sometimes. If you don’t, you are using the slow and steady approach, which is boring.

Example

After a couple of rounds of flirtatious kissing while going back and forth, her tension will be so high that she craves more and more physical contact. Until this point, you mostly relied on emotional escalation, and to a lesser extent on physical escalation. Now is the perfect time to make a shift towards a stronger physical contact.

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He gently breaks from our heated kiss, and reaches for my shirt buttons. When he takes off my shirt, he soon releases me from my bra. His head then descends to my heaving breasts, and I feel his warm breath on my nipples. He gives one soft lick, and says it tastes so nice, the suspense is getting to me, especially when he simply hovers above my aching nipples. I want him to suck my tits so much.

Finally, he does. He clamps his hot lips over my hard, hot nubs one after the other. It feels so nice, I can't help but moan. The build up to this moment has left me panting for more. I place my hand on his crotch and squeeze his hard dick, it makes me so horny.

I like how he plays with my boobs for a while and then shifts back up to kiss me, slow and soft. His hands wander all over my body, my hand slips into his pants, but he grabs my wrist and moves it away. “Not yet,” he tells me, “I want to make you dripping wet first.”

Oh my. I love the sound of that, I'm eager for all of the naughty things he's going to do to me and I don't protest when his head lowers to suck on my tits again. Just as I start to breathe heavy and fast from the sweet sucking on my hard nipples, he slides his lips up to my neck. For some reason, this teasing turns me on immensely. I do like how he nuzzled my neck, right on my sweet spot.

Then I feel his hands on my shoulders, urging me to turn around. I'm surprised, but I comply and let him place me with my back facing him. Hmm…then I feel those gifted hands of his massaging my lower spine. One hand moves to my nape, which he rubs firmly with his fingertips. The tiny muscles beneath my skin start to feel light and at ease. I don't know why, but his gentle touch massaging into my skin makes me feel so good, and yet so hot.

His fingers comb through my hair, while his other hand is grabbing my waist tight, his fingers digging into the soft flesh at my side. I don't know where this is going, but I like it, he doesn’t speak, but instead lets his touch do the talking.

I'm moaning when I feel his lips slide over my nape, bare by the hair he'd lifted out of the way. His lips part over the skin of my neck and I feel his teeth sink into my flesh, biting me, he’s nibbling and sucking on that sensitive spot. My, my, my. I'm horny as hell now.

When I slowly turn around and reach for his crotch again, he doesn’t refuse me, he lets me whip out his dick and start playing with it. I love how that hot hard flesh feels in my palms, I grow wetter and wetter by touching him like this.

He slowly slides down my panties. I expected him to dive right in and take me, but how wrong I was! First, he puts his lips to my skin; from the tips of my breasts, then down to my stomach. I feel his tongue swirl inside my belly button. It's nice, very nice. I'm not used to getting any attention there, but he kisses all around the right spots, even slightly lower down, just beneath my navel. All the while, his hands were teasing the back of my knees, making me moan and sigh. My body feels like one big mass of jelly. I want him so much now, I want his dick.

I reach for him and keep jerking him off as he teases me everywhere with his passionate tongue and lips. I realize we’re both naked now. The feel of flesh rubbing flesh greatly heightens the sense of urgency between us, he hasn't put his dick inside me, which makes me feel I'm going crazy. Somehow our lips merge in a kiss, rougher and deeper than ever. I feel him place me on his lap, I grab and hold of his shoulder for support as I straddle him.

Finally, I feel him guide his dick inside, inch by inch, filling me. Instinctively, I start to ride him, really hard, really fast.

What Happened?

As you can see, he didn't progress in a straight line right to sex. He went back and forth between more intimate and sensitive to less intimate parts of her body. He also teased her by denying and then giving her the pleasure of physical stimulation of her favourite spots, such as her breasts.

At one point, after she was getting really horny, he eased down the mood by giving her a little back-rub. He could also just have put his dick in her, but this would not create or promote tension. As such, with this approach you don’t have to go at full speed.

This means you also must enjoy the actual moment itself. So even though you are setting the pace, you need to have some restraint and let the sexual tension build up.

Another thing he didn't forget was to maintain the emotional intimacy. He kept taking his time to say some words to her, and looked into her eyes to keep the connection strong. That’s why you should never only focus on the physical side. She has to feel that on this ride, you're both on the same page together and that you aren't simply in your own world, doing your thing and getting off.

Overpowering Desires

The phase of overpowering desires means taking the fast and steamy road. With this approach, it is all about creating physical and emotional intimacy in the heat of the moment.

As a male you feel sexual desires for your woman. Under normal circumstances you can keep your feelings of lust for her under control, but when using this approach you won't need to control these urges. This is when you let your instinct kick in and you just follow it by going straight for sex in a very manly and overpowering manner.

It thrills a woman to imagine that she is the one that provokes these primal desires inside of you. It's very important for her that you're not just horny. No, you need to be horny as hell for
her
. When you're taking the fast and steamy road, she'll definitely feel this way.

Have you ever wondered why women read romance novels or watch them on TV? Well, they do it because the storyline revolves around passionate desire. There's always some guy who has strong feelings for a girl. These desires are so strong that he looks ready to do anything to be with her.

Watching or reading about this man who is handsome, dominant, strong, heroic, or whatever makes her clock tick, creates a strong feeling of anticipation that grows towards the moment in which he finally wins the girl over.

You can actually notice this when watching a chick flick with your girl. When the guy happened to do just about anything he could to get her and they are finally going in for their first kiss, your girl gets totally focused on the story. You can see the excitement in her eyes and she will probably not respond to whatever you say as she’s drawn to see this moment happen.

It triggers her primal emotions and makes her fantasize about a powerful man that will do anything to get her, because he desires her in an uncontrollable way. She does this because she wants to feel special in the eyes of the right guy. Deep down, her emotions tell her that she wants to please her man in a way that creates uncontrollable desires of lust and love.

When you are ripping off her clothes, throwing her on the bed, grabbing her ass or kissing her very hard, you can create the same emotions inside of her. It shows her your uncontrollable and overpowering desires. It makes her horny as hell because she knows she is pleasing and exciting you. In the end, there is nothing else to do other than to submit and follow you into a passionate, steamy sex session.

Actually, women deliberately try to provoke these overpowering desires in a man. They do this by dressing up, wearing high heels or going to the gym, but they also do it by saying 'no' to a man. Sometimes, she wants to make it seem that she does not want to have sex, when in reality she says
no
to amp up your sexual tension. She hopes that you will want her more by giving you some token resistance. She actually hopes for you to overpower her, as it gives her the trust she is still an object of your desire.

However, do watch out when she’s saying no. If you lack experience or don’t know her that well, keep it safe. A 'NO' often really does mean
no
.

When taking the hard and passionate way from time to time, you will have a happy girl. When you fail to show her your desires, she will become very insecure. She starts to doubt about herself and thinks you don’t care for her anymore. So pin her against the wall and fuck her hard. It will give her a sensation of being highly desirable and she will then be reassured of the passion you have for her.

Apart from her feeling like the hottest piece of ass you’ve ever had, you also get to feel like a real man when going primal on her. Showing her your desires in a very obvious way will feel liberating because you are going
straight
for the goal of having passionate and wild sex.

Another benefit is that she will respect you more for the man that you are. Even if you are, for example, a skinny, short guy who doesn't have that many physical alpha assets in reality, you can still make her believe that you are the most dominant mother-fucker around.

She will believe this because she will link your overpowering sexual behaviour with her emotions and not her rational mind. As long as you fill in her need of lust by going hard on her, she will emotionally and not rationally feel you are the right guy to whom she looks to for sexual fulfilment.

However, there’s a big
but
here. I did say you don’t need to have a lot of alpha assets going for you, such as big muscles and so on, which means that it’s OK if you are shorter than her or have a small penis. But there's one important factor you need to pull it off: she needs to see you as the guy she first emotionally selected as her right guy.

She will only feel respect for this right guy and only then will she be open to following you. If she doesn’t respect you as a sexual man – meaning she doesn’t care whether she provokes strong feelings of lust inside you or not – she will not be open to this fast and steamy ride. In this case, she has no need to feel your overpowering desires and will therefore not follow you.