How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (14 page)

This is something that happens in some relationships when the sexual fire is gone, or when she started a sexual relationship in which she selected you because of rational reasoning. When she did not select you based upon her emotional need of lust, she will not see you as her right guy that satisfies her sexual needs.

So before going for this approach, make sure you did well in STEP 1. Only then is it possible to show her your overpowering desires. If you lack in triggering her needs of lust in the first place and trust in the second, the going-back-and-forth approach will be more beneficial. By using this method, you can still gently persuade her on an emotional level that you are indeed the right guy. And once she feels this, you can use a more direct approach.

Example

I used the example of a kiss in which you need to bite her neck in an aggressive and powerful way. But from all of the examples, this is the most difficult one due to 2 reasons:

The first is that biting her hard can create a physical injury, even though later on you will learn how to apply this with good technique. The second, as discussed before, is that she needs to see you as her right guy that triggered her emotional needs before this sexual act.

If you don’t feel comfortable about applying this in real life after reading the next explanation, don’t worry, you can satisfy her in other ways too. However, do realize that when executed in the right way, it’s perfectly safe and will not do her any harm. Instead, it will create a lot of arousal and is a perfect introduction for a hot, wild, animalistic sex session.

Have you ever noticed that animals always go in for the kill by piercing the neck with its teeth while putting its claws into the body? Well, when you go in for the neck with a biting kiss, she will have a similar and primal emotional reaction as if being the prey.

She submits to your power and surrenders herself. If she’s not used to this rough passion, it might scare her for a second, but trust me, after a second she will give in to her primal desires if you have created enough trust on her side. She will love the fact that you are taking away control and are about to lead her into ecstasy.

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I just finished making myself all pretty to go out. My guy is hanging out in the living room. When I enter he looks at me and tells me I look hot and how horny it makes him. I thought of how I'd just spent an hour or so preparing myself. Having sex now would definitely ruin my makeup and dress and I didn’t want to be too late. I go back to the bathroom to put some finishing touches on myself (for the last time) in front of the mirror.

He comes into the bedroom, stands behind me and holds my waist. He tells me he wants to smell my neck. I know he wants sex and he starts gazing into my eyes through the mirror's reflection.

I get aroused by the way he looks at me, his hands on my waist tighten firmly. I decide not to give in, even though I want to. I just got a text from my girlfriend, she says they're already there, I really don’t want to be too late, so I try to move away.

He turns me over, faces towards each other. He pushes me gently against the mirror wall
and at the same time tells me how sexy I am.

After this, he caresses my neck with the tips of his fingers for a moment. He gives me some more compliments; how lovely I smell, how soft and smooth my skin looks. After about ten seconds, he moves his hand from the back of my neck and grabs it at the roots of my hair, then pulls my hair back in a firm, yet commanding manner. He is not hurting me physically in any way and that forceful edge about his actions makes me so breathless and hot. I love this feeling of having no more control, he tugs my hair back in a way that my neck is exposed.

He slides his mouth slowly towards my neck. The moment he touches my skin, he nuzzles me and breathes on my neck, then slides his wet lips along the length of my throat and shoulder. My hands are gripped together and pinned behind my back, leaving me feeling trapped and oh-so-horny. I say: “No, stop! We have to go!” I know he will just overpower me even more, and because it makes me feel so defenceless, this thought is very arousing.

I feel him opening his mouth and then sink his teeth into my skin very softly. He gradually applies more pressure to both my hands and hair. The tension is rising very fast, he knows just what to do to get me panting. My desire stirred, I feel totally submissive to his will, and it feels so empowering yet makes my knees weaken all at the same time,…

I then feel the continuous sensation of him nibbling and sucking on my neck. Ooh yes; so good. He bites and sucks me harder,
I feel the passion mount between us to dangerous proportions. Mere minutes have passed and by now I feel hot and cold shivers running down my spine.

He goes for my lips and kisses me. It's a hungry kiss, filled with fire and lust. When we're both breathless he draws back to look deep into my eyes as his hands slowly fall from my hands and hair, releasing all the pressure and making it feel like he has set me free. My legs feel shaky with excitement and can hardly hold me upright.

I feel that crazy urge to grab, squeeze, scratch and kiss him with all of my might. Something has clicked inside of me like a light bulb and a ferocious, animalistic passion overtakes me. Our lips find their way to each other again, steamy and raw, tongues meeting in the open to dance and twist together. I'm shoved back against the mirror and it's so freaking hot to feel him use his physical strength on me. His manliness thrills me and triggers that feminine side of me that wants to surrender. Even as I struggle against him and moan in protest at his rough touch, I love how he's overpowered me once again.

Somehow, my blouse is open; he frees my breasts from their lacy cup and seizes one nipple in his mouth. Underneath my dress, I feel his hands yank down my panties. He shoves them to my knees forcefully and then turns me over, my ass in position to take his throbbing dick.

He grips his shaft while tugging on my hair till my neck snaps back, that sweet sting from my roots makes me moan. I look up and our eyes meet through the mirror. Then I see him look down, his gaze fixated on my ass. Seeing him looking so lustful at it gets me off. Without delay, he spears me with his hard dick, pounding into me while looking into my eyes through the mirror.

What Happened?

In the beginning she was apprehensive. She had a lot of logical arguments as to why
not
to have sex: she didn’t want to be too late, find a new dress, put on her make up again, etc. These arguments made her first resist her emotional urges to have sex.

He then overpowered her in a physical way, which triggered her lustful desires very hard and fast. As such, the shift between her rational objections and emotional pleasures happened in a matter of seconds. After she made this shift, she was very eager to continue the experience and have sex right away, as her sexual tension stayed high after the initial spike. When applied correctly, all you have to do is fuck her hard and very soon after that she will reach orgasm.

Safety and Technique

Pulling her hair

1. Pulling her hair in the wrong way will not inflict physical damage, but it can be quite painful and therefore destroys or kills the mood, so keep the next tips in mind:
   
2. Always hold it close to the roots of her hair above the back of her neck. Never hold it far away from these roots because it hurts.
   
3. Always take a decent handful in your grip. When pulling only a few hairs it will hurt ore.
   
4. Pulling is one thing, grabbing is another and that really hurts. If she feels discomfort, it may bring her back to a rational state of mind in which she thinks that this is not the way a
   ‘good girl’
   should be treated.
   

Pushing her against the wall

When placing her against a wall, always make sure your hand is placed right above her neck. If not, she may bump against it. Your hand in this case is like a pillow for the back of her head.

Biting

Biting her too hard or on the wrong place can hurt her physically, so always be very careful:

Pressure:
If you've never done this before, do practice this technique a couple of times by starting out really soft and gradually put more pressure on her neck. Look at her reaction, but never ask her what pressure she likes the most because this will kill the overpowering mood. In this moment you have to do as you please, so asking her will feel like you want to please her.

Sucking:
While biting, do it in a sucking motion. You need to nibble on her just like tasty ice cream. This will take away the sharpness of your bite.

The right spot:
Never bite her on the central part of her neck, where you have an Adam’s apple. Also, avoid biting the flesh around it too hard. When biting these places, you can create discomfort. So always start by aiming for the side of the neck where the tissue is firmer, before going over to the more sensitive spots.

The Lazy Man

The lazy man’s approach to escalating to the physical side is one way that doesn’t require too much effort on your side. It is in fact, the opposite of showing her your overpowering desires. However, both ways have one thing in common: she wants to please you.

What you need to do is to let her take the initiative. Sometimes it happens that you don’t have sex for X amount of time: maybe you had to work too much, still live with your parents, she lives too far away, etc. Basically anything that prevents her from having sex with you, is a good opportunity to use this approach.

You may think that leaving her the initiative will place her in a dominant position and you in a submissive one, which would mean lesser feelings of arousal towards you, but this is not true. By showing her some disinterest from time to time, she starts to doubt that you still find her attractive and when she starts to doubt about this, she will start to chase you in order to find that emotional connection. This means you are still the one who’s leading her.

After she takes the initiative, you need to show her she still pleases you. Then, after a certain time in which she tries to please you, take over in a physical manner in which you display your desires towards her. This gives her more trust in both herself and her belief that she’s sexy, as well as further belief in the way you feel about her.

Because the main theme revolves around her pleasing you, this approach is only applicable when she indeed wants to please you. Again, like using the approach of overpowering desires, you do need to have triggered her emotions in STEP 1 of our model or she will never start to chase you.

When you feel you she lacks lust toward you, don’t use this approach as nothing will happen. Then, it’s better to use the technique of going back and forth. Even though she lacks lust, you can still draw her into the moment based upon the emotions you create on the spot.

Furthermore, do not try to do this on a new girl, it is your job to escalate towards the physical side. She might do this herself when she feels you are too shy, which is fine when you are still very young. But at a certain age, a woman will not accept this lack of escalation from your side anymore because she wants a man and not a shy boy.

If you have ever experienced your girl being somewhat grumpy after she hasn’t had sex for a while, this approach will work perfectly. She feels this way because you are not providing her with the emotions she needs to feel to be happy. She needs to be reassured on a constant basis that the emotional connection is still there.

Example

Lately he’s always busy with writing. I feel neglected and even feel jealous about that book, I just wish he'd hug me some more and gave me a little more attention. I’m alone in bed right now and I feel horny. I haven't had sex for a couple of days. I decide to go into the living room and sit down next to him.

I place my hand on his dick and I feel it growing, he looks up from behind his computer with a smile, then looks straight back down. I don't like the fact that he's not so easily distracted, even though he clearly knows what I want. So I decide to be far more direct.

That's when I slowly take out his dick and play with it and he starts to moan, he places his computer away. At last!

His arms are spread wide out over the sofa, so he isn't touching me, I bend to start sucking on his dick and he tells me I’m doing a good job. I hear his deep moans of pleasure and my pussy is getting wetter and wetter. Having him in my mouth is such a delicious treat, especially after a few days of being deprived. Everything tastes so different and new, like I've never sucked his dick before.