Read The Douchebag Bible Online
Authors: TJ Kirk
the line between consensual sexual activities and the
violent act of rape. He’s amazingly self-centered; he
complains bitterly about the limits on his desires to
put his penis where ever he wants as an awful
example of feminism controlling his sexuality,
completely oblivious to the fact that what he
ultimately wants to do is control other people’s
sexuality, putting it in service to his fantasies.”
What PZ Myers obviously is unaware of is that
I am a submissive who places the pleasure of my
wife/owner far above my own. Well, actually, it's
more accurate to say that giving her pleasure is what
gives me pleasure. But who I actually am is of no
consequence—feminists like PZ Myers would rather
debate a straw man than address my actual
arguments. Is this because they're stupid cowards?
Yes. Yes, it is.
Am I biased here? Perhaps I am. But my
experience has been that every feminist I’ve ever
spoken to has wanted me to make concessions that
I’m uncomfortable with—not because I don't like
their implications, but because the foundation of the
arguments that they are predicated upon seem weak
to me.
For instance, have you ever noticed that rape is
one of those issues where we’re discouraged from
looking at multi-faceted answers?
Don’t get me wrong, blaming a girl's flirtatious
nature or revealing outfit for her rape is repugnant
and, worse, inaccurate. However, just declaring,
“rapists are evil,” and never examining anything
beyond that assumption seems equally ignorant.
We know that rates of rape are different from
society to society. We know that what constitutes
rape is different from society to society. We know
that attitudes towards victims of rape are different
from society to society. So why can’t we have a frank
discussion concerning the anthropology of rape, the
sociology of rape, the sociobiology of rape, the
psychology of rape, etc.?
Why do we have to settle for easy answers and
applaud the safe, morally-delineated-to-the-
maximum-degree pablum of the feminists?
To be fair to the feminist point of view,
accountability does, at the end of the day, rest on the
shoulders of the rapist. But we’re in denial if we
think
that
environmental
factors,
genetic
abnormalities, mental illnesses, societal attitudes,
belief systems, legal systems, particular subcultures,
etc., don’t have an impact. If they didn’t, you’d see
far greater parity in the rates of rape from one place
to another.
There's no way to stop rape effectively and
permanently if we refuse to take a sober look at the
phenomena and what actually causes it. And the first
step is to demythologize the rapist; to look at rapists
as human beings being driven by impulses rather
than monsters powered by evil.
A rational society would give those with these
urges a place to go to talk address their feelings with
professional help—instead the very feelings that
cause rape are taboo. Those who experience said
feelings are treated as pariahs if they give voice to
their feelings. Doesn't this only put them at risk of
offending? Doesn't this current attitude remove the
very societal constraints that might have stopped
our hypothetical rapist from raping? If you are a
monster just for wanting to do it—then why not go
ahead and do it?
We can't continue treating people like
monsters and then wondering why they have so few
reservations about doing monstrous things.
One of the frequently brought up feminists
arguments when this topic is broached pertains to
childhood victims of rape and sexual abuse. Surely I
don’t blame children for getting raped? No. Nor do I
blame adult victims of rape for being raped. The
entire notion that I, or any reasonable person,
blames rape victims for their rapes is a giant straw
man that emerges solely from the inability of certain
people to allow any nuance into this issue
whatsoever.
The feminist have created a dogma—and part
of that dogma is the following absolute: the victim is
totally blameless in all ways, at all times and under
all circumstances. Failure to accept this premise
unquestioningly and without reservation or
exception makes you a “victim-blamer” in the eyes
of certain segments of the feminist community.
Children are, of course, entirely blameless in
their victimization because they lack power,
experience and autonomy. If mommy or daddy
decides to sneak into his or her child's bedroom,
what recourse does said child have at its disposal to
prevent the rape they are about to endure? What
preventative measures could the child have taken?
What ability did the child have to even recognize or
understand the threat? No one could conceivably
pin any responsibility for a sexual assault on a child
victim. That would be absurd.
Adults are not similarly powerless, however.
There are preventative measures that they can take.
• Take classes in basic defensive techniques
• Carry a weapon
• Avoid walking home alone, especially in
certain areas.
• Make sure someone always knows where you
are
I’ve heard women (and men, to a lesser degree)