The Anal Sex Position Guide (7 page)

Cowgirl is the quintessential woman-on-top position. The man lies on his back and the woman straddles him while resting on her knees, lowering herself onto his penis. This is a good position for anal sex beginners because she can control the angle, pace, and depth of penetration; she can go as slowly as she needs to. He gets a great view of her body in this position and can sit back, relax, and enjoy her taking the lead. He can stimulate her breasts and clitoris while she rides him. Cowgirl and positions like it are great for extending intercourse or practicing delayed ejaculation because a man’s erection and ejaculation reflexes slow down when he is on his back. It also works well for men who have limited mobility or strength.

She is in charge in Cowgirl, and some women like to explore their dominant sides in this position just as some men like to submit to their partner’s will. If you like erotic role playing, this position is a good one for playing with power. That said, women don’t
have
to take being on top literally—nothing says you have to harness your inner Dominatrix if that’s not what turns you on. Plus, being in charge has multiple rewards: when she’s on top, she can experiment to find just the right angle for penetration. A change in her body position or a subtle shift of her hips can make all the difference. If his penis curves toward him when it’s erect, then this position will likely give her good, indirect G-spot stimulation. It’s also perfect for women with an exhibitionist streak, because she can take center stage in a seductive show for an audience of one. He’s free to watch, work her clitoris, and worship her body.

Keep in mind that certain angles may not be comfortable for him, depending on the size and curve of his penis. Women should always check in with their partners and go slowly at first whenever they try a new angle, to make sure it works for him, too. This may be too difficult a position for women with limited strength or stamina. Some women may feel too self-conscious about their bodies or their sexual skills to enjoy Cowgirl. (A note about this, ladies: Chances are, your partner loves to watch you no matter what, so let go of some of your inhibitions and go for it!)

Froggie Position is a variation of Cowgirl where she crouches on her feet. This gives her more freedom to ride him vigorously and puts less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups, so she has to be fit to sustain it. She can place her hands against his stomach to brace herself. This position may be easier to achieve on the floor than on the bed, depending on the firmness of the mattress and the amount of leverage she can get.

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction and he enters her from behind. He does most of the work of penetration in this position. He can kiss the back of her neck and touch her breasts, vulva, clitoris, and tummy. This can be a comfortable position for people of many different body sizes, especially people with large bodies and pregnant women.

Spooning gives you easy access to the ass. In this position, penetration is not as deep as in others, so it’s especially good for anal beginners; it also works well if you don’t like deep thrusting or your partner has a longer-than-average penis. Many people like spooning because it gives them full body contact with their partner; it’s snuggly and intimate. If you like to use a large vibrator during anal penetration—such as a plug-in wand-style vibe—spooning works well since both of you have full access to her entire vulva.

Eye contact is more difficult in this position without her craning her neck. Kissing can also be tricky. If you’re looking for deep or hard thrusting, spooning isn’t for you. Some men find it an awkward position for even gentle thrusting. There isn’t a lot of visual stimulation for either partner.

To try this variation, couples should begin in the spooning position. Then she puts her left leg under his right leg and her right leg over it, so it’s wrapped around his waist. He can put his arm down to give himself more leverage and greater thrusting power. Like spooning, this position creates more shallow penetration and is ideal for men with long penises; however, many men find they can thrust faster and with more gusto. Because her body is tilted more toward him, kissing is also easier in this position.

Doggie Style, where she is on all fours and he enters her from behind, is a versatile position with many variations and lots of possibilities. It’s one of the most popular positions for anal sex. People of different body sizes with varying levels of strength and flexibility can get into this position and sustain it.

If you’re an “ass man,” you probably love this position, since you can see touch, and grab her ass. You also have an ideal view of your penis going in and out of her ass, a big turn-on for lots of people. This is a great position to begin with vaginal intercourse while you play with your fingers or a toy in her ass to warm her up; when she’s ready, you can easily transition from vaginal to anal penetration. For beginners nervous about navigating her two orifices and wanting to make it into the right one, when you’re in Doggie Style, you can see clearly where you’re going! He has a lot of freedom to control the angle, depth, and speed of penetration. This is a powerful thrusting position for him, where the penetration can be hard, fast, and deep. Some people equate Doggie Style with animalistic, dirty, naughty, or rough sex—it doesn’t have to be this way, but the position helps many people channel their dominant/submissive fantasies and roleplay. In other words, he can feel like he’s taking her and she can feel taken. Some may also feel less inhibited and more free to talk dirty or let his or her inner wild child out.

On the flip side, some people find doggie style to be too anonymous and they miss the face-to-face contact of other positions. It certainly can be harder to communicate, especially for new lovers and anal beginners. She doesn’t have a lot of control over the penetration action, since he really takes the lead. Because he has lots of thrusting power in this position, he runs the risk of thrusting too hard or deep right off the bat without realizing it, which his partner may not like.

When she puts her ass up in the air and her head or head and shoulders down, her body is angled perfectly for him to stimulate her G-spot. This can be more comfortable for some women than being on all fours.

Yes, it’s a very popular and versatile position, but that doesn’t mean you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. Here are some reminders and tips for getting the most out of Doggie Style.

• Do finger her anus during vaginal intercourse in Doggie Style
  
• Don’t try to “sneak” from the vagina to the ass
  
• Do warm up her butt with a sensual spanking before penetration
  
• Don’t go too hard too quickly: remember this position allows for very deep penetration and strong thrusts.
  
• Do encourage her to rub her clitoris in this position.
  
• Don’t switch from ass to vagina