Rules of the Game (40 page)

You're too busy to handle a big mission today. After all, you have a dinner party to throw. Refer to your Day 24 Briefing if you need any help making the final preparations and arrangements.

If you weren't able to invite any women to the party—or you're not sure whether enough people are going to show up—set aside a few hours earlier in the day to make approaches.

Go to a nearby location such as a mall, café, or other area where women gather. Make as many approaches as possible. As soon as you hit the hook point with a woman or group you like, give yourself a time constraint and invite them to your dinner party. If you go home without having recruited any extra guests, don't cancel your party. It's a great opportunity to strengthen your social circle and leadership skills.

Once party time comes around, don't panic if the guests roll in late. It'll all work out great. Enjoy it. Make sure the woman you're interested in is comfortable, but don't pay too much attention to her at the expense of being a generous and enchanting host. Make sure everyone's glasses are always full.

After dinner, if all is going well with your date, ask her to stay behind and help clean up. If your party is at a restaurant or public location, have a second place in mind to go afterward—an interesting bar, lounge, or event on your calendar. If you both drove there, suggest taking one car. This way, you can have some alone time with her.

Consider having this kind of party every week or every month, so that you can begin building a lifestyle that consistently attracts the kind of women you deserve to be dating.

Congratulations. You made it to the final day of the Stylelife Challenge.

If you've performed all the previous assignments and feel you've improved yourself in any way this month, then you are a winner. Some people go through their whole lives in darkness.

If you got a date, be proud of yourself for meeting the Challenge objective. If you'd like to share the experience or get feedback on it, describe the details of your approach and date in the Stylelife winner's circle: www.stylelife.com/challenge.

If you didn't get a date, despite completing every mission, then you get an additional assignment today. Go to www.stylelife.com/challenge and listen to the audio lesson titled “Works in Progress.” You may find a solution there to whatever held you back.

So what are you going to do on Day 31 and all the days after that?

Look at how much you improved in a month. Now just imagine the results you could get if you committed to the game for another month, two months, three.

There's still a lot left to learn: what to do on the date; the fundamentals of attraction; techniques of arousal; crossing the physical divide; handling different environments; turning friends into lovers; being more fun; manufacturing chemistry; applying persuasion; leadership; group dynamics; isolation; kissing; winging; body language speed-reading; inner-circle sexual techniques; and hundreds of great routines and advanced concepts. Everything you've learned so far is only the beginning.

The art of social dynamics is much like working out: If you stop going to the gym, your muscles begin to dissipate and return to their former size. So your penultimate mission is to go to www.stylelife.com/Day31 to receive a game plan for the future.

This may be the end of the road on the Stylelife Challenge, but it's the beginning of a new journey.

I'll see you on that journey.

Your final task: Look at yourself in the mirror.

Who do you see?

Even though I spent years undergoing an intensive campaign to improve myself, sometimes I'd look in the mirror and see the guy who was never popular and never had a date in high school looking back at me. Despite appearing and acting completely different, I still sometimes saw the world through his eyes.

Similarly, some Challengers I've met went through radical transformations. They looked cool, had good jobs, dated amazing women, and were fun to be around. But when they looked in the mirror, they saw the person they used to be.

So if you don't love, value, and appreciate the guy looking back at you in the mirror, then it's time to change your lenses. I'm not going to ask you to see your true self in the mirror; few of us have that kind of perspective. But instead of seeing the old you in the looking glass, try seeing the person you're becoming. You're going to like him a lot more.

Remember, perception is reality. And when you see yourself as a guy who's socially awkward, you'll act that way and others will treat you that way—no matter what your external appearance and value may be.

But when you see the fun, positive, confident, graceful, socially savvy person you're becoming in the mirror, and consequently start seeing the world through his eyes, people will respond a lot differently to you—because you've just fought the hardest battle and won. You beat your old programming.

So clean up and take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Reflect back to when you examined yourself in the mirror on Day 4 and think about everything you've learned and accomplished since then.

Be aware of your posture, smile, and energy as you look in the mirror. Recall your most successful approach and the way the woman genuinely enjoyed you. Once you see your best self confidently beaming back at you—the guy who any woman would love to be around—take a mental snapshot of that guy. And carry that photograph in your head wherever you go. Because that guy is you.

Welcome to your new reality.

The Stylelife Challenge is the result of lessons from thousands of approaches, years of camaraderie with the master pickup artists from
The Game
, feedback from students around the world, hundreds of books and research papers, and the contributions of the Stylelife Academy coaching team.

There are two contributors, in particular, who deserve special recognition. You've met them already in your briefings:

Don Diego Garcia is a San Francisco–based Stylelife Senior Coach with a heart of gold. He has written scores of the most highly regarded missions and ebooks in recent memory, positively influenced the lives of thousands of students, and helped proofread this book.

Thomas Scott McKenzie is a Midwest-based Stylelife Senior Coach and ace author. He has written for many journals and magazines, from the profound
(Tin House)
to the profane
(Stuff)
. In addition to contributing to the briefings, he also helped edit the original multimedia Stylelife Challenge materials into these narrow pages.

Thanks also to Dessi, Haze, Organizer, Masters, Julia Caulder, Maddash, DJ, and especially Phoenix and Rourke for helping out behind the scenes on the earliest incarnation of the Challenge. Stylelife Coaches Evolve, Tommy D, Gypsy, and Bravo also helped make this book possible. The Challenger known as Exception deserves credit for the Village People opener mentioned on Day 18. And Rourke and Michal Gregus also contributed material.

Special thanks also to the seduction gurus who have influenced my life and this book with their teachings, and camaraderie. They include Mystery, now a star of stage and screen; David DeAngelo, who has branched out into the business world; Ross Jeffries, the father of the movement that spawned this madness;
Swinggcat, the wizard behind the curtain; and Juggler, a great writer and, now, a married man.

Then there are two men whose names I cannot mention. They are part of a future book. But I owe the idea for the Stylelife Challenge to them. You'll read about them then. But I'd feel remiss if I didn't give them their due. So thanks to… those two guys.

The proofreading team consisted of many of the aforementioned characters, along with Anna G., Ersin Pertan, M the G, Todd Strauss, Dr. M. J., Nicole Renee, Aimee Moss, Kelly Gurwitz, Lauren, Evelyn Ng, and Sarah Dowling. Soa Cho and Kristine Harlan did the fact-checking and research, unearthing psychological and scientific papers supporting everything from the time constraint to the L.A.S. V.E.G.A.S. attributes to approaching with a smile. Thanks also to Drew Huskey and Neel Vora for organizing the core street teams.

My most enthusiastic contrafibularities go to the world-class HarperCollins construction team: Carrie Kania, Michael Morrison, David Roth-Ey, Lisa Gallagher, Rachel Romano, Chase Bodine, Cassie Jones, Brittany Hamblin, Michael Signorelli, and Cal Morgan, the fastest editor in the East. Thanks also to Judith Regan, who originally suggested turning the Challenge into a book.

Finally, I'd like to thank you for completing the Challenge and taking control of your reality. The only thing better than hearing the success stories is seeing the before and after photos. You guys are putting
Body for Life
to shame. Respect.

 

THE FOLLOWING PAGES HAVE BEEN ADDED
TO THIS COMPENDIUM WITH EXTREME MISGIVINGS.

THEY CONTAIN ABOMINABLE WORDS. CHEESY WORDS. FALSE WORDS.
WORDS FROWNED ON BY MEN AND WOMEN ALIKE. THEY HAVE BEEN
MISINTERPRETED, MISUSED, AND CONDEMNED. THEY HAVE TURNED
THE LIVES OF THOSE WHO RELY ON THEM INTO BAD THEATER.

YET EVERY ONE OF THEM HAS LED ME TO SCORES OF FRIENDSHIPS,
RELATIONSHIPS, AND MUTUAL GOOD TIMES.

SO YOU DECIDE: IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A REAL RELATIONSHIP
IF IT STARTS WITH A MEMORIZED, SCRIPTED ROUTINE?

IN MY EXPERIENCE, YES. BUT I DARE NOT TELL ANYONE THAT. THEY
WOULDN'T UNDERSTAND THAT THESE WORDS ARE JUST TOOLS THAT
ENABLE THE BEARER TO LIFT ONE OF THE HEAVIEST OBSTACLES IN
THE WORLD: PEOPLE'S RESISTANCE TO TRUSTING A STRANGER.

IF YOU HAVE THE NATURAL STRENGTH TO OVERCOME THAT
RESISTANCE YOURSELF, THEN YOU DON'T NEED THESE. IF YOU ARE
STILL LEARNING, AND YOU'VE ALREADY GONE THROUGH THE
MATERIAL IN
THE STYLELIFE CHALLENGE
, THEN HERE ARE A FEW
MORE EXERCISES TO HELP BUILD YOUR SOCIAL MUSCLES.

JUST REMEMBER THAT THESE ARE ONLY TRAINING WHEELS.
BECAUSE THE SECRET OF THE GAME IS THAT THE BETTER
YOU ARE AT IT, THE LESS YOU HAVE TO USE IT.

 

INTRODUCTION