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Sources

WHERE YOU CAN GET THE TOYS

In collecting the best sources for toy products, I asked store owners several questions in order to verify their commitment to high quality products and service, and determine whether they had an open, encouraging attitude. Did they have a positive attitude about sex? Would a woman be comfortable going into the store by herself or ordering over the phone? How big was its selection? Did other companies have access to their mailing list? Was their e-mail site secure?

Stores and Catalogues for Adult Products

WEST COAST

Seattle

Toys in Babeland

707 East Pike Street, Seattle, WA 98122 1-206-328-2914

Catalogue available; order 1-800-658-9119 e-mail: [email protected]

Web site: www.babeland.com

This is a female-run store, originally created as a place for women and dedicated to their comfort. It now carries some male-oriented products as well.

San Francisco

Good Vibrations

Retail stores: 1210 Valencia Street, San Francisco, CA 94110

2504 San Pablo Avenue, Berkeley, CA 94702 Mail order: 938 Howard Street, Suite 101, San Francisco, CA 94103

1-800–BUYVIBE (289-8423) in the U.S. and Canada 415-974-8990; 415-974-8989 fax

e-mail:
[email protected] Web site: www.goodvibes.com

Good Vibrations is one of the best all-around store/catalogue combinations. Their specialty is vibrators and they have an almost endless supply and selection. They also offer a vast array of lubricants, special massage oils, videos, and books. The selection of toys and leather goods boasts high quality, durability, and inventive styling. All their products have passed customer satisfaction tests. The staff is known for their courteous, nonjudgmental, sex-positive attitude, and they offer sensitive, knowledgeable, and helpful service.

Los Angeles

The Pleasure Chest (There are three recommended locations for stores bearing this name—the others are in New York and Chicago).

7733 Santa Monica Blvd. 90046

323-650-1022; 323-650-1176 fax

1-800-753-4536 order line

Web site: www.thepleasurechest.com

This Pleasure Chest targets a primarily gay male clientele, with a strong leather focus, though straight men and women may find some interesting, curious toys here.

Condomania

7306 Melrose, Los Angeles, CA 90046 323-933-7865 or 800-9condom (U.S. only)

323-930-5330 for mail ordering outside the U.S. 323-934-9784 fax

Web site: www.condomania.com

This phone/mail-order service is one of the best stores for ordering condoms by mail. They offer a selection of over three hundred different condoms. The e-mail site is secure.

The Love Boutique—two stores

18637 Ventura Blvd., Tarzana, CA 91356

818-342-2400

2924 Wilshire Blvd., Santa Monica, CA 90403 310-453-3459

The two stores are female owned and operated and open seven days a week. While they offer a smaller selection of items, the customer is treated with care by a knowledgeable staff that focuses on making women feel more at ease and comfortable with their sexuality.

San Diego

F Street Stores—ten stores in the San Diego area

751 Fourth Avenue, San Diego 92101; 619-236-0841

2004 University Avenue, San Diego 92104; 619-298-2644

7998 Miramar Road, San Diego 92126; 619-549-8014

1141 Third Avenue, Chula Vista 92011; 619-585-3314

237 East Grand, Escondido 92023; 619-480-6031

The stores in this chain offer a wide range of male and female products. It was also one of the first to create a women's novelty section.

Condoms Plus

1220 University Avenue, San Diego 92103

619-291-7400

This is a general license store for all sorts of gifts as well as condoms. In other words, you can buy a stuffed animal for your child as well as an adult novelty item for your husband. The novelties, however, are in their own section of the store.