Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Well-Being (51 page)

Make an entrance.
Hold your head up as though you are suspended by a string from the ceiling. Relax your shoulders. Walk as though you are the Queen of the Universe entering a room, slowly and beautifully. Notice what feelings arise when you consciously do this.

Day 11: Know yourself as divine.

Affirmation:
“I am the Divine Source, I am, I am, I am. God comes through me as me.”

Prayer:
“Divine Beloved, change me into someone who feels your presence in my life, who sees the Divinity within me.”

You’ve no doubt heard this before, but it bears repeating here. You are a spiritual being currently inhabiting a human body. Day 11 is for remembering and reconnecting with who you really are: your spiritual essence.

Pick up your journal.
One way to reconnect with who you are as a spiritual being—with the essence of you—is to write in your journal, or read past entries, or both. If you don’t journal, start one today. There aren’t any rules about how much you have to write, or whether you have to write every day or most days. You might even want to draw in your journal—drawing is a wonderful way to express yourself and your feelings. When you take quiet time alone with your journal, you can reconnect to your spirit and to Spirit.

Remind yourself of your spirit.
Often, we feel pressured to act inauthentically, out of sync with our spirit. Today’s a day to reconnect with your spirit and remind yourself why it’s important to be who you really are instead of who others want you to be. Today you might look at old photos of yourself from a
time when you were expressing your spirit fully. You might go outside and walk barefoot on the earth or spend time among the trees, reconnecting to your sense of yourself as a spiritual being integrated with nature. Get an astrological chart done and spend some time pondering whether what it reveals rings true for you. Or simply ponder some of the cycles you’ve been through and the challenges you’ve overcome.

Practice mindfulness.
Pray and say affirmations if you like, but make a point today of drawing your attention to what you’re doing or feeling in the moment, without judgment. See what feelings and sensations come up and sit with them. You might find yourself feeling pride at having made it through the chaos of last week, or the stress of a challenging time at work, or you might realize you’re tired—or angry. Honor your spirit by practicing mindfulness so that you can notice what you’re experiencing.

Find a way to connect with others in spirit and community.
The power of the experience of spiritual reconnection can be magnified in a group, so consider joining one, whether it’s a 12-step program, a meditation group, or a prayer group. I also know countless women who gather at full moons or on solstices and equinoxes to connect with the Divine Beloved and the divine within each of them. I do this myself and have found it invaluable. If you feel more comfortable being a part of a community effort, take pleasure in that today while remaining aware of how it feels to be integrated into a community of people sharing an experience together.

Say a prayer or an affirmation.
If you have been avoiding saying prayers or affirmations, today’s the day to try it. Maybe it will feel strange to you, but maybe you’ll realize you get something out of the experience that you hadn’t anticipated. Say some of the prayers or affirmations in this book, silently or aloud. Feel free to change the wording to make it more comfortable for you—and to make your prayer or affirmation a better tool for reconnecting to your spirit and to Spirit.

Day 12. Create a personal paradise worthy of Aphrodite.

Affirmation:
“I am worthy of my own personal paradise—a place for renewal and rejuvenation.”

Prayer:
“Divine Beloved, change me into someone who honors herself by surrounding herself with space that reflects my inner beauty and divinity.”

Day 12 is about altering your space, because too often we deny how important it is to be in physical space that rejuvenates us. We too often settle for ugly rooms, or being in dark, artificially lit spaces, and forget how great it feels to be out in nature, our natural home.

So on Day 12, create a personal paradise that’s a physical manifestation of beauty and peace. Keep this simple and doable.

Take 15 minutes to rearrange your space to be more supportive of your ageless goddess mind-set.
Set a timer for 15 minutes and do one of the following:

~ Make a small, beautiful altar—with candles, flowers, a favorite photo, or a beautiful piece of fabric.

~ Clean a drawer, clear off a bathroom counter, or clean off a cluttered dresser top. Notice how good this “white space” feels whenever you enter the room.

It’s important to take that minute or two to get in touch with how you feel after arranging the space. That’s what will reinforce the idea that what your space looks and feels like matters. Today is the day to begin establishing the habit of creating beautiful spaces in your home, even if you can only do it 15 minutes at a time.

Create a boudoir or powder room worthy of a goddess by making simple changes to the space.
You’ll want to use high-quality essential oils and music that energizes and relaxes you
when you’re in this space. Today, you might simply order some new recordings to listen to when you’re bathing or use candles, flowers, and luscious scents to enhance these rooms. Then spend some time enjoying the sensual space you’ve just sculpted for yourself. Think of it as your personal paradise.

Find the perfect place in nature to replenish yourself.
Get out into nature, choosing a special spot where you feel comfortable. Spend at least 20 minutes there, being mindful of how it feels to have the sun on your face, the wind in your hair, and the earth underneath your feet. This is your natural home, so visit it often!

Day 13: Affirm your goddess nature.

Affirmation:
“I deserve pleasure and joy. I am ageless, strong, and powerful. I relish great health. I am an ageless goddess, an expression of the creative, divine life force.”

Prayer:
“Divine Beloved, please change me into someone who feels ageless. Allow me to feel the eternal Source within me.”

On Day 13, choose one of the activities you have done in the past 12 days and repeat it—and be sure to do something pleasurable, not just something that’s good for you. Remember, living as an ageless goddess means bringing more and more pleasure into your life and leaving worry and fear behind. Be joyful and affirm your right to pleasure, using affirmations or Divine Beloved prayers. Becoming and then living as an ageless goddess is a way of life, not a destination. It means living from the inside out and knowing that the soul enters your body through your hips, not your intellect. You can’t think your way into being happy (although a positive attitude helps quite a lot). You also have to experience pleasure in your body and especially in your pelvis.

Day 14. Align with Divine Order.

Affirmation:
“Divine Order is in charge of my life. I now turn my life over to Divine Order, knowing that the perfect solution to every situation in my life has already been chosen.”

Prayer:
“Divine Beloved, please change me into someone who trusts that what’s meant for me will always come, in exactly the right way and at exactly the right time for my highest good.”

Living agelessly takes courage and discipline. Nothing is easier than complaining and acting old, which some people do when they’re only 30! To be ageless, you have to align with Divine Order and let yourself be shown what to do. Agelessness requires living in the moment, in alignment with the rhythms of nature. It’s simple, but it’s not easy because we’re under a lot of pressure to think ahead and plan out everything. And we habitually worry that we did the wrong thing, and we beat ourselves up for not being perfect. The path of imperfection is the only one that is sustainable. Here’s a Divine Beloved prayer to say if you have trouble staying in the moment: “Divine Beloved, please change me into someone who knows exactly how to live as an ageless goddess.” Aligning with Divine Order requires surrendering to the divine part of yourself that knows more than your intellect (your ego). The divine part of you is your soul. It means having faith that what’s meant for you will always come—and if it’s not meant for you, you won’t want it anyway.

AGELESS LIVING

Once you have completed the 14-Day Ageless Goddess Program, your mission is to create an ageless goddess life and make sure you’re surrounded by others who support you in living this way. Find at least one friend to walk this path with you. Connect with other ageless goddesses in person and on the Internet
(which is especially important if it’s difficult for you to get out to be with people every day—or with people who support ageless living). Each day, journal about your experiences so you can get a sense of which activities you want to do more of. Use calendars, reminder apps, and appointments with yourself to make sure you’re honoring the ageless goddess you are.

From now on, remember this: you have the power to be an ageless goddess and to be a living, breathing embodiment of joyful, ageless living
—no matter what has gone before.
As the saying goes, “What you are seeking is also seeking you.” So who do you really want to be? Who would you be if your age weren’t a factor? Ask yourself these questions every morning and then live them throughout your day. Make that ageless goddess within you feel at home. Bless her, please her, welcome her. Little by little she will show up more and more until one day soon, you will look in the mirror and see a whole new woman smiling back at you. This is your new chapter, your new life. The best is yet to come. I promise.

RESOURCES

Chapter 1

Learn more about Dr. Mario E. Martinez’s work on cultural portals at the website of the Biocognitive Science Institute,
www.biocognitive.com
, and follow him on Facebook at
www.facebook.com/TheMindBodyCode
. His posts are wonderful. He also has a whole series of YouTube videos. And do check out his book
The MindBody Code
(Boulder, CO: Sounds True, 2014).

I highly recommend Tosha Silver’s books
Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead
(New York: Atria Books, 2014) and
Make Me Your Own: Poems to the Divine Beloved
(Alameda, CA: Urban Kali Productions, 2013). Her website is
www.toshasilver.com
, and you can follow her on Twitter at
www.twitter.com/toshasil
as well as on Facebook at
www.facebook.com/ToshaSilver13
.

Chapter 2

Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D., told her story of being awoken to the abilities of her right, intuitive brain in her book
My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey
(New York: Viking, 2008) and her TED talk of the same name, March 2008, at:
http://new.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight
.

Anita Moorjani’s story of returning from a near-death experience after a serious illness is very inspiring and enlightening. Her book is
Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing
(Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, 2012).

You can learn more about pleasure in your ageless years, and the role of nitric oxide, in my book
The Secret Pleasures of Menopause
(Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, 2008).

Colette Baron-Reid’s
Weight Loss for People Who Feel Too Much: A 4-Step, 8-Week Plan to Finally Lose the Weight, Manage Emotional Eating, and Find Your Fabulous Self
(New York: Harmony, 2013), is about overcoming the habit of using pleasurable food to compensate for having porous emotional boundaries.

“Mama Gena” (Regena Thomashauer) has a school for reclaiming your sexuality and sensuality. You can learn about her ideas in her book
Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts: Using the Power of Pleasure to Have Your Way with the World
(New York: Simon & Schuster, 2002). To learn about her classes, visit her website,
www.mamagenas.com
. Her online community can be found at
www.sistergoddess.com
.

Chapters 3 and 4

There are many herbs that have been successfully used to quell menopausal symptoms. These include chasteberry, dong quai, maca, and the Thai herb
Pueraria mirifica,
which contains a unique and effective phytoestrogen called miroestrol. I have been so impressed with
Pueraria mirifica
that I started a new company to bring the most effective form of this supplement to women everywhere:
www.a-ma-ta.com
.

For more information on postmenopausal breast health and breast cancer, see
www.breasthealthcancerprevention.com/What_is_breast_cancer.htm
.

Serial urine testing, which tests for not only estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone, but also your patterns of stress hormone release, can be done through
www.precisionhormones.com
.

You can buy bath gel, oil, or bath crystals from Health and Wisdom at
www.health-and-wisdom.com
.