Authors: MD Michael Bennett
communicating with,
255
criticism from,
260
expectations for,
258
â59
and fairness,
89
healthy,
249
as jerks,
261
â68
names for,
248
spouses of,
259
â60
child's self-esteem,
68
â75
dealing with,
71
â73
examples,
70
â71
quick diagnosis,
73
â74
and teachers,
72
and teasing,
71
your lack of power over,
70
your script,
74
choosing your battles,
60
Chopra, Deepak,
7
chronic penis farts,
101
Churchill, Winston,
57
civil rights battles,
235
clearing your name,
95
â102
closeness,
216
â23
examples,
218
â19
quick diagnosis,
221
â22
your script,
222
see also
justice/closure
clusterfuck,
146
â47
Coen brothers,
143
cold turkey,
334
commitment,
185
â91
as a business,
189
examples,
186
â87
nonverbal,
222
quick diagnosis,
190
tests for,
191
your script,
191
communication,
215
â45
airing trauma,
223
â31
with asshole,
303
best and worst means for,
243
â44
with children,
255
on deaf ears,
238
life-changing conversation,
237
â45
no-nos,
222
â23
nurturing closeness,
216
â23
only what's necessary,
290
positive,
235
purposes of,
215
vending anger,
231
â37
confidence,
45
,
46
,
47
,
48
â49,
55
,
62
confrontation, avoiding,
57
,
84
â85,
239
coupons,
296
cover-ups,
27
crankiness,
320
crazy person, dealing with,
154
â55,
213
â14,
285
criminal behavior,
255
Crisco intake,
15
crisis responders,
345
criticism:
constructive,
240
â41
outrageous,
260
CrossFit,
254
Cruise, Tom,
337
Cubs, World Series win!,
105
cutting someone out of your life,
174
â75
Cyrus, Miley,
10
Darwinian survival,
27
Darwin's theory,
8
DBT (dialectical behavior therapy),
87
,
333
death:
dealing with,
106
decision, poor,
237
dementia,
113
deodorant,
142
depression,
50
arising from child abuse,
85
,
225
attempts to cheer up sufferer from,
116
â17
and grief,
162
â63
postpartum,
194
and sadness,
156
and trauma,
226
â27
and treatment,
316
â17,
318
â19,
333
,
340
â46
designated driver,
64
detachment,
311
detox,
34
Didion, Joan,
80
diet,
337
different worldviews,
102
disability:
examples,
64
hiding,
64
â65
overcoming stigma of,
62
â68
quick diagnosis,
66
â67
signs that it's too much for you,
63
Special Olympics,
67
â68
and vulnerability,
62
â63
your script,
67
distancing,
99
distractedness,
27
diversity, genetic,
8
and alcohol use,
165
alimony,
172
and assholes,
299
and parenting,
276
â83
and visitation rights,
280
â81
your script,
283
dog whistles,
152
doing good,
137
domino theory,
69
downtrodden, raising,
135
â41,
306
dreams, unattainable,
76
drugs, carrying,
305
â6
due diligence,
54
,
138
,
139
,
188
,
190
,
289
,
306
,
307
dysfunctional behaviors,
8
,
28
,
52
,
65
emoji, turd-based,
243
enemies,
168
â76
avoid centering your life on,
99
examples,
170
â71
exes as,
172
getting even with,
172
quick diagnosis,
173
â74
yourself as enemy number one,
27
,
45
Ephron, Nora,
101
erectile dysfunction,
271
ESE (excessive self-esteem),
49
,
68
evangelists,
251
â52
exercise,
337
exorcism,
286
expectations,
1
â2,
4
,
9
,
27
,
30
,
258
â59,
315
,
318
,
320
,
330
expertise,
53
facial topiary,
49
failure, cycle of,
30
fairness,
76
â108
children's argument for,
89
clearing your name,
95
â102
closure after childhood abuse,
84
â89
differing ideas of,
90
getting a square deal,
89
â95
getting justice/closure,
102
â8
life is unfair,
32
â33,
59
,
90
,
178
right to live in safety,
77
â84
in winning and losing,
68
faith,
164
Family Feud,
338
fantasy world,
76
fashion choices, poor,
49
fear:
examples,
157
â58
facing,
155
â62
of fear itself,
160
freedom from,
77
â84
as primal defense,
142
quick diagnosis,
161
random,
155
â56
social,
160
talking about,
223
your script,
162
feedback, inviting,
24
fence mending,
92
fetus, healthy,
249
fighting the loser's curse,
43
â49
finding someone,
178
â85
examples,
180
quick diagnosis,
182
â83
your script,
183
â84
Finnegan, Candy,
118
Firefly,
294
flake, becoming,
318
Frank, Anne,
191
Freud, Sigmund,
328
friends:
overcritical,
132
slander by,
299
supportive,
333
taking sides,
170
â71,
172
â73
Game of Thrones,
26
Gandalf,
315
gas, intestinal,
234
genetic diversity,
8
getting stuff done,
28
getting sucked in,
286
getting to the root of the problem,
15
â20
as antitherapeutic,
16
examples,
17
as making things worse,
16
management of,
17
â18
quick diagnosis,
19
â20
in therapy,
see
therapy; treatment
as waste of time,
16
your script,
20
Ghost of Christmas Past,
268
giving:
charitable,
135
â41
goals:
achievable,
40
positive,
282
Godzilla,
129
Gollum,
184
good times, remembering,
102
,
106
grandparents,
293
grief, moving beyond,
105
,
107
,
162
â68
grouches, chronic,
21
grudges,
171
grumpiness,
319
â20
Guantánamo,
149
guts,
289
habits, bad, control over,
8
,
228
Hail Mary,
338
hair picking,
9
hamster, loss of,
316
handicap,
see
disability
happiness,
37
hard times,
289
harm, unintended,
139
harmony,
276
Hasselhoff, and videos,
36
hate management,
146
â48
hazmat suits,
68
health,
37
health foods,
337
heartache,
162
â68
examples,
164
â65
quick diagnosis,
167
â68,
211
â12
hellfire,
287
helmets,
68
helpfulness,
109
â41
brokering peace at home,
129
â35
easing others' sorrow,
110
â17
potential to do harm,
110
protecting victims of injustice,
124
â29
rescuing the addicted,
117
â24
saving Assholes from themselves,
303
â8
heroin,
109
heroism,
81
Hicks, Bill,
247
high fives,
320
high school counselor,
126
hitting bottom,
33
Hoarders,
123
hoarding,
9
hog racing,
147
homosexuality,
199