Authors: MD Michael Bennett
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Hyperbole and a Half: Unfortunate Situations, Flawed Coping Mechanisms, Mayhem, and Other Things That Happened.
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abstinence,
36
acceptance,
2
,
3
,
9
,
32
â33,
65
,
107
,
108
,
196
,
227
,
305
accountability,
9
acne,
284
addiction:
as bottomless pit,
33
defining for yourself,
35
denial of,
35
and divorce,
170
and lost love,
206
rescuing others from,
117
â24,
193
â94,
254
selfishness of,
147
signs of,
34
and trauma,
228
withdrawal symptoms,
35
addiction, self-cures,
32
â40
accepting your urges,
8
,
32
â34,
36
examples,
34
â35
management,
35
â37
quick diagnosis,
37
â38
your script,
38
â39
ADHD:
diagnosis,
276
medication,
271
adolescents:
development stage,
268
embarrassing boners,
198
as jerks,
127
,
145
â46,
261
â68
life-changing conversation with,
237
need for privacy,
220
overcritical parent,
132
shoplifting,
263
advertising,
41
Al-Anon,
118
alcohol use:
avoiding in pregnancy,
251
denial of,
120
designated driver,
64
and divorce,
165
drunk driver,
105
by in-laws,
293
and pain,
166
quiet, mellow drunk,
35
rescuing others from,
52
,
117
â24,
193
risks of,
161
and spouse abuse,
239
and suicide threats,
113
and trauma,
228
and violence,
80
alimony,
172
alternatives, seeking,
53
altruism,
109
â41
Ambien,
202
angel, intervention by,
104
angel-themed TV programs,
284
child abuse as source of,
86
helping others with,
254
management,
146
â47,
232
,
233
â35,
319
at parents,
291
venting,
231
â37
animals, adopting strays,
137
annoyances:
accepting,
149
â55
examples,
150
â51
quick diagnosis,
153
â54
your script,
154
anti-vaxxers,
95
anxiety,
50
,
85
,
156
â59,
250
â51,
253
,
316
â17,
318
â19,
333
asking why,
17
â18
Asperger's syndrome,
230
â31
assets, your wish list,
179
asshole:
communicating with,
303
dating,
17
ex as,
22
â23
sounding like,
22
teenage child as,
145
â46
your inner,
25
Assholes,
284
â313
bathing the feet of,
145
bosses as,
220
â21;
see also
workplace
can't help themselves,
234
fucked by nearest/dearest,
286
â91
hanging out with,
89
living and working with,
308
â13
lying,
297
â303
personality disorders of,
285
recovery from,
287
saintly,
296
â97
saving from themselves,
303
â8
social annihilation by,
298
tunnel vision of,
297
words for wrangling with,
303
your script,
237
Assholes Anonymous,
293
Asshole whisperers,
285
attractiveness,
178
â79,
184
â85,
204
,
285
avoidance,
26
,
57
,
78
,
84
â85,
239
,
242
baby:
constant attention needed by,
251
examples,
249
â50
not ruining,
247
â55
quick diagnosis,
253
â54
your script,
254
background checks,
127
;
see also
due diligence
bail, setting,
246
bang per buck,
139
barfing, constant,
29
bar mitzvahs,
121
baseball, hope springs eternal in,
105
,
208
bear:
angry,
262
being attacked by,
155
megabear reflex,
158
â59
trained,
192
Beauty and the Beast,
192
becoming a more positive person,
20
â25
examples,
22
â23
making you more nasty,
26
management of,
23
â24
nasty signs,
22
quick diagnosis,
24
â25
seeking positive friends,
24
your script,
25
becoming decently demonic,
21
behavior management,
272
being a decent person,
36
Bergman, Ingmar,
159
Berra, Yogi,
209
Bill of Rights,
312
biofeedback,
159
bipolarity,
64
blame:
assuming,
111
blowback,
306
Bochco, Steven,
300
Bogdanovich, Peter,
39
bonding,
144
boner, random,
198
brain:
anxious,
157
badly wired,
27
as body's junk drawer,
318
damage to,
334
growing and maturing,
72
learning by doing,
259
programmed before birth,
18
protectiveness of,
158
â59
and stress,
223
in turmoil,
230
you're not to blame for,
28
Bravo (TV network),
285
bullies, standing up to,
55
â62
bullshitter, becoming better,
52
burden, bearing,
157
burnout,
69
Byrne, Rhonda,
The Secret,
14
â15
Caffe Luna (R.I.P.),
39
canary, enchanted,
125
caregivers,
36
â37
cat, as companion,
48
cattle prod,
303
chaos:
classifications of,
12
slipping into,
10
charisma,
217
charity,
135
â41
examples,
136
â37
quick diagnosis,
138
â39
your script,
139
â40
chemical dependence,
32
Cheney, Dick,
149
childbirth, miracle of,
247
childhood abuse:
avoiding confrontation,
84
â85
avoiding disclosure,
87
â88
closure after,
84
â89
examples,
85
â86
girlfriend suffering from,
208
quick diagnosis,
88
â89
recovery from,
84
â89
reporting,
89
therapy for,
86
â87
your script,
89
children:
of asshole parents,
291
â97