Cut Cords of Attachment (17 page)

At least once in your career as a self-healer, you owe it to yourself to experiment with our last technique for finding a cord of attachment. Enjoy!

TECHNIQUE: Locate the Cord by Feeling It Inside Yourself

Since you have mastered the “Call It, Read It” technique, you know that information about auras can display according to the Tarot-like spread that you choose.

Well, you can request that the location for a particular cord of attachment be experienced through sensations in your own body:

1. Close your eyes. Notice how it feels right now, in your physical body.

2. Do the “Get Big” technique.

3. Set the intention to be of service to your client. Or to help yourself grow as a person.

4. Ask for the location of that particular cord of attachment, e.g., “William Shakespeare’s cord to his Fan Club President.” Request that information display quickly and comfortably in your own body.

5. Take 2-3 Vibe-Raising Breaths.

6. After you return to normal breathing, sit there, gently noticing how you physically feel. Notice any unusual sensation, image of your body, etc. It counts.

7. Ask the Divine Being helping you now to remove that experience completely, so you won’t risk taking on your client’s problems on any level. (Or, if working on yourself, so that you not carry forward energetic traces of this research after your healing is done.)

8. Close your eyes. Inwardly tell yourself, “Technique over and thanks, Divine Being.” Or the equivalent.

9. Open your eyes. Well done!

Can you trust this kind of knowing?

Of course! You have set an intention to find information. You have given yourself a valid context. So trust it. You can also trust the Divine Being who is helping you. Another option which never hurts is to trust yourself.

Rosetree Energy Spirituality flows most powerfully when you dare to trust.

CORD SAMPLE: Exactly Where It Should Have Been

Marian had traveled for hours to attend our session. She burst into the room and blurted out her intention. “I want to express myself better when I’m with people.”

Where did I locate the cord of attachment? If you were to guess at this point in my story, you might think, “Self-expression is at the Throat Chakra. So that’s where Rose is going to find a big, fat cord of attachment.”

Nope! After doing her Before Picture, I asked Marian to describe how she felt emotionally. She said, “Dark and cold, like an empty hole in there. I’ve had that my whole life.”

We wound up cutting the cord of attachment to Marian’s mother, which was located at her Heart Chakra.

Cord items revealed a hideous pattern, a recurring nightmare that had been stuck in Marian’s aura since childhood: No hugs, no love, not even being allowed to cry.

In Step 10, I asked Marian for her reaction to what I described about the cord. Sorrowfully, she confirmed the unusual harshness of her upbringing. If caught crying, she was punished. Bad enough that she often cried herself to sleep, Marian also had to hide the tears.

There is always a difference between stand-alone psychological insight and the conversations you will have during Steps 10-12, after a cord has been removed. Supplementing her After Picture, I asked Marian to close her eyes, move into her emotions, and describe what she felt. “What about that hole in your heart?” I asked gently.

“Gone,” she said, clearly amazed.

Now that the speaker was more whole, she would be able to speak as never before.

All You Need

For Step 5, I have supplied you with many techniques. But, remember, you only need one. After you have grown comfortable with that technique, Step 5 will become one of the quickest parts of the cord cutting procedure. Step 6 goes fast, too, but don’t skip it. To find out why, keep reading.

Chapter 8
Give Permission

12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment

Step 1. Create a Sacred Space

Step 2. Make an Energy Sandwich

Step 3. Activate the Aura

Step 4. Choose Which Cord to Cut

Step 5. Locate the Cord

Step 6. Give Permission

Provide drama through a sacred ceremony

Make a Spiritual Contract

Activate Divine Homeostasis

To help clients:
Provide Guidance on Request

Step 7. Remove the Cord

Step 8. Bandage to Rebalance

Step 9. Write the Dialogue Box

Step 10. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences with the Cordee

Step 11. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences for Other Relationships

Step 12. Assign Homework

Ceremonies make an impression. No matter how worldly-wise we may be, or how skeptical, everyone’s conscious mind responds to drama. Even the most jaded theater critic becomes more alert when the curtain goes up.

Subconsciously
we love drama even more. This simple fact can help you as a healer. Choose when to create a bit of therapeutic drama. Only take care to do it appropriately. You want to introduce just enough drama, neither too little nor too much.

In 20 years, I’ve never caused a client to run from the room, screaming, sobbing, or firing gunshots into the air. Ultimately, a wise client values results more than flash. Nonetheless, a judicious amount of drama can improve results.

Ceremonies
provide a solution. I’m not alone in discovering this. For instance, religions have long recognized the human need for drama. Otherwise they never would have created ceremonies like baptisms, weddings and funerals. Many spiritual teachers offer formal initiations.

Well, here’s my equivalent, Step 6 to Cut Cords of Attachment. Use a formal Permission Statement to serve as a unique and lasting ceremony.

Make a Spiritual Contract

Lawyers need not be present for this type of contract. Nor will you need any special license to officiate. Create any Spiritual Contract you like. Just be careful what you ask for.

1. Ask your client to repeat the following words, phrase by phrase. Fill in the blanks, as appropriate. For this example, I’ll fill in the first blank with the name of Archangel Michael, but substitute your client’s choice of Divine Being. The healer’s name goes in the second blank. For the third, feel free to change the name I have supplied. All cordees probably won’t be named “John Doe.”

2. I now give permission

3. to
Archangel Michael
and to
me

4. to cut the cord of attachment between myself and
John Doe

5. so there will be no more pulling and tugging of energy between us

6. but only a spiritual tie.

Energy follows intention. Because you and your client have officially set an intention, this will cause spiritual help to flow in a way that permanently cuts, then heals, this particular cord of attachment.

Q&A About Permission Statements

Guess what, Courageous Explorer? Cutting a cord of attachment is a sort of commitment. So I won’t be the least bit surprised if you have some questions.

If I weren’t willing to cut the cord of attachment, why would I have bothered getting this far. Isn’t it a little ridiculous, having to give permission out loud?

Your subconscious mind has no sense of humor about this. Nor does the Divine Being helping you. Please show respect for yourself and the process of cord cutting. Do every single step.

If you do your honest best each time, you will develop superb skills for cutting cords of attachment. You deserve that, as your own client.

Filling in the blank, is it enough to say the person’s relationship to the client, like “my sweetheart”? How about substituting a romantic phrase, like “The only man I have ever loved”?

Sorry, but ceremonies work best with some degree of formality. Even a bride who holds her wedding in a park, wears blue jeans and no makeup, is unlikely to be so informal that her vow states, “I agree to marry, um, like, this guy. I guess.”

Therefore, even if your client is an unrepentant first-namer, encourage her to state the full name of the cordee.

Of course, people involved in some of the grimmest cords will not have a name, as in the case of a hit-and-run car accident. But for cords like this, your client’s memory has encoded an identity loud and clear. In such a case it will be enough to say something like, “The driver in that hit-and-run accident.”

Small reminder: Any grim, or major, cord of attachment is not where to start helping a family member or friend. Remove many minor cords of attachment for yourself before cord cutting even one major cord for yourself. And the first time you help a client, start with a minor cord for that client.

My advice? Gain a great deal of practice before cutting any major cord of attachment for a client. Doing a quality job is a big responsibility.

Do clients like saying a Permission Statement?

For some, it’s no biggie—quick and routine. Other clients clearly need the chance because, for them, a new level of healing is set in motion.

Subconsciously, or even consciously, some folks don’t fully appreciate what’s happening until they speak the official words of a Permission Statement.

Such a client may cry or come up with new questions. Good! You definitely want this to happen before moving on to Step 7.

TALE: When Samantha Knew

Samantha wasn’t the most introspective person I have ever met. Objective reality is her thing, not inner nuances. I had known this about Samantha for some time. Still, I was a bit startled to hear her describe giving birth to her daughter:

“I knew I was pregnant. I mean, I could see that belly grow. Still it wasn’t real to me that I was going to have a child. I just couldn’t believe it.

“Fast forward to me in labor. It got to the point when I had to push. I gave a big push and my daughter’s head came out. When I looked down and saw that head, finally I realized that it was true.

“I felt so surprised. I kept saying to myself, over and over: ‘I’m having a child. I’m having a child.’”

Unlike Samantha, I had a rather different experience of pregnancy. It was pretty obvious to me all along that a person was going to come out of my body, a.k.a. birth.

But you really can never predict when another person is going to consciously register something about inner components of life. Saying the Permission Statement out loud guarantees that a client consciously commits to this healing experience.

Consciously, as well as subconsciously, the client registers that a permanent ceremony of liberation is about to happen.

TALE: No More Hiding

Juan was one of the most self-aware clients I’ve ever had. Yet he suffered from an acute lack of confidence, especially when dealing with women. The cord of attachment to an abusive mother attached at his throat.

During Step 6, Juan found it hard to say the Permission Statement out loud. He started to cry, then held the tears back. This brave man could scarcely get the words out.

I let him take his time. Healing was in progress. Why rush?

Did it make sense that this particular client would choke up? In Step 9, I learned that the worst part of his cord of attachment went, “If I put my soul in hiding, maybe I won’t be attacked so much. Being myself is what seems to set her off.”

Another pattern, replaying in Juan’s cord 24/7, went, “Women will always like me better if I give them only a vague picture of who I am. I should say as little as possible, seem tough, avoid answering questions. Then we can pretend that I am whatever the woman wants. Not showing up as myself feels so much safer than exposing my real opinions and feelings.”

In retrospect, it made perfect sense that Juan struggled to speak up and give his Permission Statement.

Managing to speak up anyway helped to set his healing in motion. As a result of our session, Juan found new confidence to speak up in front of women… anywhere, any time, any woman.

Divine Homeostasis

Although it takes two to tango, stopping the dance requires just one person. Removing a cord of attachment between dancers is a bit more complicated, requiring additional personnel. You are involved, as the healer. A Divine Being is also needed.

He or She is the one who will arrange for Divine Homeostasis.

Here at Earth School, energy is neither created nor destroyed. So what happens to the energy flow within a cord of attachment? Where does it go, once a cord has been cut?

Your client’s share will be dispersed. That is an important part of the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment.

Any push or pull of energy, within the cord, will definitely be gone for good. Farther into the future, this reorganization will protect your client against taking on a similar energy.

But how about the cordee? He has energy patterns, too, in that cord. That’s where
DIVINE HOMEOSTASIS
comes in.

Divine Homeostasis keeps a cordee’s energy in the same balance as it was while there was a cord of attachment. Here are some examples to help you consider cord patterns from the cordee’s point of view:

• Josie is married to an angry man who has been sending her the equivalent of a ton of rage daily. Where will he put that rage once the cord is cut?
  
• Ethan’s son has been pulling on Dad’s emotions for years. It has been a daily “Gimme, gimme,” draining a swimming pool’s worth of emotional energy. Now that the pool has a big “Keep out” sign, what will happen to the son?
  
• Audrey’s boss at work changes his attitude at random. Sometimes he sends her normal boss-like vibes, sometimes lust, sometimes hate. Maybe you would consider his behavior a form of sexual harassment. Certainly, Audrey has the right to free herself, but as a healer you don’t have the right to change her boss, even if you could.
  

When Audrey, Ethan and Josie cut their cords of attachment, they will be freed from certain energy patterns.
They
are your clients, not the cordees.

In each case, it is your client’s cord of attachment to that particular cordee. So Divine Homeostasis will help the cordee.

Let’s make sure you understand that ideal of one particular person’s cord of attachment to somebody else. Your
client
has a cord of attachment and a spiritual tie to the cordee. You are facilitating cord cutting on behalf of your client, removing that cord of attachment. Probably the
cordee
also has a separate cord of attachment and spiritual tie to your client. That is none of your client’s business, nor would that ever be your business as a healer.

Now, if you had enough training to turn pro and facilitate sessions of Rosetree Energy Spirituality beyond your circle of friends, those cordees might come to you for help. Perhaps you might help cut
their
cords to Audrey, Ethan or Josie. But no such request has been made, so relax.

Meanwhile your role as a healer, first and always, is to do no harm. That includes not confusing anyone who happens to be on the other side of a cord of attachment. Divine Homeostasis takes care of this.

They Don’t Ask? Don’t You Tell

Only explain about Divine Homeostasis when a client asks. Most won’t. They’ll be more satisfied with a session if they can fill it with conversation about “Me-me-me.” As the healer, however, you deserve to know, exactly, how Divine Homeostasis works.

It’s a matter of rebalancing energy for the cordee. Soon as your client makes the official Permission Statement, the Divine Being who has been invited to cut the cord gets busy. He or She begins to reconfigure the energy flow.

That cordee, what does he need to receive? What must be discharged?

Agreements will be negotiated with people on-planet and off, until the precise energy configuration is created. Each participant agrees, on a spiritual level.

Yet one more reason to be grateful to be working with Divine Beings! Even if you could figure out whom to ask, and then locate each person’s spirit to set up a quick conference call; even if you had great skills for negotiation, so that a “No” would never faze you, such a big job!

You might persist until receiving every requisite “Yes.” But even if you had the math skills to tote up every ounce of give-and-take and therefore knew exactly when to stop making any more deals... don’t you think that all this might take you longer than 10 seconds?

CORD SAMPLE: It’s Okay, Mom

Tyler’s mother had mood swings like crazy. This was driving him crazy.

Tyler was nearly 40, and still unmarried. Although he had managed to leave home, Mom still called him daily, treating him like a baby. Tyler wanted to get a life—his own life, as a grown-up.

After we cut the cord of attachment to his mother, Tyler wasn’t surprised to learn that his mother had been dumping a lot of energy into him: Huge quantities of anxiety, depression and anger. Without all these feelings intruding at random intervals, maybe Tyler would finally stop feeling emotionally overwhelmed.

Having more energy might be a welcome change, too.

During Step 10, I pointed out these likely consequences of having his cord cut to Mommy. Tyler felt hopeful. Yet he was still a good son, concerned about selfishly hurting his mother.

So I explained about Divine Homeostasis. Tyler began to brighten up. Still, he wasn’t satisfied quite yet. “How many other people does it take to handle all I used to receive from my mother?”

Using the “Questioning” technique, I got the scoop straight from Archangel Michael. “Nine people,” He said. “Three on-planet and six off-planet.”

I told Tyler. He was impressed. “I’m that powerful? Wow!”

TECHNIQUE: Activate Divine Homeostasis

Divine Homeostasis may be my favorite technique of all. Because you as the healer need do nothing extra to make it happen. Actually, you have done it already by: