A KeyHolder's Handbook (15 page)

Have him pick an inflatable doll. Tell him it's his new girlfriend and he will be spending a lot of time with her in the near future. It doesn't matter what he tells the clerk, he will know what it's for.

Now let's suppose he has to go on a business trip. If he has to pass through airport security I recommend a plastic cage, that is, unless you want him to show it to them. If he travels by car it won't matter. But you can still have fun with him while he is away. For example, if he has a laptop or tablet with him, send him to an X-rated video web site and make him watch a specific video. Or several of his choice as long as he can tell you about them on the phone afterwards. He will probably get turned on watching them. That, in itself, will make things uncomfortable for him.

Tell him to wear his favorite panties when goes out to eat. Or maybe have him wear them to bed so he can think about you all night.

Don't forget to call him every night, or even during the day, so you can get him all aroused for that business meeting he is going to. And don't forget you can always text him.

If you both have phones that will handle photo messaging, send him a photo or two. During the day is especially good.

Don't forget to have him buy you something nice on his trip. Say a nice teddy or nightie? Something that will require him to visit a boutique during his spare time.

Okay enough of that. I think you get the picture. Use your imagination and come up a few surprises of your own to keep him busy and aroused.

So what if you both go on a trip together? A vacation, maybe? If traveling by train or airplane, you can have even more fun. There is the old blanket over his lap while you fondle him trick. It doesn't attract attention, but watch his face turn red when they bring the drink cart down the aisle. Trains are wonderful for risky sex. You can both have fun in a private stateroom or even just regular seating.

But the best way to travel is by automobile! You can play with his genitals while he drives, as long as you don't get too distracting. You can whisper all kinds of things in his ear. Or you can have him insert a plug when you fill up with gas and let him remove it the next time.

And don't get me started on all the wonderful things you can do when you stay in a motel together! The possibilities are endless. Try using a little bondage and paddling his bottom. Can you make him scream loud enough to draw the interest of the people in the next room? Maybe you don't want to draw their interest that way. That's fine. Nobody says you have to.

Motel sex is always fun, especially when one of you is wearing a chastity device. Let him beg to be released just so you can tease him like you do at home.

Blindfold him, have him remove his clothing and tell him that you are opening the blinds for a minute. You can open and close them just a little very quickly and it will sound as if you are opening them all the way.

Bend him over that tiny table they always seem to have in every motel room in the country, then use your strap-on to make him feel right at home.

Of course, you can always hire a babysitter if you have kids and go to a motel for the evening. It is not only romantic, but it can be so much fun as well.

Now, do you really want to have some fun with him? Bind him, tell him that you have invited a couple of men to join you later. If he asks you when they will arrive, just keep telling him, “Later.” He doesn't need to know there are no other men. And if there are, so much the better. Just never remove the blindfold unless he likes to watch you with other men.

Yes, motels are fun. You can do things you wouldn't do at home because no one knows who you are. So what if they see your husband getting a soft drink from the machine while wearing only a pair of pink panties?

I have not met many men who don't enjoy at least a little humiliation of one kind or another. If you know your partner, you can always find a way to play to his sense of embarrassment.

We have talked about what to do and what to say while he is at work or running errands. We have discussed things to do when you are out together, or traveling. But what if you are at home and you have children?

Depending on the ages and sleeping habits, not to mention those teens who have social lives outside the home, you may be limited as to how much you can do during the average day. Especially on weekends and during the Summer when they are home all day.

Remember those text messages? You can use them to communicate with your partner even when the kids are at home with you. They don't need to know that you are texting Dad, or what you might be saying in those texts. You can have him meet you in the master bedroom or even the master bathroom if you like. Take five minutes to pull his pants down and fondle his bottom or genitals, even with the cage in place. You just need enough time to get him aroused.

You can stand behind him and fondle whatever you can reach, his genitals, his nipples, and his bottom, all while you whisper in his ear. What should you say? How about telling him that you have plans for him later when the kids are asleep? Or maybe you can simply tell him how horny you are and that you wish you could have him ravish you right then and there. You could let him kneel between your legs and use his tongue to give you a little daytime pleasure.

The point is, there is really no reason why you can't still have fun, even when the kids are around. So use your imagination and try to find some things that you can do to keep things interesting. And don't forget to have fun yourself. Remember, teasing him includes pleasing you. Whether he does it or you do it yourself, it is still a means of teasing him.

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Chapter 16 – KeyHolder's Checklist

“Okay. Since it's your birthday,
I will let you roll the dice for a chance to
have an orgasm. If you roll snake-eyes,
I will let you out so you can masturbate.”

Every handbook should have a checklist so you don't have to thumb through the entire manual looking for what to do next. So, here it is, a quick guide so you can look things up in a hurry and read the particulars later, when you have time.

Step 1:
Choose a chastity device
(if you intend to use one). Make sure you have one that fits properly. Test it out for a few days to make sure there are no problems with fit, chaffing, or pulling out. If he can pull out, you may need to get an anti-pullout device. These often have different names, such as spikes, teeth, or even anti-pullouts. If your device didn't come with something like this, you may need to look for an optional, or third party, device that will do the trick. There is no point in locking him up if he can easily pull out and masturbate. The whole point of the game is denial of his orgasms.

Step 2:
Set limits.
Talk it all over and decide with what you are both comfortable. This includes things like length of denial (often left up to the KeyHolder), types of humiliation that will be off-limits, types of toys that will be permitted or not allowed, and rules for the chaste. It is important to have some preset limits to prevent problems later. Of course, limits can be changed as things progress. So keep the list up to date by periodically talking things over again.

Step 3:
Set your goals.
These are flexible as time goes on as well. But you need a starting target. Will he be locked up for a week at time, a month, six months, or even longer before a full orgasm is granted. Does he want a long denial or several shorter ones? Do you want to push him to longer and longer periods of denial? What will you do if he accidentally ejaculates? What if it's your fault? What if it's his? Again, these can change as you get further along.

Step 4: Create a release plan.
Not an orgasm plan, just a plan for when he will be released from the cage. Will you release him for every major teasing session or not? Will he be released for weekly cleaning, shaving, etc. or will you take care of all that during tease sessions? Will he be released for travel or will he wear a plastic device with numbered plastic locks? All these times and more must be considered so there will be no conflict later.

Step 5: Plan for daily teasing.
Will you play a game to determine such things as whether he will be granted an orgasm of some kind? Or maybe whether or not he will be physically teased that day and for how long. What kinds of things do you plan on doing on a daily basis? Text messages? Phone calls? Notes in his lunch box? Will there be daily fondling sessions (one to five minutes in duration)? Perhaps all or some of the above each day. This is something that you must decide. But whatever you decide, stick to it. Don't let a day go by that you don't do some kind of psychological teasing.

Step 6: Set daily chores.
  He needs to know what is expected of him. Make a list and make him stick to his list. Follow up on him and make sure he is actually doing them. If he slacks off, or fails to do an assigned chore, he should be reprimanded in some way. If scolding him doesn't seem to work, punish him. He needs to know that you mean business when it comes to the work you assign him. Don't forget your sexual needs, either. Make sure he knows what he can initiate or not initiate. Is there something you want on a daily (or nightly) basis? A bath and a massage, maybe? Put it on the list.

Step 7: Create rewards list.
Rewards are an important part of keeping him sexually aroused. You can reward him with a free breast fondle or a few minutes of non-released teasing. Of course you need large rewards for times when he goes above and beyond expectations and small rewards for other times when he has just plain been a good boy. Maybe he could take a bath or shower with you (with or without his cage) if he has been especially compliant. Or maybe you will allow him to masturbate (but not to orgasm) for a few minutes. Rewards are important and whether you share what those rewards are or not, you should have a nice list just in case you need to reward him for some reason.

Step 8: Set punishment guidelines.
You should talk about setting up limits on punishments. At the same time, it should be left open enough to give you some flexibility. After all, you will be administering the punishments and, hopefully, they will be in accordance with the particular incident. You need to be ready with all levels of severity as well so that you are not hemming and hawing as you try to figure out what level of punishment to administer. You should be ready at any moment to correct unwanted behavior with the proper punishment.

Step 9: Purchase needed equipment.
If you haven't yet, you need to make a list of those things you want to use during your tease sessions; Wrist cuffs, vibrators, dildos, lubricants, etc., etc. If can afford it, go ahead an make your purchases. If you can't afford to buy everything now, get what you can and see if there is something else that will do in the mean time. Either way, you will want a list of things you think you might want or need. You can always add to it or delete some items as you go along. Practice makes perfect. So don't be afraid to try something new. If you fail the first time, try again another time, but don't give up until you know it is something you really don't want to do.

Step 10: Schedule teasing sessions.
It is always a good idea to have a plan. If you schedule two or three major (at least one hour) sessions each week (more if you like) you should be able to keep your guy sufficiently aroused to get him through to the next one. These sessions are important. They are the center piece of a good tease and denial chastity game. He will begin to look forward to them. If you have to miss one, so be it, but you should make every effort to make it up to him. He is relying on you to keep him aroused. Missing too many sessions can cause him to become depressed and think you don't want to play the game anymore. Don't let that happen. Make a schedule and do your very best to stick to it.

Step 11: Lock him up.
When all else is done, it's time to for that big moment. Make a big deal out of it. Maybe celebrate with a night out on the town or a special tease session in which he will be allowed one last orgasm before the lock snaps closed. Don't just call him to the bedroom, have him drop his pants, then lock his cage in place. Let him know that this is a big deal for you, too. Find a way to make it special. Make it a moment to remember. A Kodak moment, maybe?

Step 12: Perform first release.
When the time comes to engage him in his first big tease session, make a big deal out of that, too. Blindfold him so he won't see how nervous you are, even if you aren't. Spend a lot the time stroking his penis but don't neglect other erogenous zones either. And most of all, have fun and don't allow him to ejaculate. Remember, this is called tease and DENIAL.

Now that you have completed your first major tease and denial session, the rest is easy. Just stick to your plan. Don't panic. And don't allow him an orgasm without your permission. Daily teasing will become habit, just be sure to vary the routine. Making him wear women's panties to work one or two days a week can be humiliating, but if he wears them every day, the thrill goes away. The same goes for everything you do. The less often you do a particular thing, the more effective it will be when you do it.

Remember, it is a game. You are supposed to have fun!

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