A KeyHolder's Handbook (8 page)

Remember, you don't have to actually do the things in the videos. That is to say, just because he was aroused by forced bi-sexual activity, by no means requires you to engage in such activities. What you want to do is find ways of teasing him using the information you gather from this research. Using this information you can say things during a tease session (especially when he is blindfolded) that will arouse him more than just your touch.

If, for example, he was turned on by watching two women teasing a man at the same time, you can say things such as, “I'll bet you would love it if I brought so-and-so over to help me tease you.” Or you might say, “I have been thinking, wouldn't if be fun if I found another Mistress to help me do all this teasing?” Depending on the subject matter of the video, or whatever it was that turned him on, you should be able to find something to arouse him during your sessions.

Talking about what gets him excited in this manner will fill his mind with fantasies. And that is your goal. You can allude to any of his fantasies in this manner at any time, day or night, and he will become at least a little bit aroused, depending upon what else is going on at the time, and how much detail you go into. If he is at work, in a meeting, or having lunch with his boss, a text message will be slightly embarrassing, even though no one but him sees it.

It is worth the time and effort to investigate some videos yourself and see what you can find out about his inner most secret desires. Assign him the task of watching one or two videos a week and report back to you  about how they made him feel. You can gain a wealth of information, as well as ammunition, to use in humiliating him.

Now what about those websites that have web teases? This is where it gets really fun. Most of the web teases fall into one of two categories. The first is what I call the “Visual” arousal type. These teases feature a series of photos of a woman (or several different women) along with some text that is designed to get him aroused. They do not involve any type of actual activity. They are simply designed to get a guy turned on. They are similar to the captioned photos I mentioned earlier.

You can use these teases in much the same way you use the videos mentioned above. You assign him the task of reviewing a specific tease simply to give him something to do when you want to be left alone. You kill two birds with one stone. You get time to yourself while he is off viewing sexy pictures of women and reading a bit of arousing text to go with them, and he gets teased since (hopefully) he is safely locked away in his chastity device.

If he is away on a business trip, or just has a little free time at home, you can assign him one of these teases just to keep his mind on sex, his chastity, and to make him just a bit uncomfortable, physically speaking. You can use it any time that you are apart, or just want time to yourself, or as a prelude to more personal teasing.

The other type of web tease is much more complex. Not only are there photos of sexy woman (most nude or semi-nude) but there are activities assigned by the tease as well. With each new photo, he will be assigned a task. It may be to stroke his penis for a set length of time, a certain number of strokes, or until he is near ejaculation. It may be that he had to use a plug in his anus, or clips on his nipples until the tease tells him to remove them. The point is, he is supposed to perform whatever action the tease calls for.

These teases can be used in three different ways. The first is to assign him a tease to do when he will be alone. That is, while you are out buying groceries, or getting your hair done, or just having lunch with the girls. He may not be able to actually do many of the activities, of course, unless you remove his chastity device first.

The second way to use this type of web tease is to monitor him while he does it. You want to learn how to tease your guy, here is one of the best ways I have ever found! It can be very humiliating as well as a great deal of fun for the both of you. If you tell him to perform a particular web tease, you can sit back and watch as he performs all the tasks the girl on the screen assigns him. Or you can read the tease to him without letting him see the photos. Either way will be quite humiliating for him because he will be doing everything to himself. You will simply be reading the instructions and making sure he does them correctly. Trust me, he will love it!

The third, and final, way to use a web tease is a great method for teaching yourself how to tease your guy. What you do is simply read the instructions on each page to yourself. It is best done with your partner blindfolded so that he can't see what you are doing. Then, if he is supposed to stroke his penis for two minutes, you do it for him. You insert any plugs that need inserting, and you talk to him using the same words in the text.

By doing a web tease in this manner, you can learn what kinds of things you need to say to him while teasing him and you can learn all kinds of neat little tricks to use when physically teasing him yourself. By reading the text, you will learn what kinds of things to say to any man to get him aroused. Of course, you may have to skip (or change) some of the text because he can't see you (or the photo) and some things would just sound silly. For example, if the text says, “There, now you can see my breasts. You like them don't you?” The photo that goes with that text obviously shows the woman's breasts. However, he can't see yours because he is blindfolded. So you would change it to something like this, “I'll bet you would just love to see my breasts right now. Wouldn't you? Can't you just picture them right here in front of you?” And that would be just as arousing to him as if he could actually see your breasts.

If you are at all interested in creating a little humiliation, then web teases are a great way to go. If you are nervous about what to say while you are teasing his body, then web teases can teach you a lot. If you are looking for something to try that you haven't done before, again, web teases can be very enlightening.

Before you try out a web tease like those on line, I strongly suggest that you review several of them for yourself, so that you will know exactly what is called for. You will want to select ones that have particular appeal to you or to your partner. There are several websites that have teases that you can use at home. Some even have built-in timers so that if you are having him perform them himself, or you are monitoring him, you won't have to worry about getting a stopwatch or setting a kitchen timer or anything like that.

I have had hours upon hours of fun monitoring men while they perform some of these web teases. I like to help in some cases where the tease calls for something like paddling himself. I either do it for him or make him paddle himself to my satisfaction. If you have never tried one of these web teases, I highly recommend that you at least take a look at a few to see what I am talking about. Once you try a few, you will want to do more of them.

I have my own web tease website with only a few teases. You can find the web address at the end of this book. But there are several other sites on the Internet that you can find with a simple search of the key words “web tease” in your favorite search engine. I cannot urge you enough. I am a strong believer in the power of these web teases to teach you things you never thought of doing before. Whether you want to watch him perform them for you, or want to be the person giving the orders, you can learn so much from them that it is like having your own mentor right in your own home. Try one and you will see what I mean.

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Chapter 8 – Psychological Teasing

“
I have wracked my brain,
but I just can't find a reason to ever
let you out of that chastity belt.”

Psychological, or mental, teasing is one of the strongest methods of teasing you have at your disposal. The statement at the top of this page is just one example of how you can use your words to tease and torment your partner. As I have tried so hard to convince you, teasing is fun. The more you do it, the fun it will be because you will discover what really works on your partner and what doesn't.

Done right, statements like the one above can not only arouse, but terrify your partner. That may sound cruel, but that fact is, it will, in actuality, thrill him even more. Men want to be tormented about things like how long they will have to go before they get relief, and if they will actually get to have a full orgasm or not.

One of the best weapons in your arsenal is fear. I don't mean that you have to literally terrify him, just give him possibilities of things that could happen. Letting him know who is in charge, you and you alone, can instill just the right amount of fear. But he has to believe it. Statements such as, “This is what you wanted, so now you are going to have to live with the consequences,” can quickly establish that you are in charge, which is what he said he wanted. And it can instill just the right amount of fear.

Knowing his fantasies is another way to get into his head, so to speak, when you can't do anything physical. If he has a fantasy that includes him being dressed up as a maid, use it. You can tell him that you have been planning on making him dress up in women's clothing, but that isn't going to get deep enough into his fantasy. What you need to say is, “I have been thinking about dressing you up and taking you out to dinner.” Something that pushes his fantasy beyond what he expects from you.

He might have fantasies about you bringing in another man to have a little three-way sex. Even if you flatly refuse to ever include another person in your private (sexual) activities, you can still use his fantasies to psychologically thrill him. For example, you might tell him sometime, that you were thinking of having one of his co-workers join you for a really exciting sexual encounter. Then mention that you have always wanted to see him perform oral sex on another man. That last part was never a part of his fantasy, and he is now afraid you will try to make that happen.

Not all psychological teasing has to be the type that would frighten him. In fact, most of the time, you will want to tease him with things that he knows might really happen. For example, you might tell him, in a text message, that you are laying on the bed masturbating and you can't wait for him to get home. I will bet he would pass on that drink with his buddies after work that night. How hard would it be to stop for a moment in the produce aisle of the grocery store to send him a text message? Something to turn him on. Maybe tell him how interesting the cucumbers look. Or how they remind you of him. It doesn't have to be much, just a few words to let him know that you are in the mood, even if you're not.

Of course, not everything is about him. So send him erotic messages about you and what you want. You might say something like, “I am going to need a massage tonight. And there might just be a reward in it for you, if you do a good job.” Of course, you can leave off that last part if you want. Let him wonder if his efforts will be rewarded or not. Sometimes his reward is being able to please you. And that may be all the reward he needs.

This is a good time to incorporate his fantasies, if you know what they are. If you don't, plant some!

That is, put a thought in his head and he will create his own fantasy from that. For example, you might tell him that you are thinking of bringing your best friend over to help you tease his penis. If you leave it at that, he will certainly develop his own fantasies concerning a second woman. It doesn't matter whether you actually plan on adding someone else or not, planting the thought in his mind will start his fantasy gears turning. You might even ask him to create a fantasy involving two women for you so that he can tell it to you later.

Remember, it doesn't matter what the fantasy is about, he will develop one in his head and every time you mention it again, that fantasy will pop into his head and he will get aroused. The more detail you create for him the more he will think it might eventually happen. His fantasies, no matter who put them in his head, are a major driving force behind his erections, his arousal.

Of course, adding another woman is not the only fantasy you can plant in his brain. Just about anything that you could think of will work. You might suggest that you plan to dress him up as a woman and take him out for dinner. Cross-dressing is one of the more common fantasies men have. In fact, I have suggested doing that to more than one man who thought cross-dressing was something he would never do. Before long, he begins to become aroused by the thought, even though he claimed it didn't excite him. The truth is, it didn't excite him until I made it exciting. Simply by planting the possibility of cross-dressing in his head, I caused him to start becoming aroused by the idea.

Another area you can probe with fantasies is bi-sexuality. Suggest that you might bring another man into the picture. Do that a few times and you will see. He will begin to fantasize about it. Before long, his fantasies will include doing things he used to think were repugnant.

Which brings up something else I haven't specifically addressed, yet. Men love the thought of being “forced” to do things they would not otherwise do. Of course, you can't really make them do anything they don't want to do. Here is the catch, they want to be controlled. That means, they want you to “make” or “force” them to do things. They can't tell you this because it destroys the cathartic feeling they get from it. If they have to tell you what to do to them, they may as well just do it by themselves.

They need you to tell them what to do. They want you to take charge of them (sexually at least) and to insist that they do those things that they would not normally do. It could be something as simple as washing the dishes after dinner. I don't care if you have a dishwasher or not, make him do them by hand. He will love you for it. In fact, it is what he lives for. It's not that you are forcing him to do anything, it's that he feels obligated to obey you. Therefore, telling him to do something is tantamount to forcing it upon him.