A KeyHolder's Handbook (11 page)

Milking:

Exactly what is milking, anyway? Milking is the process of draining all of a man's semen from his body. There are two basic methods for doing this. The first, called “ruined orgasm” milking, is done by giving him three or four ruined orgasms in one session. Yes, you can do that. Trust me when I tell you that he will not lose interest in sex when he has a ruined orgasm. In fact, he will feel very let down if you stop teasing him after his first ruined orgasm. There is no reason why you can't continue teasing his penis until you get one, two, or even three more ruined orgasms from him. Usually, by the third one, you will have drained most, if not all, of his semen. Even if given a full orgasm at this point he will have little to no semen to ejaculate.

The second, and most humiliating method of extracting his semen is called “prostate milking.” Just inside his anal opening, there is a walnut sized organ called the prostate. I won't go into all the details of what it does and why, but suffice it to say it is instrumental in the production of semen and ejaculation.

By gently massaging his prostate with your finger, or other device, you can force his semen to be expelled. It will not shoot out of his penis like a full orgasm or anything. What it will do is simply dribble out. You won't get much with each expulsion, normally. Some men can expel quite a bit, but the normal amount is about one third the amount of his normal ejaculation. Therefore, you might need to continue messaging his prostate until you have everything he has produced over that last few days.

There are special prostate devices made specifically for this purpose. They look like curvy butt-plugs. You may have limited success using one of these devices instead of your finger, but it has been my experience that each man is built slightly differently. Therefore, these pre-made devices don't work as well on everyone. Besides, with your finger, you can feel the prostate and make sure that you are in the right place.

What you do is lubricate everything first. Wear a a glove, either a medical type or even a dish washing style glove will work. Insert your finger up to your second knuckle so that you can bend it toward his penis. Feel for the prostate and massage it by moving your finger in a circular motion around the edges of the prostate. It is important that you not massage the center of the prostate as you will not be successful in expelling his ejaculate. The outer edges work much better.

Let me state for the record, there has never been a definitive study indicating that a man must ejaculate (or be milked) in order to maintain his health. It simply is not true. Men can go for years and years without an ejaculation and it will not effect his ability to do so when the time is right. So don't believe anything you might hear or read that says you have to milk him once a month. It is fun, but not necessary. Many women will set up a routine in which they perform ritual (routine) milkings just to keep him feeling submissive. Not a bad idea. But totally unnecessary.

There is a condition, often called “blue balls” that can be created by our constant teasing and denying him an orgasm. His balls will become a little swollen and, therefore, tender for a few days to a week. This is nothing to be alarmed about. It is just his body getting used to being teased and tormented without being allowed to ejaculate. It will subside on its own. Contrary to popular belief, blue balls don't last forever, nor get worse over time. If something like that happens, remove his cage for a few days. If it does not get better with the cage removed, he may need to see a physician. But under normal conditions, blue balls is nothing to worry about.

Another misconception is that the longer he spends in chastity, the more his semen will build up. Sperm is produced on demand. Every time he ejaculates, his body produces more sperm to replace it. It takes the average man about six hours to replace the semen expelled in one ejaculation. That sperm will not last for ever and will be replaced in time as the old sperm dies out. It is my understanding that if a man is drained of all his semen, it will be completely replaced within twelve to twenty-four hours. So after that time, his body only produces what it needs.

Having said that, let's take a look at what happens when you deny his orgasms. You tease his body, convincing it that it is going to expel some semen (and sperm). But then, you don't allow the ejaculation. The body may actually begin production of some new sperm and other fluids needed. It will not produce an entire new batch before it realizes it doesn't need any more. Therefore, teasing is what actually produces blue balls. It is this extra, unnecessary sperm and fluid production that creates blue balls in the first place. It would not happen without the sexual arousal that occurs during your teasing sessions. Of course, there are men who will tell you that I am wrong. But if you examine their habits closely, you will find that most of these men get aroused in some other way. They may frequent porn sites on the Internet, or look at magazines featuring naked (or nearly naked) women, or they may arouse themselves in other ways. But the fact is, they are getting aroused during the day, thus creating the problem themselves.

After a week or so, the aching feeling and tenderness will subside. His body has gotten used to being repeatedly aroused without relief. So, in other words, his symptoms go away. If you really want them to return, give him an orgasm a day for a few days and then start your tease and denial routine all over again. His “blue balls” will return and he will, most likely, not be a happy camper.

In summation, anal play can be fun, as long as it is done safely. Prostate milking is just another form of anal play and it can help to stimulate your partner's feelings of submission. I recommend at least attempting it. It may take you several attempts before you get the hang of it, but it is definitely worth the effort. So have fun with it, and any other anal play that you have read about in this book. The whole point of the chastity game is tease him and then deny his orgasms. So why not add some anal play and teach him what real denial is all about?

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Chapter 12 – Advanced Teasing

“
Now look what you have done.
Lick up every drop or I will just put
it in your coffee tomorrow morning.”

I have broken this chapter down into two parts: Physical and visual stimuli, and psychological and verbal stimuli. When you combine these two types of teasing you can develop a highly effective program that will keep your partner on his toes and his mind aroused as much as possible. Keeping your partner aroused is an important part of any tease and denial routine when your partner is in chastity. The basic premise is; The more sexual stimulation he receives, the more aroused he becomes. The more aroused he becomes, the more attention he will pay to you. Therefore, the more sexually and emotionally satisfied you will both become, making for an all around better relationship.

Physical and Visual Teasing

I have already talked about some of the things you can do to physically tease your partner's body and sexually arouse him. There are many more things you can do than I could possibly list here. So I won't try, but there are a few worth mentioning. Such as, using a vibrator on yourself while he watches, or walking around the house in your sexiest lingerie. These are but two of many visual stimuli that you can use to keep your chastity boy aroused. Here are a few more worth mentioning.

Edging:
You may have heard or read about edging on the Internet or in another book, but since it is something I am sure your partner will love, I will explain it here. All edging is, for those who don't know, is bringing your man as close to ejaculating as you can and then letting him cool down time and and time again. Since he will not be actually ejaculating, you can do this as many times as you like. It doesn't matter how you get him close to ejaculating, as long as you stop BEFORE he does it. The secret to edging is knowing when to stop. You will need to study everything he does before ejaculating. Every man is different, but watch his facial expressions, especially if you have told him he is not allowed to ejaculate.

Once you figure out how to tell that he is getting close, you can bring him to that point as many times as you like, as often as you like. Whether you end an edging session by allowing him to ejaculate or by denying him that pleasure, is up to you. But bear in mind, the purpose of chastity is to deny ejaculation for long periods of time, in or out of the device. Every time you tease your chastity boy, in his heart, he wants you to deny him. Therefore, do your best to keep him from ejaculating. No matter how much he begs for that orgasm, he doesn't really want it. He wants you to deny it. If you choose to allow it, be sure he understands that it was your decision and not his. Besides, it is fun to listen to him beg for that over which you have total control.

Ice:
There are many uses for ice of which you may not be aware. You can use ice, or an ice bag, to help shrink an erect penis back into a size that will easily fit back into a chastity device. But beyond that, ice can be very erotic. Use it during your tease sessions to stimulate other parts of the body as well. Rub a piece of ice across his chest, his nipples, and his stomach. His genitals are also very sensitive to cold (in an erotic way). I would caution you not to leave ice in one position for more than a few seconds. It can, and will, burn sensitive areas if left in place. Run a small piece of ice over his anus a few times and you will get a nice reaction.

If you decide not to use ice because you think it is too messy, try using a small zip-lock type of plastic bag. It contains the melted ice and still passes the full effect of the cold to your victim. Using a regular ice bag, the type used for headaches or injuries, will allow you can leave it place a little longer. They are insulated and don't pass the full effect through to the body. That is to say, they are not as cold as straight ice. All in all, ice is fun and very stimulating.

Anal Toys:
I have talked about anal toys before, but they are worth mentioning here as well. Devices such as plugs of various sizes, dildos (both realistic and smooth surfaced), and, of course, the strap-on harness used for anal sex that simulates a male penis, are all good toys to have on hand.

Plugs can be used even when you are not in a play session. With a good amount of lubrication, a plug can be placed in his bottom in a few seconds (large ones may take longer) and can, therefore, be inserted while in a bathroom, or even a restroom. It can be worn under his clothing so he can wear it out in public. Believe me when I say it is a great way to keep him aroused. The humiliation factor alone is worth the time and effort to have him insert a plug to wear out shopping. He will insist that everyone he sees knows he is wearing it.

You can use dildos in a number of ways as well. They can be inserted or used as a fake penis with which to stimulate his anus (or simulate bi-sexual activity). The anus is a very erotic zone on most men. If you combine the use of a dildo (whether hand-held or in a strap-on harness worn by you) with some verbal teasing about bi-sexuality, or your power over him, you have a really powerfully erotic combination.

Masturbation:
Masturbation, as I have said before, is one of the most humiliating things a man (or woman) does. It is private. It is not normally shared, even with one's own spouse. Having said that, it is also one fun way to tease your chastity boy. There are three basic ways you can tease a man with masturbation.

The first is to have him masturbate for you, or for someone else, or somewhere (like a public restroom) where he just might get caught. The second method is to masturbate yourself while he watches you. Assuming he can't touch you (or himself) in any way, he will get aroused and you will give yourself a bit of pleasure. The third way to use masturbation as a means of teasing a guy is to offer him the opportunity for a full orgasm if he is willing to masturbate to get it.

Of course, it all depends on how you do it. For example, if you make him the offer to masturbate now or wait a another month in chastity he just might refuse. If not, then attach more stipulations to it. If he does it, he will have to go a full six months before getting another opportunity. Or, maybe he has to do it in a public restroom, or in front one of your girlfriends. Maybe you put a time limit on him. He would have to ejaculate in so many minutes (or seconds). Perhaps you might limit the number of strokes he can use. There are many, many ways in which you can tease him with a simple thing like masturbating for an orgasm.

You could also tell him, that if he wants to masturbate, he will have to drink his own ejaculate. Some men find the idea totally repulsive. Others can't wait to do it. And then there are those men who want to try it until they are faced with actually having to do it. Of course, if they have just had a full orgasm, it is only natural that they lose interest, and therefore, don't want to try it. If you think your guy is one of those who wants to do it until actually faced with it, try ruining his orgasm. Remember, a ruined orgasm does not diminish his desire for sex. If he only wants to do it when he is aroused, then a ruined orgasm will leave him in the mood to try it. But, of course, you may have to “force” him to comply.

I always keep a small medicine cup (or shot glass) handy for just such circumstances. I love to make a man consume his own ejaculate whenever possible. It is all part of the game. It is my way of adding a little humiliation to an otherwise pleasurable event.

Psychological and Verbal Teasing