Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (51 page)

Ownership, ideas of:

of children

of partner

breaking up and

Parental alienation claims

Parenting

See also
Children

Partners of abusive men

new

See also
Abused women; Former

partners Passive aggression

Patterns of behavior

Peace bonds.
See
Restraining orders

Peer influences, and abusive behavior

Perceptions:

distorted

reversal of facts

taught to children

by women, manipulation of

Performers, and abuse of women

Personal freedom, controlling behavior and

Personal goals

Physical abuse

of children

Physical caretaking, entitlement to

Physical violence, and mental illness

See also
Abusive behavior; Violence

Play, sexual

Player (type of abuser)

Police

and abused women

and change of behavior

Pornography

Possessiveness

of children

Postseparation homicides

Power

family divisions and

oppression and

other abusers of

sexual relationships and

Powerlessness, feelings of, as excuse for abuse

Predictability, lack of

Probation officers

and change of abusive men, Probation periods

Problems, dumping of

Professionals:

abuse of power

support for abused women

Programs:

for abused women

for abusers

See also
Counseling, of abusers

Projection

Promises, unkept

Prosecution of abusers

Prosecutors, and change of behavior

Protective orders.
See
Restraining orders

Psychiatric problems

Psychological abuse

addiction and

of children

manipulative behavior

medications and

and physical violence

Psychological evaluations, in custody disputes

Psychological problems

Psychologists:

and abusive behavior

and breaking up

and children of abusive fathers

and fear of intimacy

Psychotherapy

abuser programs and

and abusive behavior

and conflict management

Public image of abuser

misleading

parenting and

Punishment, collective

Racial differences in abuse

Racial discrimination, as excuse for abuse

Racism, and abuse of women

Random abuse

Rape

Rationalizations

Reality, inversion of

Recognition of abusive behavior

Recording of abusive behavior

Recovery from addiction, and partner abuse

Relationships:

abusive

early stages

benefits of abusive behavior in

early training

Relatives:

of abused women

of abusers

Religions, and abuse of women

fundamentalist

Remorse for abuse

feigned, in custody disputes

Resistance to abuse

Resources

Respect for women

change of behavior and

children and

love and

Responsibility for actions

acceptance of

avoidance of

externalization of

Restraining orders

dropping of

judges and

violations of

Retaliation for complaints

Reversal of facts

Rewards of abusive behavior

Ridicule

Right and wrong, distorted sense of

Rights:

to anger

by women

of children

in family, abusers and

Role models

abusers as

Role reversal, in parenting

Roles in marriage, abusers and

Sadistic behavior

Safety from abuse

in breakup situation

Same-sex relationships, abuse in

Sarcasm

Schools, and violent behavior by boys

Secrecy about abuse, children and

Self:

advocacy for

doubt of

chronic mistreatment and

and signs of abuse

trust of

Self-centeredness

and change of behavior

and child abuse

parenting and

recovery from addiction and

severe

and sexual relations

of Victim types

Self-defense, as excuse for abuse

Self-destructive behavior

Self-esteem, low, as excuse for abuse

Self-examination, substance abuse and

Self-image

Self-pity

Self-protection against abuse

Sentences for violent abuse

Separation from abusers

and change of behavior

Sex object, partner as

Sex roles

early training

Sexual abuse

of children

resources

Sexual caretaking, entitlement to

Sexual promiscuity

Sexual relations

forced

loss of interest in

pressure for

Shaming of children

Sibling relationships

Siblings of abused women

Silence about observed abuse

Silencing of partner

Social class, and abusiveness

Socialization of boys

Society:

and abused mothers

attitudes toward abuse

Sons:

of abused women, opposition to abuse

of abusers

relationship with mother

See also
Children

Stalking

Steps to change of behavior

Stereotype of abusive men

Stockholm syndrome

Strategic safety plans

Subordination, sexualization of

Substance abuse

and partner abuse

differences

as excuse

similarities

by women, partner violence and

Suicide of women, partner violence and

Superiority, sense of

parenting and

Support for abused women

and change of abuser’s behavior

difficulties obtaining

resources

Suppression of anger, by women

Suppression of feelings, as excuse for abuse

Symptoms of abuse

Tension, building of

Terminology

Terror, control by

Theater, and abuse of women

Therapists

abuse of power

Therapy.
See
Psychotherapy

Thinking:

independent

of partner, control of

Thinking patterns of abusers

confusion of love with abuse

control

disrespect of partner

entitlement

justifications

maintenance of public image

origins of

as parents

reversal of facts

social class and

views of separation

Threats

To Be an Anchor in the Storm
, Brewster

Tolerance, adaptation to abuse

Trauma and Recovery
, Herman

Traumatic bonding

Tribal cultures, and abuse

Trouble with Homework

Trust, of self

Twelve-step programs

Unreasonable behavior

Unsupervised visitation

Values

and abusive behavior

of abusive men, breaking up and

alcohol and

of children, development of

distorted

societal, change of

Verbal abuse

and violence

Verbal conflict, abusers and

Versions of abuse, differing

Victims:

abusers as

in same-sex relationship

blaming of

Video games

Violence

alcohol and

by boys

breaking up and

against children

entitlement to

mental illness and

predictions of

sexual assault

among siblings

See also
Abusive behavior

Vulnerability

sex and

War, relationship as

Warning signs of abusive behavior

Weapons:

children as

substance abuse as

Winning of arguments

Women:

abuse of

abusers’ views of

taught to sons

conflicts between, abusers and

hatred of, as excuse for abuse

labor of

male attitudes toward

physical aggression by

religious fundamentalists and

See also
Abused women

World, abuse-free