The Trauma of Everyday Life: A Guide to Inner Peace (28 page)

2
.
Ibid
.

3
.
Ibid
., p. 49.

4
. Johan Barendregt, “Phobias and Related Fears,” trans. Kevin Cook, chapter 13 of
De Zielenmarkt, Over Psychotherapie in Alle Ernst (The Soul-Market, Psychotherapy in All Seriousness)
(Boom: Meppel, 1982), p. 5.

5
. Ibid., p. 8.

6
. D. W. Winnicott, “Additional Note on Psycho-Somatic Disorder,” in
Psycho-Analytic Explorations
(Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1989), p. 116.

7
.
Ibid.
, pp. 116–17.

8
.
Ibid.

9
. Michael Eigen,
Eigen in Seoul: Volume One: Madness and Murder
(London: Karnac, 2010), p. 29.

10
. D. W. Winnicott,
Playing and Reality
(London and New York: Routledge, 1971), p. 84.

11
. Roberto Calasso,
Ka: Stories of the Mind and Gods of India
(New York: Vintage, 1998), p. 280.

12
. Robert A. F. Thurman,
Essential Tibetan Buddhism
(New York: HarperCollins, 1996), p. 70.

13
.
,
Life of the Buddha,
pp. 17–180.

14
. Winnicott,
Playing and Reality
, p. 86.

15
. Karen Armstrong,
Buddha
(London: Penguin, 2001), p. 66.

16
.
Ibid
.

17
.
The Voice of the Buddha
:
The Beauty of Compassion
Volume I, translated by Gwendolyn Bays. (Berkeley, CA: Dharma, 1983), p. 204.

18
.
,
Life of the Buddha
, p. 21.

19
. Sherry Turkle,
“
The Flight from Conversation,”
New York Times,
April 21, 2012.

20
.
,
Life of the Buddha
, p. 21.

21
.
Ibid
.

22
. John S. Strong,
The Buddha: A Short Biography
(Oxford: Oneworld, 2001), p. 68.

23
. Armstrong,
Buddha
, p. 73.

24
. Winnicott,
Playing and Reality
, p. 86.

Chapter Eight: Feelings Matter

1
. Richard Gombrich,
What the Buddha Thought
(London: Equinox, 2009), p. 62.

2
.
Ibid
., p. 11.

3
.
,
: The Direct Path to Realization
(Cambridge: Windhorse, 2003), p. 164.

4
. D. W. Winnicott,
Babies and Their Mothers
(Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley, 1986), p. 86.

5
. D. W. Winnicott, “Communicating and Not Communicating Leading to a Study of Certain Opposites,” in
The Maturational Processes and the Facilitating Environment
(New York: International Universities Press, 1965), p. 186.

6
. Peter Fonagy,
Attachment Theory and Psychoanalysis
(New York: Other Press, 2001), pp. 170–71.

Chapter Nine: Implicit Memory

1
. Robert Stolorow,
Trauma and Human Existence: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections
(New York: Routledge, 2007), p. 10.

2
.
Ibid.,
p. 20.

3
.
Ibid.

4
. Boston Change Process Study Group, “Forms of Relational Meaning: Issues in the Relations Between the Implicit and Reflective-Verbal Domains,”
Psychoanalytic Dialogues
18 (2008): 125–48.

5
.
Ibid.,
p. 128
.

6
. Philip M. Bromberg,
Standing in the Spaces
(Hillsdale, NJ: Analytic Press, 1998), p. 16.

7
. D. W. Winnicott,
Playing and Reality
(London and New York: Routledge, 1971), p. 47.

8
.
Ibid.

9
.
Ibid
., p. 81.

10
.
Ibid.
, p. 82.

11
.
Ibid
., p. 71.

12
.
Ibid
., p. 65.

13
.
Ibid
., pp. 82–83.

14
. Karlen Lyons-Ruth, “The Interface Between Attachment and Intersubjectivity: Perspective from the Longitudinal Study of Disorganized Attachment,”
Psychoanalytic Inquiry
26, no. 4 (2006): 612.

15
. D. W. Winnicott, “Fear of Breakdown,” in
Psycho-Analytic Explorations
(Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1989), pp. 90–91.

16
.
Ibid
., p. 92.

Chapter Ten: Dreams of the Buddha

1
. Serinity Young,
Dreaming in the Lotus
(Boston: Wisdom, 1999), p. 25.

2
. Bhikkhu
,
The Life of the Buddha: According to the Pali Canon
(
Kandy, Sri Lanka: Buddhist Publication Society, 1972/1992), p. 22.

3
. Boston Change Process Study Group, “Forms of Relational Meaning: Issues in the Relations Between the Implicit and Reflective-Verbal Domains,”
Psychoanalytic Dialogues
18 (2008): 125–48.

4
. Karlen Lyons-Ruth, “The Interface Between Attachment and Intersubjectivity: Perspective from the Longitudinal Study of Disorganized Attachment,”
Psychoanalytic Inquiry
26, no. 4 (2006): 613.

5
.
Ibid.,
p. 602.

6
.
Ibid.,
p. 604.

7
. Michael Eigen,
Faith and Transformation
(
Eigen in Seoul, Vol. 2)
(London: Karnac, 2011), p. 20.

8
. Bonnie Clearwater, ed.,
West Coast Duchamp
(Miami Beach, FL: Grassfield, 1991), p. 107.

9
. Philip M. Bromberg,
Awakening the Dreamer
(Mahwah, NJ: Analytic Press, 2006), p. 120.

10
. Lyons-Ruth, “Interface Between Attachment and Intersubjectivity,” p. 607.

11
.
Ibid.

12
.
Ibid.,
p. 608.

13
. Jack Kornfield,
A Path with Heart
(New York: Bantam, 1993), p. 28.

14
.
Ibid.

15
.
Ibid.,
p. 29
.

16
. Jeremy Safran, ed.,
Psychoanalysis and Buddhism: An Unfolding Dialogue
(Boston: Wisdom, 2003), p. 1.

17
. D. W. Winnicott,
Playing and Reality
(London and New York: Routledge, 1971), p. 92.

Chapter Eleven: Reflections of Mind

1
. Jack Kornfield, ed.,
The Buddha Is Still Teaching: Contemporary Buddhist Wisdom
(Boston & London: Shambhala, 2010), p. 76 (extract entitled “Who is Bothering Whom?” quoting Ajahn Chah).

2
.
,
: The Direct Path to Realization
(Cambridge: Windhorse, 2003), p. 3