The No-cry Potty Training Solution (24 page)

promoting independence, 47

demonstrations, 44–45, 79

quick guide, 5–6

dolls, 18, 21, 58, 85–86

readiness quiz score and, 36–37

games, 78–79

reading to child, 29, 47–48, 80

hand washing, 7, 92–94

teaching vocabulary
, 42–44

introduction to the potty
, 71–74

watching demonstrations, 44–45

patience, 51, 52, 61, 96

Priddy, Roger
, 81

poster
, 84–85

Prize system

practice and success, 89

sticker plan, 91

praise, 95–96

treasure box, 91–92

prizes, 90–92

usefulness of, 90, 149–50

reading materials, 80–82

Public restrooms

routines, 76–77

fascination with, 150–51

storytelling and singing, 83–84,

fathers and daughters in, 127–29

116, 137

outdoor porta-potties, 131–32

wiping lessons, 74–76, 156–57

tips on using, 89, 129–31

Potty training problems.
See also

Questions and answers

Questions and answers.
See also

constipation, 9, 112–17

Potty training problems

first step to solving, 105

accident control, 154–55

perspective and, 107

active to
ddlers, 148–49

quick guide for
, 9–11

bedtime, 67, 151–52

reasons for
, 106

boy’
s aim, 140–42

setbacks, 117–20

celebrations and rewards, 149–50

training resistance, 9, 107–9,

constipation, 147

159–61

day care, 10, 138–39

when to call doctor
, 120–21,

embarrassing bathroom

142–43

questions, 156

Potty training supplies

fascination with bathrooms,

accessories, 58–59

150–51

cost of, 21

fathers and daughters, 127–29

potty chair
, 45–46, 52–57

fear of flushing, 123–25

Index

173

fecal soiling, 158

Restrooms, public

frequent potty visits, 152–54

fascination with, 150–51

penis handling, 155–56

fathers and daughters in,

playing with poop, 145–46

127–29

portable toilets, 131–32

outdoor porta-potties, 131–32

potty humor
, 139–40

tips on using, 89, 129–31

public restrooms, 129–31

Rewards

resistance to training, 107–9,

stickers, 91

159–61

treasure box of, 91–92

special-needs children, 134–38

usefulness of, 90, 149–50

travel, 126–27

Ross, Tony
, 81

twins, 132–34

Rushing the process, 15, 61

two homes, 125–26

unwanted advice, 143–45

Safety, bathroom

urinary tract infections, 142–43

checklist, 165–68

wiping lessons, 74–76, 156–57

importance of, 163–65

Quick Guide, six-part

Schmitt, Dr
. Barton D., 97

bed-wetting, 8

Setbacks in toilet training.
See also

description of, xiii, 1

Toilet training problems

facts about potty training, 1–3

dealing with, 118–20

potty time, 6–7

reasons for
, 117–18

pre-potty training, 5–6

statistics on, 3, 24

problems and solutions, 9–11

Singing and storytelling, 83–84,

readiness quiz, 3–5

116, 137

Quiz, readiness

Smith, Elwoo
d, 117

expanded, 27–38

Smoke detectors, 168

quick, 3–5

Special-needs children, 134–38

Sphincter muscles, 24, 56, 82

Readiness

Starting date of training, 69

accidents and, 94

Starting toilet training

age and, 1, 2, 143–45

decision-making and, 18–19

factor
, 25

readiness quiz, 3–5, 27–38

gender and, 87

starting early
, 16–17

of parent, 23

unwanted advice on, 143–45

Readiness quiz

when to start, 15–16

expanded, 27–38

Stickers as rewards, 91

quick, 3–5

Stinchecum, Amanda Mayer
, 117

Reading to child

Supplies

custom potty book for
, 80–82

accessories, 58–59

developmental stage and, 29

cost of, 21

pre-potty training and, 47–48

potty chair
, 45–46, 52–57

suggested reading, 81, 117

readiness and, 6

usefulness of, 80

training pants, 21, 57–58, 65

Reichmeier, Betty
, 81

Resistance, training

T
antrums, 7, 18, 108–9

common problems, 107–9

T
eaching style, 50

motivational tips, 9, 159–61

T
oilet paper lessons, 74–76, 156–57

174

Index

T
oilet seat, adult, 52, 55

Training pants

T
oilet seat covers, 11

buying, 21, 57–58

T
oilet seat insert, 55–56

disposables versus, 65

Toilet teaching versus toilet

T
ravel tips, 7, 10, 66–67, 126–27

training, 19–20

T
reasure box, 91–92

Toilet training

T
wins, 132–34

cost of, 21

T
wo homes, 125–26

decision-making and, 18–19

facts, 1–3, 21–24

Unwanted advice, 143–45

how long it takes, 2, 7, 20

Urinal potties, 88

mastery of, 26

Urinary tract infections (UTI),

nighttime dryness and, 20, 22–23

142–43

quick guide, xiii, 1–11

Urination

readiness quiz, 3–5, 27–38

bedtime and, 151–52

starting early
, 16–17

boy’
s aim, 140–42

toilet teaching versus, 19–20

daily liquids and, 24

when to start, 15–16

family words for
, 43

Toilet training ideas

frequency of, 2, 23

boys and, 7, 86–88

medical problems and, 120, 142–43

choices, 77–78

regular bowel movements and, 115

demonstrations, 44–45, 79

signals for
, 68

dolls, 18, 21, 58, 85–86

games, 78–79

Vocabulary

hand washing, 7, 92–94

bad language, 139–40

introduction to the potty
, 71–74

descriptive words, 5, 42

patience, 51, 52, 61, 96

family words, 43

poster
, 84–85

readiness and, 28

practice and success, 89

teaching, 42, 44

praise, 95–96

Vulva, words for
, 43

prizes, 90–92

reading materials, 80–82

W
ait, when to, 4, 34–36

routines, 76–77

Wash Your Hands!
, 81

storytelling and singing, 83–84,

W
ashing, hand, 7, 92–94

116, 137

W
ater temperature, 165

wiping lessons, 74–76, 156–57

Where’s the Poop?
, 117

Toilet training problems.
See also

W
ipes, flushable, 157

Questions and answers

W
iping process, 74–76, 156–57

constipation, 9, 112–17

Words, potty

first step to solving, 105

bad language, 139–40

perspective and, 107

commonly used, 43

quick guide for
, 9–11

descriptive, 5, 42

reasons for
, 106

readiness and, 28

setbacks, 117–20

teaching, 42, 44

training resistance, 9, 107–9,

159–61

when to call doctor
, 120–21,

142–43

About the Author

Parenting educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better Beginnings, Inc., a family resource and education company. Elizabeth frequently speaks to parents at schools, hospitals, and parent groups around the world. Her presentations are received with enthusiasm and are praised as realistic, warm, and helpful.

She is a regular radio show guest and is frequently quoted as a parenting expert in newspapers and magazines such as
Parents
,
Parenting
,
Woman’s Day
,
Good
Housekeeping
, and
Redbook
and on hundreds of parent-directed websites. She publishes a newsletter,
Parent
Tips
, that is distributed in schools nationwide. She is the author of these parenting books, available in eighteen languages:

• The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help
Your Baby Sleep Through the Night

• The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and
Preschoolers: Gentle Ways to Stop Bedtime Battles
and Improve Your Child’s Sleep

• Gentle Baby Care: No-Cry, No-Fuss, No-Worry—

Essential Tips for Raising Your Baby

• Hidden Messages: What Our Words and Actions Are
Really Telling Our Children

• Perfect Parenting: The Dictionary of 1,000 Parenting Tips

• Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging and
Pleading & Get Kids to Cooperate

• The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to
Promote Good Behavior and Stop the Whining, Tantrums, and Tears
(coming in 2007)

Elizabeth was a contributing author to
The Successful
Child
by Dr. William and Martha Sears.

Elizabeth and her husband, Robert, live in the state of Washington, along with their four children (Angela, Vanessa, David, and Coleton), Grama (Elizabeth’s mother), and assorted family pets. Elizabeth is an involved participant in her children’s school and sports activities and has served in positions as varied as soft-ball coach and school PTA president.

www.pantley.com