The Essential Guide to Gay and Lesbian Weddings (32 page)

The Countdown

Think of this as your Master List of things to do. The time frames are flexible, depending on how much lead time is available.

PHASE 1 (6 TO 12 MONTHS BEFORE)

Set the date and time of day

Establish priorities and set goals

Discuss finances, make preliminary budget

Set up organizational system

Tell friends and family

Draw up guest list

Send out save-the-date cards

Select and meet with officiant

Figure out preliminary legal steps to take to formalize your relationship

Think about what you'll be wearing

Explore locations for ceremony and reception

Shop around (get estimates and references, compare prices) for:

 caterers

 florists