Something Happened (24 page)

“She doesn’t dislike you,” my wife will say to me, when I go to her sometimes for help and advice. “She adores you. Can’t you tell?”

“She never says she does.”

“Neither do you.”

“I don’t adore me.”

“You know what I mean. Why are you joking now if you really care?”

“She’s always angry,” I complain. “Even when she isn’t really angry, she comes in and pretends she’s angry and then she gets angry. She does that with you too.”

“That’s why she’s so sensitive when you’re angry with her or pay no attention to her or when you’re even too busy to talk to her when she comes into your study to talk to you.”

“She never really has anything she wants to talk to me about.”

“She doesn’t know what to say.”

“To me?”

“She doesn’t know what else to talk about that will interest you.”

“Then why does she try?”

“She wants to impress you.”

“She doesn’t have to.”

“Then why does she try? Your mind is always someplace else. You always act as though we’re intruding and you wish you were someplace else. With me, too.”

“Stop it, for now, will you? We aren’t talking about you. Or I will wish I were someplace else.”

“I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to say that now.”

“Yes, you did. Or you wouldn’t have said it.”

“Do you want to pick on me?”

“All she does is tell you she can’t stand me, and all she does is come into my study to tell me she can’t stand you and start a fight with me about one thing or another.”

“She doesn’t know what else to say to you.”

“What am I supposed to do?”

“She’s shy.”

“With me?”

“That’s why she goes into your study so often to interrupt you. She wants you to pay some attention to her and tell her she’s pretty.”

“She isn’t so pretty when she says some of those things she does.”

“Don’t you think she’s pretty anyway?”

“Do you?”

“She could be. I think she could be very pretty if she’d lose some weight and take better care of her face and her hair.”

“Why do you serve such fattening meals and keep cake and candy and ice cream in the house?”

“I know. I don’t know why. I forget.”

“None of us want it but you. And her.”

“I won’t do it anymore.”

“I don’t know what to say to her.”

“She doesn’t know what to say to you.”

“I don’t know how to talk to her when she tells me she thinks she’s fat and ugly or asks me to tell her honestly, if she wasn’t my daughter, would I think she was pretty. Would I like her? She’s not fat and she isn’t ugly, and she knows it. What am I supposed to say?”

“She doesn’t know what else to say to you. She’s afraid to say anything else. I don’t know what to say to you either. I have trouble talking to her too.”

“What are you talking about?”

“None of us know what to say to you. You’re always so irritable. You always get so mad.”

“Oh, come on.”

“It’s true. You make us feel so stupid. You try to.”

“I’m not that bad.”

“Maybe if you came home earlier or didn’t sleep in the city so often.”

“What has that got to do with anything we’re talking about? I work late.”

“Or came home less often. Sometimes we all get along better when you aren’t here.”

“Maybe I shouldn’t come home at all.”

“I didn’t mean that.”

“Are you suggesting a divorce?”

“No. You know that. Why are you bringing that up so quickly?”

“What are you complaining about?”

“I’m not. I’m sorry I said that. I don’t know. I don’t know why. I didn’t mean to say that.”

“Yes, you did. Or you wouldn’t have said that either. People say what they mean.”

“So do you. She thinks you hate her.”

“I don’t. Sometimes I do. When she gets me mad.”

“She says you never look at her.”

“What the hell does
that
mean?”

“That you never look right at her, even when you’re talking to her. She says you always look off to the side somewhere. She notices things like that. She thinks you despise her so much you can’t even bring yourself to look at her.”

“She’s nuts. That’s not true.”

“Do you look at her?”

“Sure, I do. I don’t know. I think I do. Why shouldn’t I?”

“She thinks you don’t love her.”

“It isn’t true.”

“Do you love her?”

“Of course I do. Do you?”

“You know I do.”

“You’re always criticizing her. More than I do.”

“She’s afraid.”

“Of what?”

“You.”

“Shit.”

“We never know what kind of mood you’re in.”

“That’s some way we live.”

“We never know what it’s safe to say around you.”

“
I’m
afraid.”

“Of what?”

“What do you think of that? Of you. Of all of you. You’ve got me walking on eggs, you’re all so God-damned touchy and afraid. Do you think I
want
you all afraid of me? I never know what I can say either around here without hurting somebody’s feelings. It’s worse than being with Green or Arthur Baron or Horace White. It inhibits me, in my own house. No wonder I yell a lot. Do I really yell so much?”

“All the time now.”

“I don’t always mean to.”

“You’re always so irritable.”

“I’m irritable all the time now. I’m always tired.”

“Maybe you’re working too hard.”

“I don’t work hard. I worry a lot.”

“Maybe you should try to get an easier job.”

“Don’t you ever listen to me?”

“One where you wouldn’t have to work so hard.”

“I said I don’t work hard.”

“Well, maybe you should try to get another job.”

“I am trying to get another job.”

“Will it be harder or easier?”

“Easier, I think. More responsibility, but much less pressure. More money. More worry. I don’t know.”

“Will you be able to make speeches?”

“What are you talking about?”

“You know what I mean. Speeches.”

“Yeah. All I want.”

“I hate Jack Green,” she says.

“Why?” I retort suspiciously.

“He’s a lousy bastard,” she declares passionately. “I’ll never forgive him for what he did to you.”

“What?” I ask, feeling my face burn suddenly and a tense, protective anger begin to rise.

“Not letting you make that speech at the convention last year, like everyone else. I bet he’s jealous of you, that’s why. I’m surprised Arthur Baron let him do that to you.”

“It wasn’t that important.”

“I know how hard you worked on it. I know how small it must have made you feel.”

“Are you doing this deliberately?”

“But how did it make you feel?”

“I don’t feel any bigger being reminded of it now.”

“See?” she says. “You’re too sensitive to things like that. Maybe you shouldn’t take this new job if you have to work too hard and worry more.”

“Maybe I won’t. To hell with the money and the prestige and the success.”

“I don’t think you ought to travel more.”

“I don’t think you can keep your mind on one
subject for more than one minute at a time, can you?”

“That’s just the kind of remark you would make to me. That’s just the kind of remark you would make to her, too.”

“I made it to you. Let’s not fight now. I didn’t come in here for that this time. You and I can fight later.”

“I’m not trying to fight.”

“Then stop needling me like an oh-so-innocent bitch. Or that I’m too dumb to know what you’re doing. That speech is none of your business. Why bring it up all the God-damned time if it really makes you so angry? You do it just to remind me.”

“And I’m not angry at what you said just now about my mind. I know you think I’m the dumbest person who ever lived. And I’m not trying to pick on you now. But did you hear how you sounded just now? That’s just the kind of thing you would say to her. That’s just the way you would sound to her. Try to remember when you talk to her that she’s only fifteen and a half years old.”

My wife is right.

I do not talk to my daughter as I should to a child, or would if she were somebody else’s. I’m not nice to her. If my little boy misbehaves, I respond to him dotingly as a careless, mischievous, or overtired little boy who needs a kiss and a hug and the mildest of reprimands; it is a normal, predictable, endearing mistake, and I correct him tolerantly in an almost deferential way. If my teen-age daughter does something wrong, it is something
wrong
: it is an insulting, intentional, inexcusable attack against me that requires swift and severe retribution. (I do not treat them the same.) I wonder why. Is it because she’s a daughter? Or a first child, for whom my aspirations were too high, and in whom I am now therefore disappointed? Or is it that she is already in her teens, growing up and away from me, slipping free from my authority, already preparing to live without me, to challenge frontally my wisdom, morality, and ability, and threatening to dislodge me, if she can, from my shaky stronghold of dictatorial self-esteem? Will I have to endure and survive these same assaults
and rejections from my little boy when he grows up too? I hope not, for I would derive no satisfaction (I think) in vanquishing him. (Thank God my third child is an idiot: I really don’t mean that. What I do mean is that thank goodness I will at least be spared a rebellion from him. I know how I will feel when Derek dies, or when he is finally sent away: relieved, liberated, and I will release a long-compressed breath and say, perhaps even aloud to someone whom I may feel I can trust:

“Well, at last that’s over with too now, isn’t he?”)

I try to remember when this rivalry between my daughter and me first began. I can’t. It sometimes seems that we have always been this way with each other, that we have never gotten along any better or differently. I would like to make my daughter less miserable if I can, to help her to be happier and much more pleased with herself. I don’t know how. (I like to trap my daughter in carelessness and lies in order to make her admit she’s sorry.)

“She wants to know you love her,” my wife says. “She doesn’t think you do.”

“Well, I do. She knows it.”

“How?”

“I think I do.”

“By your actions? You never tell her.”

“That isn’t so.”

“When?”

“She’s my daughter. I can’t say ‘I love you’ to my own daughter.”

“Why not?”

“It sounds like incest.”

“Only to you. She thinks you’re disappointed in her.”

“
You
are. You certainly let her know you are.”

“Only because I know she can be better. She could be a good dancer or actress or piano player now if only she’d stuck to things when she was younger. She had so much talent. She could still study dancing or acting.”

“So don’t deny it. Don’t accuse me of that, too.”

“I know what happened to me. I wish I’d stuck to something. Like my mother wanted me to. I wish
my father had kept out of it and let my mother make me practice more. I might be something today.”

“You could be the king of France.”

“I’m your wife. You never say ‘I love you’ to me either.”

“You’re my wife, I don’t have to.”

“That isn’t funny now.”

“Are we talking about you again?”

“I’m not talking about that now. I don’t know what to talk about. I don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t know how to kill time. What am I supposed to do with time if I don’t know how to kill it?”

“Have another drink.”

“All right. Will you get it?”

“Sure. I don’t know what to do about my daughter.”

“Me neither,” my wife intones in a distant, hollow voice. “She breaks my heart,” she adds fretfully. “She can be such a
bitch
when she wants to hurt me.”

“I know.”

“You too. A bastard. You can be such a bastard. You could at least try to be friendly with her when she wants to talk to you. Even if it hurts.”

“I do. And it does hurt.”

“That’s why she does it. It’s the only way she knows how to make you notice her.”

“What about you?”

“Maybe me too. I don’t even have that way anymore. I don’t think you even care anymore whether I’m nasty or not. I think you just don’t care.”

(Maybe she is right.)

My wife can wring my conscience for a little while (if I decide to let her), but she does not have the power to hurt me anymore (which is why I think I feel secure with her, why I even might have decided it would be good for me to marry her). She wishes she did. She would like to know she means more to me than she thinks she does, would like to believe I need her. (I don’t. I don’t think I do. I don’t let her know I do.) She wants me to tell her I love her, although she has stopped asking me to (I bring her a box of chocolates every Saint Valentine’s Day now, and she is pleased to receive it, although we both
know it is only a box of chocolates. Still, it
is
a box of chocolates, and everybody in the family enjoys eating chocolates but me), just as she has too much pride (or good sense) to delve into the subject of my sleeping away from home so often or hint that I might be sleeping with other girls (as she does surmise about other married men we know. If
that
ever hopped out into the open between us, like that little mouse I was afraid of in our apartment in the city so long ago,
she
would have to do something about it,
she
would have to act—and I know she does not want to. I know that she, like me, prefers to keep us together until time, or life, runs out). I know I don’t want my daughter to grow up to become the kind of girl I run around with now (none of whom can hurt me either. I pick them for that, reject them, in fact, in advance, before I even take up with them), but I don’t know what kind of girl I
do
want her to become. (She will never become the king of France either.) She will never dance on the stage of the Radio City Music Hall. She will be some boy’s girl friend for a short while, then some other boy’s, and then an unhappy wife and mother who will get along no better with her children than I get along with mine, and I don’t know what else she
can
become or anything I can do to help her toward something
better
—except nothing. (There are really so few things that
can
happen to people in this lifetime of ours, so few alternatives, so little any of us
can
become, although neither my wife nor daughter realizes that yet.)