Orgasm in 5 Minutes

Original title: ORGASMO EN 5 MINUTOS

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ISBN: 978-1-62914-473-3

ebook ISBN: 978-1-63220-079-2

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Contents

I
NTRODUCTION

W
HAT ARE MY SEXUAL ORGANS LIKE
? W
HAT IS AN ORGASM
?

S
TAGES OF AN ORGASM

B
ODY EXPLORATION

E
XERCISES TO INCREASE CONTROL OVER YOUR SEXUALITY

S
EX STARTS IN THE MIND

M
ISCONCEPTIONS

D
O YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE
?

Y
OU ARE ATTRACTIVE
!

M
IND THE DETAILS
. . .
AND FLIRT

F
LIRTING AND ORGASMS

M
ASTURBATION

T
HE CLITORIS

T
HE
G-
SPOT

T
HE URETHRA

E
MOTIONAL AND ALTERNATIVE ORGASMS

S
OME SUGGESTIONS

B
ENEFITS OF MASTURBATION

P
ROBLEMS
?

S
EX WITH A PARTNER

I
ALSO KNOW HOW TO FAKE IT

T
HE
10
MOST EXCITING POSITIONS

H
ELPFUL TIPS

F
ANTASIES AND ORGASMS ARE INSEPARABLE

I
DO NOT KNOW HOW TO FANTASIZE

H
OW DO
I
DO IT
?

S
HOULD
I
SHARE MY FANTASIES WITH MY PARTNER
?

T
OYS AND STIMULI

G
UYS
,
THIS IS WHAT WE LIKE
!

S
OME MISCONCEPTIONS

S
OME HELPFUL TIPS

T
HE APPROPRIATE SEQUENCE

S
OME CONCRETE TECHNIQUES

S
EX AND FEAR

T
HE IDEAL CONTRACEPTIVE METHOD

S
EXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES
(STDs)

I
N DEPTH

M
ULTIPLE ORGASMS

S
IMULTANEOUS ORGASMS

T
ANTRIC ORGASMS

A
NAL SEX

V
ARIATIONS AND VARIANTS

D
OUBTS
,
QUESTIONS
,
AND TESTIMONIALS

D
OUBTS AND QUESTIONS

S
OME COMPLAINTS

T
ESTIMONIALS

N
OW WHAT
?

G
LOSSARY

Introduction

The female orgasm is the most simple and natural thing in the world, but oftentimes we complicate this matter to the point of absurdity, as if it were something mysterious, intricate, or requiring special skills.

Have you ever heard of a man having trouble reaching an orgasm? I am not referring to people with serious physical conditions. I am talking about ordinary people like you and me, who want to have sex with their partner and enjoy it. For men, we are more used to hearing that their problem is that they have an orgasm “too fast,” as if they were competing in a race.

Why should it be any different for women? The idea that men go on a Ferrari while we are merely on a bike when it comes to orgasms is completely false. Sexual attraction is perhaps the most powerful engine of life and nature; very wisely, it has determined that the sexes be attracted to guarantee the continuity of the species. They are attracted because their instinct tells them that they will enjoy the sexual union; that is, they are going to have an orgasm. This happens in all animal species without any qualms about it. Nor does it appear that, among humans, men have the least problem in this regard. So, what about women? Why should we have any difficulty? Is there something in our bodies that makes it harder for us to reach sexual climax? The answer is no. All women can have an orgasm every time they make love. And they can get to it pretty quickly . . . if they are interested.

The barriers that keep us from having orgasms are inherited prejudices given in a patriarchal society where for centuries female pleasure was regarded with suspicion, if not disapproval. Fortunately, in today’s world, these prejudices are in clear decline, and women can openly claim the right to enjoy their bodies. Some information and a little practice is all you need to have an orgasm every time you make love. Whether you are single or married, divorced or widowed, whether you have had sexual experiences or not, whether you are shy or uninhibited, for you, reaching the climax will be as natural as eating if you are hungry, or drinking if you are thirsty.

In this book you will find all the information you need, along with exercises, tips, and techniques to enjoy sex and make your partner enjoy it, too. Leave behind your fears and your doubts! And dare to know the thousand and one ways to an orgasm . . . and to happiness.

Note: “In 5 minutes?” It is likely that the title of the book (designed to attract attention) has aroused your skepticism. For one thing, when there is something we like, we like it to last much more than 5 minutes. For another, it would seem contradictory to publish books on Tantra (ecstatic sexual practice that includes orgasms without ejaculation, which usually lasts several hours) next to this one you have in your hands.

The truth is that it is not simple to incorporate Tantra (which in the East is something sacred and a form of meditation) into daily life. It is not too easy to connect with like-minded people who enjoy the same availability of time and share the right frame of mind that allows us to live the tantric experience in a usual way. So, although the recommendations in this book may seem more modest, we believe that they will be useful for everyone and are not intended to rule out such a noble path. And bear in mind, along with the poet, that in one way or another, “for those who love, time is eternity.” Enjoy it!

What are my sexual organs like? What is an orgasm?

“When I talk to friends about my sexual experiences, and I tell them that I don’t always have an orgasm because it seems to depend on my partner’s skill, they always insist on the importance of the clitoris. They say that’s where the secret lies because it’s pleasurable to have it touched . . . And I’m ashamed to admit to them that I don’t know where it is.”

Julia, 24 years old

The first step to reaching an orgasm easily and quickly is to know your body. There is widespread evidence that the female orgasm is caused by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris, the same way that the male orgasm occurs through stimulation of a particular area of the glans penis. So, it is not surprising that some women have difficulty reaching an orgasm through penetration alone: the penis fails to touch the clitoris, and that makes it difficult. Imagine how it would be for a man to reach an orgasm simply by having his testicles caressed. He would never get there, or it would take him forever. That is the issue. There is no such thing as a delay; what happens is that due to ignorance, many times the correct area is not stimulated and the orgasm takes a while.

Knowing your vagina, the exact location of the clitoris, the urethra, and the arrangement of the inner and outer lips will help you a lot in achieving your goals.

S
TAGES OF AN ORGASM

Having that knowledge from the start will allow you to explore your own body and discover which type of stimulation, posture, and caresses excite you the most. The majority of women have their first orgasm alone in a relaxed and calm manner when they explore their genital area. Later we will give precise instructions on how you should do this. First, and to continue with this brief physiology lesson, we will describe the stages your body goes through when you reach an orgasm: