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Finally, she and I discovered that her licking the area below my balls and before you reach my asshole is very stimulating.
She had done that several times to me and one time licked my ass-hole. I about died and came almost immediately to both our
wonder and glee! She has done this several times since and it almost always makes me come. She has also tried to enter me
with her tongue but has been unsuccessful
so far.
One of the problems may be relaxing my sphincter. I usually will use my fingers to open her a bit before I can get my tongue
inside her. She has wonderful fingernails that are very painful when she has tried stimulating me in the same way. This is
one reason I have thought to buy a small dildo for both our pleasure.

The best time we ever had was the night she introduced me to ass fucking. She had done it with a previous boyfriend and had
been talking to me about it. I will admit it intrigued me, but we hadn’t done anything about it until then.

That evening we got so hot that I decided to let her fuck my ass with a lubed-up toy. I ended up liking it a lot, so now from
time to time she straps on a dildo and, while reaching around and stroking my cock, she aggressively fucks me from behind.

I think anal sex saved our marriage. It was about a week after I had our first child and, on doctor’s orders we were prevented
from having real sex for five more weeks. I was so horny though that I begged my husband for anal sex. He had asked to try
it before but I never wanted to until then. Well, that was the first time we’d ever done it that way. It felt so good and
we each had fabulous climaxes.

Ahh. Anal sex. When I was about twenty-six years old I dated a lady who was divorced and six years older than I was. She was
uninhibited in bed, and it seemed that she had already done most everything. I was pretty inexperienced then so it was fantastic
learning from her.

She was anally oriented and would have me fingering her ass while she was riding my penis, which I found incredibly exciting.
Sometimes I penetrated her ass and fingered her clit. Boy, did she come hard.

Back then I could make it with her before we went out to eat, and come right back and go at it again. When she was on top
with my finger(s) in her ass, the feel of her riding up and down on my penis was just indescribable.

I always wanted to try double penetration with two dildos or my cock and a dildo, as I’m sure the feel of two pricks rubbing
together in her ass and cunt would have been mind-blowing. Sadly, we broke up before I ever had the chance.

I remember my first time, and I will admit that I was drunk. I had a few highballs and, after lots of kissing and touching,
my partner tried anal on me. He used lots of lube—I guess he was ready for it—and went really slowly. It took a little while
for me to adjust, but then I loved it. He was so gentle and it felt better than vaginal sex.

five

TOYS AND GAMES

D
o you have a toy box, bag, drawer? Ed and I have toys in several places. I have a vibrator under my bed, at hand when we want
it, and we have a bag and a bottom drawer for storing goodies like dildos of various sizes and shapes, different vibrators,
dress-up clothes, and lots more.

Ed was the brave one, purchasing our first dildo in a New York City erotic emporium. He says he wasn’t nervous—in those days
I would have been a wreck. Nowadays, of course, you can shop anonymously on the Internet without fear of embarrassment. And
by the way, just browsing together can lead to lots of nights of great sex. Oh, and if you buy something, be sure that, when
the item arrives, you have the proper-size batteries handy. There’s nothing more frustrating than being really in the mood
and finding that you have no AAs in the house.

Ed and I also have a collection of innocent-looking stuff we purchased at the hardware store: lengths of soft rope, heavy
chains with padlocks, and several dog and cat collars, which do a great job as wrist and ankle restraints. We also have a
few old scarves both for bondage games and for use as blindfolds. Needless to say, this equipment costs a lot less than the
equivalent items bought through a catalog or Web site, especially before you know your particular likes and dislikes. It would
be a shame to spend fifty dollars for restraints and then discover that you don’t enjoy playing as much as you thought you
would.

I gather that there are companies that arrange sex-toy parties in your home. They are similar to Tupperware parties and, with
a bit of wine and cheese, can be a great deal of fun. I’ve never been to one but it sounds like a fabulous idea to me.

Let’s see what the neighbors like to play with, where they get their toys, and whether they are embarrassed shopping.

Because my husband comes very quickly, I need more stimulation than he can provide with his penis for me to reach orgasm.
We found that using toys works with me, and allows him to do his thing without feeling he can’t satisfy me.

We purchased our first toy from an adult store and hell yes I was mortified! The rest came from the Xandria catalog. Unfortunately,
what looks good in the catalog doesn’t always work as well as you’d expect.

Too true, and that’s the disadvantage of shopping from catalogs and on the Net. Ed and I have several things that looked like
a good idea when we ordered them but turned out to be duds. If you buy something that turns out to be a loser, just remember
the old axiom. If at first you don’t succeed…

We have several cock rings to keep me hard and keep my balls exposed. That way my girlfriend can play with me without my losing
my erection or coming too quickly.

I would like to play with toys but we haven’t. Not yet at any rate. We’ve talked about it but he’s agreed to wait until I’m
ready.

My partner recently bought a set of three dildos that I am anticipating adding to our sex life! He just got them for me and
he’s hidden them away. He’s letting me get all worked up using my vivid imagination. I think I’ll tell him I’m ready to give
them a try. What the hell!!!

We play with toys maybe once out of every four times we make love. My wife has two vibrators that she likes me to use on her.
Also, she likes putting one against my cock while I am in her.

My wife has come to appreciate a well-used dildo. She realized that she liked coming with my penis inside her but unfortunately,
she tends to require a lot of clitoral stimulation (fingers, tongue, or otherwise). Therefore it’s easier to bring her pleasure
this way.

I bought our toys at an adult store. Embarrassed? Hell no. I love the thought of people thinking,
Wow, he gets to use all this stuff, the lucky bastard.
That was always my attitude when I was buying condoms before my wife and I were married. I’d buy a jumbo box of ribbed ones
at Osco and watch the eyes of the high school gal ringing up the order. It was priceless.

We play with toys often. I had thought about it for a long time before the first time I suggested it and I didn’t quite know
how to bring it up. Eventually I got a catalog and just said, “I’m game if you are.” She was certainly “game.” Now I regret
all the time I wasted.

Not very often, and only when I get the toys out, and get new batteries. I like playing because it’s something to prolong
sex and a different way to get her excited.

My boyfriend and I don’t own any “proper” sex toys, but we have made do with assorted household objects in the past. Hairbrush
handles, an old body spray aerosol, a small jar of massage oil, a tube of vitamin tablets, have all been pressed into service
as dildos.

We particularly play at times when we can’t have sex. Since I’m not on the pill or anything we resort to other methods of
sexual satisfaction when I am particularly fertile.

I do have one embarrassing “toy” story, though. In my previous relationship, this one with a woman, my girlfriend and I were
quite adventurous. We didn’t own any sex toys but I remember I once bought a cucumber, and at an appropriate moment asked
my girlfriend to fuck me with it. She laughed heartily, and eventually said she would but only if I could ask her with a straight
face. So with a barely held poker face, I said, “Please fuck me with a cucumber!” Amazingly, this turned her on, and we had
some of the best sex of our lives. That was eighteen months ago now, but it’s still a vivid memory.

I never played with toys before my current boyfriend but he is wonderfully uninhibited. He’s got me doing things I never would
have before. He likes to use toys like a big dildo and two different vibrators, one electric and one with batteries. He either
does things himself or he watches me play with the toys while he masturbates. Sometimes he tells me “exactly” what to do with
the vibrators and that turns us both on.

My husband and I use toys every time we have sex. We have a vibrating egg that goes inside my vagina when we are doing sixty-nine
or when we have anal sex. I remember when we bought it. We shopped together at an adult sex-toy store and I was mortified.
He made the purchase while I pretended to be engrossed by looking at video titles. I was a bit hesitant about playing at first,
and for a long time I didn’t use anything when I was alone. Now, however, if he’s away and I’m by myself and horny, I bring
out the toy bag.

I love to play with dildos, chains, ropes, blindfolds, vibrators, feathers, candles, whatever! If you want to play with toys
but never have, just suggest it. If a partner says that he or she isn’t comfortable with it you have to respect that. If he
or she isn’t comfortable, then it is not going to make the lovemaking enjoyable.

It helps to introduce sex toys when you have driven your partner crazy and they are so horny they are begging for you to do
anything to get them off. Then show them a new toy. For me, I was never embarrassed to go to the sex store. Why should I be?
I am horny for my husband and I love games. If you are shy, order online, naked if you want.

I have tried every method I can think of to introduce toys to our lovemaking, but she is staunchly opposed to it. It makes
me sad.

Now we use toys most of the time my husband and I make love. At first they scared him, and when we bought our first dildo
it remained in the store bag for several weeks. Then one evening while making love he said, “Get the bag.” I asked whether
he was sure and he said, “Hurry before I change my mind.” Now he is the one reaching for the bag on his own.

Sadly, my husband and I have never played with toys together, but I have just gotten a toy for when I’m masturbating. I would
have been embarrassed to go and pick one out, or order one I think, but a very sophisticated girlfriend of mine knew I was
curious, got one, and gave it to me. I’m very grateful to her now.

My husband and I have a variety of toys. We use a regular vaginal vibrator during oral sex and sometimes we use a small anal
one for added stimulation. I have to say that sex got ten times better after we brought toys into our sex life. We became
closer and were able to open up a little more freely on what we wanted sexually.

The silver bullet is great. Just rest it on your pubic bone while having intercourse. It relays the vibrations through your
pussy to his cock. Yum yum.

We have a penis-shaped vibrator but I like to use it as a dildo without the vibrations. We also have some dice that have sexual
things on them so that when you toss them they instruct you to do something naughty; powders and oils that are edible; and
a pair of ben wa balls.