Cut Cords of Attachment (32 page)

Without homework, out-picturing will happen eventually. But might take years.

At Steps 10 and 11, you have helped the client to
preview
the likely out-picturing, considering the certain logical consequences.

Just having this conversation can accelerate the process of manifestation. Results can out-picture faster because a client has consciously appreciated what could change.

At Step 12, you hasten the out-picturing even more. Your homework assignment adds the put-in component to balance what has been removed. Putting in what resonates with your individual soul, related to what has been removed—in its small way, a big deal.

The timing for this homework assignment is perfect when you do it at Step 12. Because now is your client’s teachable moment.

Incidentally, what would happen if you gave the very same homework assignment
before,
rather than
after,
cutting a cord?

That would about as efficient as washing the dinner dishes before you served any food. Just to save time?

Assigning homework is the last step of the healing sequence. You add the missing piece, and maybe even some missing peace.

Graduation Celebration

So you are ready to graduate, Courageous Explorer. You have cut at least six minor cords. At the rate you are going, soon you will have cut 10 minor cords, the minimum recommended before you begin to cut major cords. And, of course, you would be wise to facilitate cutting many major cords of attachment on yourself before working with any family member or friend.

Practicing so far, you have combined direct experience of the 12 Steps with a theoretical understanding that spans all Three Worlds. To honor your graduation, let’s celebrate! Here comes a review of all 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment with a sample session.

For this concluding example, I have chosen an average session. Sure, I have facilitated many sessions that were more dramatic, cord cuttings that released rape or incest or physical abuse, that dismantled intricate patterns of hatred, jealousy or lies; connection to potheads or alcoholics. (Removing that last type of Cord Dialogue can make recovery so much easier for a client who struggles to break free from addictive substances.)

Note that your stage of training is only designed to prepare you to help a family member or friend who is in relatively good shape. Although off to a great start with healing skills that work, you do not have the skills yet for helping someone who struggles with recovery from an addiction. Such clients are best referred to professionals at Rosetree Energy Spirituality or, depending on the person’s problems, a mental health professional.

However, if you have followed the method in this self-help manual, you are now qualified to do wonderful sessions with cord cutting for yourself and relatively normal family members, and friends. With experience, you will discover how much benefit comes from moving out a cord of attachment without major drama.

What will you accomplish with cord cutting? You can facilitate the removal of fear or sorrow, the not-terribly-dramatic everyday STUFF that robs days and nights of their joy.

In the following sample, you can follow the flow of all 12 Steps.

Would you take the same approach as I did in discussing logical consequences? Maybe not. That’s not bad. You are becoming an awesome healer in your own right. With this new, reliable skill set, you can do healing with
your
unique perceptiveness.

To add depth to the following example, I will stop the narrative periodically. Being a teacher, I want to take advantage of the opportunity to respond to questions.

And, as you read our final teaching tale, imagine that you are here, right by my side, with this teacher who is so proud of you.

TALE: The Real Monster

These days, we hear plenty of tales about “Failure to Launch,” where an adult child will extend adolescence by living at home. Bonnie could have launched, but instead she stayed home to help her mother.

A successful professional, Bonnie was beautiful inside and out. She kept thinking that she shouldn’t leave home until she could help her unhappy mother feel better.

But this mother was far from grateful. Mom complained constantly. Supposedly, Bonnie was selfish and self-centered, with a negative attitude that repulsed everyone. Could the constant accusations be true?

Nothing about this problem was mentioned initially. Instead, here is how Bonnie introduced her reason for booking the session:

“Everywhere I go, strangers tell me I look like an understanding person. Read my aura. Tell me if they are right. Is it true that I’m a good person?”

A reading is not a healing. Luckily, Bonnie was with someone who could facilitate healing, not simply read her aura.

Bonnie chose to Get Big with Jesus. She did a nice job with her Before Picture. While surprised that I asked her to do some of the work, she became fascinated that she could read her own aura so well with the “Call It, Read It” technique.

As we discussed her aura further, my new client trusted our session more. She felt safe to be herself, no hiding needed. Temporarily, at least, she was bumped out of victim mode.

Soon Bonny was ready to refine her intention for her session. I was glad. Surely Bonnie deserved more from Rosetree Energy Spirituality than to confirm the opinions of strangers.

Which Steps have been done so far?
If you answered Steps 1-3, that is correct. Even an average session won’t necessarily go in apple-pie order, however. Soon I went back to refine Bonnie’s intention.

Q&A About Aura Reading

Since she wanted to find out if she was a good person, did you check her aura right away and tell her what you got?

No matter what a client requests, your job is never telling someone whether she is “good” or “bad.” Obviously, this client needed encouragement, so I gave it generously. But flattery, just to make her feel good for five minutes? Not from this healer!

I’m not coordinated enough to simultaneously read an aura and do other things, like the different steps of cord cutting. Should I stop from time to time? Won’t it sound weird if tell my client, “Excuse me. I need to slow down and take another peek at your aura”?

Work at your own comfortable rhythm, and request whatever you need. Usually it’s only important to check out an aura in Steps 3, 5 and 7. As for sounding weird, no matter what you say, with this kind of work somebody is bound to consider you weird. So what?

What did you learn about Bonnie’s aura?

Being an experienced professional at Rosetree Energy Spirituality, I did a more detailed aura reading than has been discussed in this book. So I learned quite a lot. Since you asked...

First, I discovered that her sexuality was under siege, with lots of old pain, confusion, and frustration. What a mess, in her Belly Chakra Databanks for “Sexual Self-Esteem” and “Sex Drive”!

Bonnie’s second most important growth area was communication. For example, this “good person” had a “bad mess” in her Throat Chakra Databank for Asking for What You Need and Want in Close Relationships.

Besides that, Bonnie had a fabulous Root Chakra Databank for Making Contact with Objective Reality, plus significant strength at her Third Eye Chakra Databank for Connection to Spiritual Source.

At Bonnie’s Heart Chakra Databank for Emotional Giving, I found wonderful qualities, but noted extreme turbulence at the present time. The mess was even worse at her Heart Chakra Databank for Emotional Receiving.

Despite all this, was Bonnie stable enough for me to help her? Definitely.

That initial assessment clarified that Bonnie was an appropriate client, someone functioning in a basically normal manner, someone self-actualizing. I would not have to refer her to a mental health professional. It would be appropriate to cut a cord of attachment for this client.

With an initial aura reading, surely you don’t take all day going into huge detail. Or do you?

Not unless your client has booked an all-day session! A quick bit of aura reading, plus how your client speaks and acts with you, that’s plenty. It will tell you whether your client is basically stable, which will help you decide whether it is appropriate to cut a cord of attachment.

What would you do if the client hadn’t been stable? What if she was a walking, talking wreck?

I would read her aura in detail, emphasizing gifts of her soul. Then I would use techniques from the rest of my skill set. Somehow, I would find a way to honor her intention, slipping in techniques that would help her to have some improvement.

But, remember, I am a professional at Rosetree Energy Spirituality, with clients of many kinds who contact me as prospective clients.

Whereas you are working only with family members and friends at this stage in your training. Usually you will know your prospective client well, right? So you can decline requests for help from folks you know who are going through a really hard time.

When you did Bonnie’s Before Picture, did you start with her area of greatest pain?

Never start there. Instead, begin with an area where your client has a moderate degree of pain or releasing. That way, the Before Picture won’t horrify your client, yet there will still be plenty of room for improvement at the After Picture.

With this client, you say that sexuality was her biggest issue. What if it were only a moderately important issue? Would you include it in her Before Picture?

Guess which is the big taboo subject to avoid mentioning at all unless your client brings it up first? Unless your client’s intention involves sexuality, don’t include it
anywhere
in the Before Picture.

Clients feel exposed enough as is. Are you obligated to tell a client all that you notice? Definitely not.

TALE: Intention, Refined

Refining Bonnie’s intention was easy once I had gained her trust with some aura reading. I asked, “Why does it matter what other people think about you?”

Turned out, Bonnie was looking for something to give her confidence until her life started “working better. “

And what about her life wasn’t working? “Oh, my relationship with my mother, for one thing.”

Here was my opportunity to explain about cutting cords of attachment. Bonnie’s eyes lit up.

Restated, Bonnie’s intention became, “To help me release unnecessary conflict with my mother, plus whatever else will make my life work better for me.”

Thus, after a quick zip back to Step 1, we were ready for Step 4. So let’s pause for more questions.

Q&A For Intention

Why would you presume that a client’s intention isn’t good enough? Why do you decide you know better how to change it?

While it’s clearly important to honor a client’s goals, you want your session to have depth. Avoid any far-from-self, other-peopley intentions like Bonnie’s original one. Besides, think about it. Why would your client
need
reassurance that she’s a good person?

What other intentions would you flag?

“Meant to be” intentions are questionable, such as “I want to find out if I am on the right path” or “I want to know who is my soul mate.” Research your client’s aura to learn what makes a general intention seem so urgent.

Or ask directly: “What is happening in your life right now that makes you care so much about your path?” Aim to uncover the present problem.

Maybe a client will choose something general because she feels like a hopeless case. What if she has oodles of problems?

No matter how bad things are, your client knows which problems seem most pressing.

Usually he will bring out a biggie right after your conversation turns specific. Other times he will begin by giving an extensive list. Notice if an item or two jumps out more than the rest, with his tone of voice and expression.

For instance, let’s say that your client gives you a list of five problems. While mentioning one of them, his eyes narrow, his posture stiffens, rage shoots out of his aura, and you feel a 7.9 earthquake on your inner Richter scale. Hello!

TALE: The Biggie

Bonnie listed several areas where her life might improve. I found her understated language endearing, especially when she said, “Oh, my relationship with my mother, for one thing.”

Despite the casualness of her words, Bonnie’s body language and aura revealed that this was a serious topic.

What happened when I researched whether there was a cord of attachment worth cutting?

Whoa! The cord impact was huge. And we definitely had permission to cut this particular cord.

To locate it, I used the “Questioning” technique. The cord walloped me at my own solar plexus. So I looked at this part of her aura and, sure enough, saw a huge cord right there.

Ready through Step 5 now, let’s answer more questions.

CORD LOCATION Q&A

Could you use more than one method to locate the cord? Should you?

Should you? No. Testing and retesting yourself will only slow down your development as a spiritual healer.

But sometimes extra information will simply come to you. It’s as if you were picking ripe cherries off a tree. You aim for one, but several extras just tumble into your hand.

This is what happened to me while helping Bonnie. Besides receiving information from “Questioning,” I spontaneously felt it and also saw the cord.

Wait, you’re going to do surgery to somebody’s aura. Don’t you need to make absolutely sure? Doesn’t your location for the cord need to be ultra-precise?

Actually, no. Because this kind of surgery is co-created with a Divine Being, who will do any fine-tuning necessary.

Unlike physical surgery, cords of attachment are cut as part of an easy flow.

For best results, stay in that flow, rather than worrying about precision. The instant you start double-checking, you risk disrespecting yourself... and all the information that you have been given so far.

TALE: Permission Fully Given

When we began the Permission Statement, Step 6, Bonnie began to look worried. First she repeated my words easily: “I now give permission.”