Peggy Noonan, President Reagan's speechwriter, understood that people like personal reactions. She made sure that when Reagan made an announcement, he would say not just what was happening but also what he and Nancy thought about it. 12
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"Getting to like You, Getting to Hope You like Me"
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In The King and I , the musical version of the novel Anna and the King of Siam , the words "Getting to like you, getting to hope you like me" tell about the importance of getting along with others. 13 Smiling helps the process; it implies liking, and both smiling and liking are reciprocal. Smiles are contagious and sometimes automatic, as when we react to the wide, toothless grin of a baby. Smiling back is one of the earliest signs of sociability. Even infants smile back at people who smile at them. 14 It is interesting to note that while smiling is a universal expression for friendship and other happy feelings, there is no universal expression to indicate unhappiness. Anger, fear, sadness, and disgust all have their own individual expressions, but smiles can show friendship, amusement, pleasure, satisfaction, or happiness. With good feelings, it seems to be enough just to let others know that things are fine, and a smile does that.
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Mary and I are convinced that our altered male dog, Bogart, can smile. His smile reaches up to his eyebrows and down to the tip of his wagging tail. He resembles a short-legged show horse as he trots along the sidewalk. He holds his head up and his tail up so high it looks like the plume on a drum major's hat. He stops to smile and wag at everyonepeople, dogs, cats, old friends, and strangers. People smile back and usually stop to speak to him when they meet him on the sidewalk. At stoplights people smile at him from their car windows. With his contagious doggy smile, Bogart traffics in happiness.
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Friendly gestures are common in species in which individuals depend on each other for survival. In the office or on the street, people and animals avoid violence by showing others that they are not threatening. Most other dogs are friendly to Bogart because he is friendly and shows no desire to fight. Like Bogart, low-testosterone people let others know they have no desire to fight. They are quick to smile, and their manner evokes friendliness in others. Whether smiles are automatic or calculated, the effect is the same: the smile indicates that there is no threat.
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