about the Persian Gulf war. After the party, Mike told his friend, "Sagan and them was talking like there was something wrong with the war. People been fighting for centuries. Hell, fighting's a lot more natural than being a damn scientist." Mike's simple macho view brings to mind lines from Kipling: "These four greater than all things are, Women and horses and power and war."
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The drive toward dominance is so much second nature to high-testosterone men that they, like Mike, are often quite casual about it. Mike would find it easy to start a fight in a bar because there would be plenty of men looking for a fight, men like the workers at the Nucor Steel Company. One such worker, delayed long after midnight in starting a new cast of molten steel, was cheerful when he told his coworkers, "Look at it this way. By the time we get a cast, it'll be morning, and the bars will be open again. So after we cast we can get a drink, and then maybe we can get into a fight." He would like to win, but just having a fight sounded like a good idea. 43
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A construction worker or a steelworker who ignores an insult to his "old lady" seems less of a man to his friends, and maybe to his "old lady," too. Some women, maybe themselves high in testosterone, push men who are slow to take offense. The writer Katherine Dunn knows the appeal of dating bad men and the power that comes from controlling them. She wrote, "When he starts falling down on his badness, you have to test him, goad him. Maybe you have to lean back on the bar and thrust out your Wonderbra and say, 'You gonna let him talk to me like that?' Then you can glow as the hot beast fights for you and proves that his badness is yours to command." 44 With no joy or enthusiasm, and no desire to encourage men to fight, a Cormac McCarthy character voices sad agreement with Dunn's bottom line. Three times a war widow, a grandmother in The Crossing advises her granddaughter about men. She says it is unfortunate that women find rash men so appealing, but they do, and it is because women know in their secret hearts that men who won't kill for them are useless. 45 Lady Elaine, who lived in King Arthur's day, opposed men's fighting. She knew many women encouraged men to fight, but she thought it was a bad idea. She said, ''Most women want their men to go out and fight for glory. When the men are brought in killed or wounded, the same women feel that life is very hard, and some of them complain it's hardest on women. Silly, I say." 46
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