The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (92 page)

Trust: The Hand Book
by Bert Hermann (Alamo Square Press, 1991). The definitive guide to anal fisting.

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus
by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2002). Extensive guide to oral sex.

The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio
by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2002). Extensive guide to oral sex.

The Ultimate Guide to Strap On Sex
by Karlyn Lotney (Cleis Press, 2000). Guide to anally or vaginally penetrating a partner with dildos and assorted toys.

The Woman’s Guide to Sex on the Web
by Anne Semans and Cathy Winks (HarperSanFrancisco, 1999). Entertaining tour of the steamy side of the Web, with tips for shopping, gathering information, finding quality sexual entertainment, and chatting, plus dozens of site reviews.

Eastern Sexual Techniques

The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers
by Margo Anand (Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam, 1989). An exceptionally accessible guide to Tantric and Taoist techniques.

The Multi-Orgasmic Couple
by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D. (HarperSanFrancisco, 2000). Techniques for cultivating sexual energy, oral sex, positions, masturbation, and sexual synchronization with a partner.

Sacred Sex: Ecstatic Techniques for Empowering Relationships
by Jwala (Mandala, 1993). A Tantric sex guide.

Sex with Spirit
by Michelle Pauli (Red Wheel/Weiser, 2001). Covers Tantra, Kabbalah, Paganism, Yoga, and more, with information on how to tune your body to achieve heightened states of bliss within partnered sex. Beautiful erotic photographs.

Sexual Energy Ecstasy: A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West
by David and Ellen Ramsdale (Bantam, 1993). An accessible, updated guide to Tantric sexual practices.

Women’s Kama Sutra
by Nitya Lacroix (Dunne Books, 2001). In this unique, nicely illustrated version of the Kama Sutra the focus is on women’s pleasure.

S/M and Power Play

Come Hither
by Gloria Brame (Fireside, 2000). An informative, friendly guide to turning your kinky fantasies into satisfying expressions of love and desire.

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely
by Sybil Holiday and Bill Henkin, Ph.D. (Daedalus, 1996). An expert guide to S/M.

Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics and Practice
edited by Mark Thompson (Alyson Publications, 2001). A diverse and provocative collection of essays by some of the best writers in the gay and lesbian S/M community.

Leatherman’s Handbook
by Larry Townsend (LT Publication, 2000). Recently revised guide to S/M for gay men, including instructional information and erotic first-person accounts.

The Loving Dominant
by John Warren, Ph.D. (Greenery Press, 2000). A comprehensive guide to dominance and submission from a male perspective.

The New Bottoming Book
by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy (Greenery Press, 2001). Revised, illustrated guide to submission.

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage
by Mistress Midori (Greenery Press, 2001). Erotic color photographs illustrate the intricate art of Japanese rope bondage.

Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Couples
by Patrick Califia (Cleis Press, 2001). A revised, accessible guide to S/M for couples of all sexual orientations.

Sexual Magic: The
S/M
Photographs
by Michael Rosen (Shaynew Press, 1986). More than fifty photographs of S/M play, accompanied by the subjects’ personal reflections.

Sexual Portraits: Photographs of Radical Sexuality
by Michael Rosen (Shaynew Press, 1990). Portraits of practitioners of body modification, bondage, and S/M, accompanied by the subjects’ personal reflections.

The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginner
s by Lady Green (Greenery Press,1992). A step-by-step guide to planning, negotiating, and carrying out a female dominant S/M scene (geared toward heterosexuals).

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
by Jay Wiseman (Greenery Press, 1992). A thorough guide to S/M equipment and techniques, focusing on physical safety and geared toward heterosexuals.

The Topping Book
by Catherine A. Liszt and Dossie Easton (Greenery Press, 1995). An illustrated guide to dominance.

Children, Teens, and Parents

Beyond the Big Talk
by Debra Haffner (Newmarket Press, 2001). Advice for parents of preteens and teens on talking about sex.

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives
edited by Ruth Bell (Random House/Vintage Books, 1987). A comprehensive guide to puberty and adolescence written for 14-to 19-year olds with quotes from teenagers.

Deal with It
by Esther Drill, Heather McDonald, and Rebecca Odes (Pocket Books, 1999). From the founders of the popular website
gURL.com
, a hip guide for teen and preteen girls, with accurate information about bodies, feelings, and changing relationships.

The Eros of Parenthood
by Noelle Oxenhandler (St. Martin’s Press, 2001). An examination of the erotic aspect of the parent-child bond.

Harmful to Minors
by Judith Levine (University of Minnesota Press, 2002). Provocative and intelligent discussion of how societal attempts to “protect” children from sex is ultimately harmful to the development of a healthy sexuality.

It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health
by Robie H. Harris (Candlewick Press, 1996). Sex-education book for 10-to 14-year-olds, with cartoon illustrations.

It’s So Amazing
by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley (Candlewick Press, 1999). Well-illustrated, positive, informative, and fun guide for kids 7 to 10 about bodies, babies, and family love.

A Kid’s First Book about Sex
by Joani Blank (Down There Press, 1983). A lively presentation of sex information for young children—one of the few books that discusses sexuality as distinct from reproduction. Illustrated.

More Speaking of Sex
by Meg Hickling (Northstone Publishing, 1999). A fantastic resource for parents needing help with age-appropriate responses to kids’ sex questions.

The Period Book: Everything You Don’t Want to Ask but Need to Know
by Karen and Jennifer Gravelle (Walker Publishing Company, 1996). Information on the physical, emotional, and social changes that accompany puberty, cowritten by a teenager.

The Playbook for Kids about Sex
by Joani Blank (Down There Press, 1982). An interactive playbook/ workbook that encourages sexual awareness in children (text is the same as in
A Kid’s First Book about Sex
).

Two Teenagers in Twenty: Writings by Gay and Lesbian Youth
edited by Ann Heron (Alyson, 1994). A collection of essays (only some are about sex) by gay and lesbian teens.

What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys; What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Girls
by Lynda Maderas (Newmarket Press, 1987). Written for preteens, these informative guides to the changes brought on by puberty are reassuring without being condescending.

Your Body Belongs to You
by Cornelia Spelman and Teri Weidner (Albert Whitman and Co., 1997). In clear, simple statements, therapist Spelman explains to children what types of touch are okay, how they can decline being touched, and what to do when someone crosses their boundaries.

Older Adults

Menopause Naturally
by Sadja Greenwood, M.D. (Down There Press, 1996). This informative common-sense guide balances a holistic with a medical approach, addressing cultural influences as well as physical facts.

Ourselves, Growing Older
by Paula Brown Doress and Diana Laskin Siegal (Simon & Schuster/Touchstone, 1987). A source book on female sexuality and sexual health specific to the concerns of women over 35.

Sex Over 50
by Joel Block, Ph.D., with Susan Crain Bakos (Prentice Hall Press, 1999). Covers self-esteem, rekindling desire, sexual techniques, and a host of health issues.

Still Doing It
edited by Joani Blank (Down There Press, 2000). A collection of first-person accounts about sex from women and men over 60.

Transgender

Body Alchemy: Transsexual Portraits
by Loren Cameron (Cleis Press, 1996). Photographs of female-to-male transsexuals, with essays.

Gender Outlaw
by Kate Bornstein (Vintage Books, 1994). First-person account of the author’s transformation from heterosexual male to lesbian woman.

Lessons from the Intersexed
by Suzanne Kessler (Rutgers University Press, 1998). Kessler interviews surgeons, endocrinologists, parents of intersex children, and adults who were treated for being intersexed at birth.

Pomosexuals
edited by Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel (Cleis Press, 1997). Features writing from all shades of the gender spectrum, focusing on the politics of gender roles and transsexuality.

Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism
by Patrick Califia (Cleis Press, 2002). An insightful analysis of the contemporary history of transsexuality.

Sublime Mutations
by Del LaGrace Volcano (Janssen Verlag, 2000). Color photographs of people who are transgender and intersex.

True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism
by Mildred L. Brown and Chloe Ann Rounsley (Jossey Bass, 1996). An ideal book for a family member, friend, or coworker who is struggling to understand a loved one’s transition, with first-person accounts from both FTMs and MTFs.

Sex and Culture

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out
edited by Loraine Hutchins and Lani Kaahumanu (Alyson Publications, 1990). A collection of seventy bisexual coming-out stories.

Bi Lives
edited by Kate Ondorff (See Sharp Press, 1999). Eighteen interviews with bisexual women.

Susie Bright’s essay collections are funny, provocative, and inspirational:

Full Exposure: Opening Up to Your Sexual Creativity and Erotic Expression
(HarperSanFrancisco, 1999).

How to Read/Write a Dirty Story
(Venus Book Club, 2001).

Susie Bright’s Sexual Reality: A Virtual Sex World Reader
(Cleis Press, 1992).

Susie Bright’s Sexual State of the Union
(Simon & Schuster, 1997).

Susie Bright’s Sexwise
(Cleis Press, 1995).

Susie Sexpert’s Lesbian Sex World
(Cleis Press, 1990).

Defending Pornography: Free Speech, Sex and the Fight for Women’s Rights
by Nadine Strossen (Doubleday/Anchor, 1995). A feminist perspective on the dangers of censorship.

Erotic Impulse: Honoring the Sexual Self
edited by David Steinberg (Putnam/Jeremy P. Tarcher/Perigee Books, 1992). A wide-ranging collection of writings on sexuality from noted novelists, poets, therapists, and sexperts.

Gender Shock: Exploding the Myths of Male and Female
by Phyllis Burke (Anchor Books, 1996). A provocative and inspirational attack on our rigid gender system.

Intimate Matters: A History of Sexuality in America
by John D’Emilio and Estelle B. Freedman (University of Chicago Press, 1997). Explores the evolution of American sexual attitudes over the past four centuries. Second edition.

A New View of Women’s Sexual Problems
edited by Ellyn Kaschak and Leonore Tiefer (Haworth Press, 2001). A collection of essays comprising a feminist critique of the medical approach to women’s sexual health.

Post Porn Modernist
by Annie Sprinkle (Cleis Press, 1998). Annie chronicles her career in massage parlors, adult films, and performance art in a book that is part autobiography, part photo album.

Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex
by Pat Califia (Cleis Press, 1994). The noted sex writer’s collected essays on pornography, S/M, sexual repression, and other topics.

Real Live Nude Girl
by Carol Queen (Cleis Press, 2002). First-person chronicle of sex-positive culture.

Sex in History
by Reay Tannahill (Scarborough House, 1992). An engaging exploration of sexual attitudes and practices in the major world civilizations from prehistoric times up to the present day.

Sex Is Not a Natural Act
by Lenore Tiefer (Westview, 1995). A collection of short essays challenging the assumptions underlying cultural constructions of sexuality

Sex Work: Writings by Women in the Sex Industry
edited by Frédérique Delacoste and Priscilla Alexander (Cleis Press, 1998). A candid and provocative collection of writings by women sex workers.

Sexual Politics and Disability
by Tom Shakespeare, Kath Gillespe-Sells, and Dominic Davies (Continuum, 1996). First-hand accounts about sex and disability.

Speaking Sex to Power: The Politics of Queer Sex
by Patrick Califia (Cleis Press, 2002).

The Technology of Orgasm: “Hysteria,” the Vibrator, and Women’s Sexual Satisfaction
by Rachel P. Maines (Johns Hopkins University Press, 1999). The true history of the invention of the vibrator.

Fiction

Erotica Series

Best American Erotica
edited by Susie Bright (Simon & Schuster/Touchstone).

Best Bisexual Women’s Erotica
edited by Cara Bruce (Cleis Press).

Best Black Women’s Erotica
edited by Blanche Richardson (Cleis Press).

Best Gay Erotica
edited by Richard Labonté (Cleis Press).