Sixty-Nine
Authors: Pynk
This third Pynk book is dedicated to all the women of the world twenty-one and over who experience sexual repression, prevented
from expressing their sexuality because they were taught or learned to repress or despise healthy sexual desire and bodily
sensations.
Here’s to your successful, long-term healing.
My first thank-you is to you, my cherished readers, who have embraced
Erotic City
and
Sexaholics
so deeply. I graciously appreciate your support. Erotica is a genre that many people desire, and I enjoy writing dramatic
erotic stories that bring satisfaction to my readers.
To my family, your love and patience is immeasurable. You are my blood, heart and soul, always and in all ways.
To my KP—feedback, patience, cheering me on and staying positive, believing in me, supporting me, loving me, and just being
you. Forever love, no matter what!
I’d like to offer a major thankxxx to HoneyB, Bryan Cleveland, Jean Holloway, Vonda Howard, Cydney Rax, Shani-Greene Dowdell,
S. B. Redd, Kendra Norman Bellamy, Denise Bolds, Ella Curry and EDC Creations, TaNisha Webb and the Fall Into Book Literary
Conference, Harriet Klausner, Outwrite Bookstore and Coffeehouse, Medu Bookstore, Nubian Books, Tasha Martin and all the chapters
of SistahFriend Book Club, Mocha Ochoa and the NAACP, Mashawn Mickels and SBS Book Club, Novel Vixen’s Book Club, APOOO Book Club, OOSA Online Book Club, Book Remarks, Urban Reviews, Michelle
Gipson and Written Magazine, the Decatur Book Festival, Angela Jenkins, Heather Covington and Disilgold, Curtis Bunn and the
National Book Club Conference, my Cola—for the scene-matching song choices, to all the blog sites that were part of my virtual
blog tour for
Sexaholics
(for the features and reviews), and each and every book club who participated in the wild and sexy Pynk’s Girls’ Night In
pajama events across the country.
To my awesome agent, Andrew Stuart—I cherish you, and by that I mean you were hard earned in my career and I value you. You
are appreciated for the gem that you are. A big Pynk cheer to you!
Thankxxx to my cherished Grand Central Publishing family: Jamie Raab, executive vice president and publisher, for having me
onboard; Karen Thomas, executive editor (this is my fifth book with you), I thank God for your trust, your belief in my work,
and for your amazing revision letters—your hard work makes all the difference in the world in my books and your talents have
not gone unnoticed; my darling and talented Latoya Smith, as well as Linda Duggins, Samantha Kelly, Anna Balasi, Miriam Parker,
Renee Supriano, and others—I am blessed to be a GCP author.
Sexaholics
came out at a time last year when sexual addiction was in the headlines so often that the timing could not have been any
more perfect. I researched the subject quite extensively, and I’ve found that some readers referred the title to loved ones
who suffered from sex addiction, like the characters from my novel. It’s important to show what can happen inside the lives
of those afflicted with serious issues, and I’m glad
Sexaholics
was received so well.
The opposite side of the addiction spectrum is the book you’re holding in your hands right now, my third Pynk novel,
Sixty-Nine
. It’s about sexual repression, a topic that is also very common and extremely serious. Though Magnolia, Rebe, and Darla have
different thoughts about sex than those characters in
Sexaholics
, their issues and outcomes are just as dramatic, and as with
Sexaholics
, for them it’s a test of will, a test of change, a test of faith, and in the case of
Sixty-Nine
, a test of friendship.
There’s more to come in 2012! With all the political scandals involving sexual affairs and coercion, just check out the juicy
chapter excerpt from
Politics. Escorts. Blackmail.
, about three call girls and one call guy in New York City, led by madam Money Watts, who get caught up in some kinky and
dangerous political wranglings. You’ll find the provocative excerpt at the end of
Sixty-Nine
.
Remember, live your sexy dreams, responsibly!
Smooches,
Pynk
xoxo
Please visit me at
www.authorpynk.com
, where you will find my Facebook link as well as information regarding upcoming titles,
and feel free to sign my guestbook. My email address is
[email protected]
.
As I mentioned in my acknowledgments, while my previous title,
Sexaholics
, was about the oversexed, this title,
Sixty-Nine
, is about the undersexed.
Sixty-Nine
is not about the literal sexual position, 69; it is about three undersexed women, Magnolia, Rebe, and Darla, who were all
born in 1969, and who are about to turn the big 4-0. They are dissatisfied with their lives in general; more specifically,
when it comes to sex, they yearn to live their sexy dreams.
I watched
The Oprah Winfrey Show
a while back when she had as a guest a sex therapist named Dr. Laura Berman who talked about sexual problems in women. Some
women do not have orgasms and they fake it with their men, who are sometimes none the wiser because often those men tend to
get theirs, so that’s all he wrote. There are some women who have little, tiny, non-earth-shattering orgasms that don’t quite
live up to what they see in porno movies, or hear about from their sexual-creature-like friends. Some women get very close
to having the big O, but get stuck and hold back because of a thought that creeps into their heads that tells them they’re
trashy or slutty for feeling so good.
Orgasms are both physical and mental, and though some women really do have medical reasons that affect their libido and their
ability to experience an orgasm—usually involving their pelvic floor or blood flow, or as a side effect to certain medications—a
lot of women fall into the one basic sex trap that I feel so strongly about dispelling. The thought that we’ve bought into
from the time we were little,
that sex is dirty.
As some of you may know from reading my first Pynk book,
Erotic City
, that’s the main reason why I decided to write erotica, to hopefully educate through fiction.
While I definitely believe that moderation is key, because we must have boundaries and not run off hog wild, so to speak,
it is my desire to contribute in some way to the liberation of women and show all sides of sex, good and bad. But in the long
run, I hope my books encourage women to love their bodies and feel good about reading scenes that turn them on so tough they
can’t wait to get home and take care of themselves, and/or pounce on their mates. I hope my writing teaches women about what
healthy sex should be. Sometimes you learn that by reading about what healthy sex is not. To read erotica is not sinful, and
it is my desire that the guilt so many of us women feel will eventually be shattered to pieces.
We must learn to tell the truth about how we feel about sex and about what we think about sex, and figure out where those
bad thoughts came from. Also, as Milan Kennedy, the main character in
Erotic City
, stated, “Women have wet dreams, too.” We cannot be afraid to ask for what we want in and out of bed. We women are not second-class
citizens. Nor are we sex objects.
All in all, views about sex are sometimes deemed to be issues of morality, and issues of sexism.
I’d like women to learn to be what I call sex-see…seeing sex in a whole new way, mentally, visually, and physically.
After all, we are sensual and sexual beings. We are allowed to experience sexual pleasure. We have to let go of negative messages
about sex among consenting adults—negative messages that tell us sex is wrong. I believe we can make a conscious decision
to dispel those messages that breed guilt.
I’m talking about safe sex. Yes, there are prices to be paid relating to teen pregnancy and HIV, etc. You are responsible
for yourself. Make good decisions based on who you are. And take in the rest as learning tools. When in Rome, don’t necessarily
do as the Romans do, unless you think it’s the best decision for you. Most importantly, love yourself first.
If you are fearful and keep thinking you shouldn’t talk in bed or let go and enjoy your orgasm, ask yourself what it is that
you’re afraid of. We all had messages about sex when we were growing up. Most times, if sex was brought up, we were told it
was vulgar and not acceptable, especially when we were young girls. And we were told we shouldn’t talk about it. We got dressed
up and went to church, and the information we came away with was that sex should only be experienced for purposes of procreation.
I know that’s how my parents raised me, even though my mother was more liberated than most. Back then, parents who wanted
their daughters to remain virgins until marriage surely had good intentions, but the other side of the coin is to encourage safe sex because most of
the time, teens are going to do it anyway (I know I did), yet still feel guilty afterward, and that’s when, in my opinion,
the confusion starts. The more you tell someone they can’t do something, the more they want to do it, kind of like the Adam
and Eve theory. And from a biblical standpoint, it’s all about our own individual interpretations; however, that’s a different
conversation.
Now back to the orgasm!
:)
The sex therapist on
Oprah
said that when you’re about to experience your own orgasm, if you hold yourself back because of the negative voices from
your past, you will cheat yourself and disallow the erotic experience of a burst of a beautiful, euphoric, intense pleasure
rolling through your body that, from a physiological standpoint, can bond you to your partner just because of the pheromones
produced from the rush itself. That is a proven fact. I know there are some women who, even though they may not hear the negative
voices from the past, still hold back because the sensation is so strong they get scared and freeze up. I’m there with you.
I can
surely
understand that!
If you’re one of the many women who have repressed feelings about sex, and you feel you’re too frigid and rigid in bed, maybe
you need to think about what you can do to begin to let go of the embarrassing and shameful ties that bind. Refuse to carry
those old messages and voices in your head that tell you sex is lewd, immoral, and improper. If necessary, think in terms
of experiencing romance with your partner, as opposed to quickies, so that you can take the time to really excite yourself
and your mate. Take the time to talk about each other’s erogenous zones. Make foreplay last longer, starting with a sex text
early in the day. Tell yourself you deserve to be pleasured, that it’s good and loving, and that you’ll still be a nice girl
and a respectable lady in the morning. Remember: it’s women who ask men, “Will you respect me in the morning?” Why is it men
never ask women that?
Anyway, think in terms of nonmissionary, and feel free to masturbate healthily if you so desire. Masturbating in moderation
is not slutty either.
Train yourself to replace the outdated messages with new ones. It’s called a sexual adjustment. Remember, you are a sensual
and sexual woman, and you’re allowed to experience a happy and fulfilling sex life as a private, personal choice.
While you turn the pages to get to know the characters in
Sixty-Nine
as they struggle to escape from their undersexed worlds, keep in mind that these three coming-of-age women make conscious
decisions to explore erotic sides of themselves they never knew existed. I call it sexploration.
The bottom line is that
Sixty-Nine
is a liberating story about sisterhood and friendship, and about how our past experiences and beliefs can influence our views
about life, and about sex. How shame and dysfunction and abuse can keep us repressed. And how guilt can keep us from truly
viewing sex as a pleasurable act.
Sixty-Nine
is a novel about going beyond one’s self-inflicted boundaries to fully experience true sensuality. But, by taking these risks,
one never knows what lies on the other side of our comfort zones. The comfort zone that protected us from our fears of abandonment,
negative self-image, broken hearts, being seen as whorish, being rejected and ashamed. Feelings that meant we’d rather be
alone than intimate and vulnerable. Though it is true that in some cases, if one is irresponsible, one may find that some
things are better left alone.
So, my dear readers, please enjoy my girls, Magnolia, Rebe, and Darla as they find out what it’s like to go beyond the missionary,
and experience the erotic edge of a real-life sixty-nine.
