Authors: Editors of Reader's Digest
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A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he knows something.
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ILSON
M
IZNER
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Listen, or thy tongue will keep thee deaf.
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ATIVE
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MERICAN PROVERB
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No one really listens to anyone else. Try it for a while, and you'll see why.
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M
IGNON
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L
AUGHLIN
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Listening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story than both sides.
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F
RANK
T
YGER
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Sainthood emerges when you can listen to someone's tale of woe and not respond with a description of your own.
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A
NDREW
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ASON,
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Most people would rather defend to the death your right to say it than listen to it.
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R
OBERT
B
RAULT
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To entertain some people all you have to do is listen.
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B
ERNARD
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DINGER
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Two great talkers will not travel far together.
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PANISH PROVERB
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ILENCES MAKE THE REAL CONVERSATIONSÂ
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Silences make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying but the never needing to say is what counts.
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ARGARET
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UNBECK
Answer Without Ceasing
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Hospitality consists in a little fire, a little food and an immense quiet.
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R
ALPH
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ALDO
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MERSON
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In quiet places, reason abounds.
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DLAI
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TEVENSON
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Well-timed silence is the most commanding expression.
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M
ARK
H
ELPRIN
in
The Wall Street Journal
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There are times when silence has the loudest voice.
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L
EROY
B
ROWNLOW
Today Is Mine
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The time to stop talking is when the other person nods his head affirmatively but says nothing.
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H
ENRY
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H
ASKINS
Meditations in Wall Street
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The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.
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M
ARK
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WAIN
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He approaches nearest to the gods who knows how to be silent, even though he is in the right.
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C
ATO
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Silence is the unbearable repartee.
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HESTERTON
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Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute.
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J
OSH
B
ILLINGS
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Silence, along with modesty, is a great aid to conversation.
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M
ONTAIGNE
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Silence is the safety zone of conversation.
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A
RNOLD
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G
LASOW
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Silence is still a marvelous language that has few initiates.
âRoger Duhamel
Lettres à une Provinciale
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The most difficult thing in the world is to know how to do a thing and to watch someone else doing it wrong, without comment.
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T
HEODORE
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W
HITE
in
The Atlantic
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Tact is the rare ability to keep silent while two friends are arguing, and you know both of them are wrong.
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UGH
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LLEN
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Fools live to regret their words, wise men to regret their silence.
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ILL
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ENRY
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Some people talk because they think sound is more manageable than silence.
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M
ARGARET
H
ALSEY
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Blessed are they who have nothing to say and who cannot be persuaded to say it.
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J
AMES
R
USSELL
L
OWELL
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If you really want to keep a secret you don't need any help.
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ARPING
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Isn't it strange that we talk least about the things we think about most!
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HARLES
A. L
INDBERGH
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A secret is what you tell someone else not to tell because you can't keep it to yourself.
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L
EONARD
L
OUIS
L
EVINSON
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The vanity of being known to be entrusted with a secret is generally one of the chief motives to disclose it.
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AMUEL
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OHNSON
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None are so fond of secrets as those who do not mean to keep them.
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OLTON
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The knowledge that a secret exists is half of the secret.
âJ
OSHUA
M
EYROWITZ
No Sense of Place
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He who has a secret should not only hide it, but hide that he has it to hide.
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T
HOMAS
C
ARLYLE
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If you reveal your secrets to the wind, you should not blame the wind for revealing them to the trees.
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K
AHLIL
G
IBRAN
Sand and Foam
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No one keeps a secret better than he who ignores it.
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OUIS-
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F
ORTIN
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Another person's secret is like another person's money: you are not as careful with it as you are with your own.
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E
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H
OWE
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Have you noticed that these days even a moment of silence has to be accompanied by background music?
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Funny Funny World
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My personal hobbies are reading, listening to music and silence.
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DITH
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ITWELL
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I like the silent church before the service begins better than any preaching.
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R
ALPH
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ALDO
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MERSON
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Y EXPERT OPINIONÂ
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You can't always go by expert opinion. A turkey, if you ask a turkey, should be stuffed with grasshoppers, grit and worms.
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Changing Times
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The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water, and breeds reptiles of the mind.
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W
ILLIAM
B
LAKE
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Opinions should be formed with great cautionâand changed with greater.
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J
OSH
B
ILLINGS
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A leading authority is anyone who has guessed right more than once.
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F
RANK
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C
LARK
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It is only about things that do not interest one that one can give a really unbiased opinion, which is no doubt the reason why an unbiased opinion is always valueless.
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O
SCAR
W
ILDE
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We tolerate differences of opinion in people who are familiar to us. But differences of opinion in people we do not know sound like heresy or plots.
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B
ROOKS
A
TKINSON
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The function of the expert is not to be more right than other people, but to be wrong for more sophisticated reasons.
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D
AVID
B
UTLER
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An expert is someone called in at the last minute to share the blame.
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AM
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WING
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Mature Living
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Even when the experts all agree, they may well be mistaken.
âBertrand Russell
The Skeptical Essays
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Every man has a right to be wrong in his opinions. But no man has a right to be wrong in his facts.
âBernard Baruch
The Public Years
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It is easy enough to hold an opinion, but hard work to actually know what one is talking about.
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P
AUL
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F
ORD
Companion to Narnia
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Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.
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J
OHN
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K
ENNEDY
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The fewer the facts, the stronger the opinion.
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A
RNOLD
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LASOW
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The only thing worse than an expert is someone who thinks he's an expert.
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LY
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OLON
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A public-opinion poll is no substitute for thought.
âW
ARREN
B
UFFETT
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Public opinion is like the castle ghost; no one has ever seen it, but everyone is scared of it.
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IGMUND
G
RAFF
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Every conviction was a whim at birth.
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H
EYWOOD
B
ROUN
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Refusing to have an opinion is a way of having one, isn't it?
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UIGI
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IRANDELLO
Each in His Own Way
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Saying what we think gives a wider range of conversation than saying what we know.
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C
ULLEN
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IGHTOWER
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To disagree, one doesn't have to be disagreeable.
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ARRY
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OLDWATER WITH
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ACK
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ASSERLY
Goldwater
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There's a difference between opinion and conviction. My opinion is something that is true for me personally; my conviction is something that is true for everybodyâin my opinion.
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S
YLVIA
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ORDWOOD
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Every new opinion, at its starting, is precisely in a minority of one.
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HOMAS
C
ARLYLE
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I sometimes give myself admirable advice, but I am incapable of taking it.
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M
ARY
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ORTLEY
M
ONTAGU
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To profit from good advice requires more wisdom than to give it.
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J
OHN
C
HURTON
C
OLLINS
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You don't need to take a person's advice to make him feel goodâjust ask for it.
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L
AURENCE
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ETER
Peter's Almanac
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A knife of the keenest steel requires the whetstone, and the wisest man needs advice.
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OROASTER
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Advice is an uncertain gift.
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HITNEY
J
EFFERY
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Expert advice is a great comfort, even when it's wrong.
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LLEN
C
URRIE
in
The New York Times
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When we ask for advice, we are usually looking for an accomplice.
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ARQUIS DE
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G
RANGE
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Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
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E
RICA
J
ONG
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Most of us ask for advice when we know the answer but want a different one.
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I
VERN
B
ALL
in
National Enquirer
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Express an opinion, but send advice by freight.
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C
HARLES
C
LARK
M
UNN
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Good advice usually works best when preceded by a bad scare.
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L
B
ATT
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Of the few innocent pleasures left to men past middle life, the jamming of common sense down the throats of fools is perhaps the keenest.